Hi Reboot Nation -
You guys are truly a LIFELINE for me. I was(/am) feeling totally worthless. I was hopeless that I would ever heal. Then I saw Reboot Nation. I saw that I'm not alone - that was hugely helpful. And having an actionable plan for recovery is even better.
On that note...I have a few questions as a new rebooter (day 2 lol). (I tried to look through the comments but could not find the answers I sought.)
1. P-subs are not ok, right? It's insanely difficult - I look around at all the attractive women around me all day and I just a) feel like shit and b) feel like I want to jerk off.
2. I'm married, and not sure how to navigate having sex with my wife. She wants to have sex, but I won't be able to come/ejaculate (what's the right term) PIV without thinking of someone else. Should I help her O? Should she vibrate herself? I can abstain from sex but don't want to deprive her...
3. What are good resources describing what to do in the recovery period? It's way too overwhelming to go through all the links - I tried reading a couple but couldn't find a good guide. Help, please?
Thank you!
PS - biographical info: I'm 26 y/o; was a virgin until married at 24; PMO about 1/week since 12; huge amount of shame (very religious upbringing - and currently practicing)
You guys are truly a LIFELINE for me. I was(/am) feeling totally worthless. I was hopeless that I would ever heal. Then I saw Reboot Nation. I saw that I'm not alone - that was hugely helpful. And having an actionable plan for recovery is even better.
On that note...I have a few questions as a new rebooter (day 2 lol). (I tried to look through the comments but could not find the answers I sought.)
1. P-subs are not ok, right? It's insanely difficult - I look around at all the attractive women around me all day and I just a) feel like shit and b) feel like I want to jerk off.
2. I'm married, and not sure how to navigate having sex with my wife. She wants to have sex, but I won't be able to come/ejaculate (what's the right term) PIV without thinking of someone else. Should I help her O? Should she vibrate herself? I can abstain from sex but don't want to deprive her...
3. What are good resources describing what to do in the recovery period? It's way too overwhelming to go through all the links - I tried reading a couple but couldn't find a good guide. Help, please?
Thank you!
PS - biographical info: I'm 26 y/o; was a virgin until married at 24; PMO about 1/week since 12; huge amount of shame (very religious upbringing - and currently practicing)