aslowturning
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At 53 I'm done with hyperbole and big promises with regard to this issue that has consumed me for most of my adult life. It is the all too common trajectory of Playboys to VCRs to the internet. I can see that my issues extend back to before I ever looked a a porn image. I have fooled and lied to myself (and others) I have pushed people and rewarding situations away. I've more often than not chosen to wank in a fantasy world rather than build relationships or work on self improvement. I've been on other anti porn support sites and posted a bunch of BS. I've been to therapy, twelve step groups I still struggle. I think the longest I've ever gone without PMO is somewhere between 60 and 90 days and I want to say that was about 10 years ago. That was definitely an outlying time period. Since the age of 25 I'd have to say my average was a week. It of course is never a hit and run thing either. I've lost days and months in the the grip of this malady.
I've been married for 25 years have 4 kids and am well liked. People think I'm good looking (for a old man). I work in a helping profession and really enjoy what I do. As with most helping professions it does not pay the best. I have been a stay at home dad for 10+ years in the past, and have been supportive of my very smart and driven wife. I'm socially awkward and sexually repressed (in real life). I probably have some social anxiety. I've struggled with long bouts of depression and have used porn to medicate myself. I have let down the people that I love because of my pre-occupation with porn. I have missed a lot in life, being physically present but somewhere else in my mind. I could have been so much more "I could have been someone. I could have been a contender" Thank you Marlon Brando. I could not resist that.
I have a lot of tools in the kit to fight this rank thing. I have have just chosen not to use them. I just M'd to P a half hour ago. The familiar feeling of regret, knowing right now that it is all a lie. In a couple hours or days or maybe even weeks I'll forget that. That is where this journal comes in.
I'm going to use this to remember that it is all a lie. I'm going to try to be helpful in this internet community too. My user name and the title of this journal is A Slow Turning. It has been slow. I need to speed things up a bit. Tomorrow I will begin a 100 day reboot. No Fap is the term I believe. I will only O in relations with my wife. I am fortunate that at my age with as much porning as I have done I don't have ED and I have a beautiful wife who deserves all of me. She knows that I have used P but she has not caught me in awhile. She is left with knowing that there is something wrong although we do have some right things between us too. She has no idea how far in the abyss I've been.
Anyway, tomorrow I begin and in the right spirit I'm not going to binge out today!
Thats what I got today.
I've been married for 25 years have 4 kids and am well liked. People think I'm good looking (for a old man). I work in a helping profession and really enjoy what I do. As with most helping professions it does not pay the best. I have been a stay at home dad for 10+ years in the past, and have been supportive of my very smart and driven wife. I'm socially awkward and sexually repressed (in real life). I probably have some social anxiety. I've struggled with long bouts of depression and have used porn to medicate myself. I have let down the people that I love because of my pre-occupation with porn. I have missed a lot in life, being physically present but somewhere else in my mind. I could have been so much more "I could have been someone. I could have been a contender" Thank you Marlon Brando. I could not resist that.
I have a lot of tools in the kit to fight this rank thing. I have have just chosen not to use them. I just M'd to P a half hour ago. The familiar feeling of regret, knowing right now that it is all a lie. In a couple hours or days or maybe even weeks I'll forget that. That is where this journal comes in.
I'm going to use this to remember that it is all a lie. I'm going to try to be helpful in this internet community too. My user name and the title of this journal is A Slow Turning. It has been slow. I need to speed things up a bit. Tomorrow I will begin a 100 day reboot. No Fap is the term I believe. I will only O in relations with my wife. I am fortunate that at my age with as much porning as I have done I don't have ED and I have a beautiful wife who deserves all of me. She knows that I have used P but she has not caught me in awhile. She is left with knowing that there is something wrong although we do have some right things between us too. She has no idea how far in the abyss I've been.
Anyway, tomorrow I begin and in the right spirit I'm not going to binge out today!
Thats what I got today.