WHAT DO I DO I NEED REASSURANCE IM NOT LIKING THIS IM SCARED

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13yearsoldandruined

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My penis is still extrememly soft and flaccid cant flex my flaccid. Feels dead and empty inside. Erections dont feel like what they used to be. My penis feels dead is my main concern, im so scared i cried in the shower on how dead my penis feels and is. I feel like im in a permanent state. I just want to be put out of my misery now. Its so depressing, penis feels like a dead rubber hose. Or sponge. Im so scared about this i just want to be normal again. I dont like this PMO life and i never want to do it again. Please tell me whats going on!!!!
 
getagrip

getagrip

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Wow, you're only 13? You have amazing maturity to come to this forum and post. Good for you! Unfortunately I am pretty new here myself and am a LOT older than you (66). I am sure others will respond to your post better than I can, but at your age, I would imagine your brain and limbic systems are very plastic and flexible and I bet you will be back to your normal self soon. From what I've read, it's the guys who have been watching porn for 5, 10, 20 years who are in real trouble, because their brains have been damaged by so much excess dopamine. Hang in there and try to find a mentor on here who has more information than I do. In any case, you are very smart to be recognizing your problem early while it can still be relatively easily fixed.
 
E45

E45

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When I gave up porn I found the words "dead inside" (which you used above) to accurately describe my feelings for the first two months. And yes, your dick will feel limp and lifeless.

Unless you are ill - and you probably aren't if you've been wanking to porn this year - then you just need to have faith and be patient. Your brain will be able to heal itself if you stay away from porn. It does take time, but at the age of 13 your brain will respond really quickly. Don't expect to see any miracles in the first month though.
 
getagrip

getagrip

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Have a sit-down with someone. If not your father, then some other trusted adult male. Don't embarrassed-- I can guarantee that no matter who you talk to has looked at porn, too!
 
pearland71

pearland71

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It's not that I don't want to help it's just.......he's 13. Awfully young and I doubt he can truly comprehend what his brain is going through.
 
getagrip

getagrip

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But he was smart enough to find this forum and brave enough to post. Give him some credit for that. I think he's going to be OK? Right, 13ruined? You are not ruined! You can do this!
 
enzomartins

enzomartins

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You're very young, this is nothing, it's probably psychologic. Chill out and wait for another couple of weeks with no pmo and you'll be alright.
 
pearland71

pearland71

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I'm not questioning his intelligence. I'm not sure it's even LEGAL for (us) grown men chatting with a 13 year old about sexual dysfunction.
 
getagrip

getagrip

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This discussion is not arousing or titillating in any sense. We are trying to help a young fellow and I see nothing wrong with it. Back off a little, guys, and maybe he'll come back with an update.
 
getagrip

getagrip

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Hey 13,

I'm glad you came back to the forum with an update-- hadn't heard from you in awhile. It would help if you could give some more info about how things have been going and what, if any techniques you are using to try to recover. There's lots of help and support here and there are always professionals who can help. Have you had any success in talking to an adult about the porn problem? Who are some adults you might be able to talk to? Your dad? A trusted uncle? An older cousin? I think you are old enough to request a private meeting with your personal doctor, but unfortunately a lot of doctors are very poorly informed about P.I.E.D.  How about getting an accountability partner here on this forum, maybe among the younger men? My point is this: none of us escape this demon on our own. It seems you have been trying for maybe 9 or 10 months on your with no apparent success, so I see no reason to think you are going to have any success in the future if you continue to try to do this alone. Please think about what resources are available to you, including this forum. I can't remember who said this, maybe it was Einstein, and I am sure you have heard it before: "The definition of insanity is doing the same things over and over again and expecting different results."

You are courageous to come back to the forum. Give us an update when you get a moment.
 
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13yearsoldandruined

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getagrip said:
Hey 13,

I'm glad you came back to the forum with an update-- hadn't heard from you in awhile. It would help if you could give some more info about how things have been going and what, if any techniques you are using to try to recover. There's lots of help and support here and there are always professionals who can help. Have you had any success in talking to an adult about the porn problem? Who are some adults you might be able to talk to? Your dad? A trusted uncle? An older cousin? I think you are old enough to request a private meeting with your personal doctor, but unfortunately a lot of doctors are very poorly informed about P.I.E.D.  How about getting an accountability partner here on this forum, maybe among the younger men? My point is this: none of us escape this demon on our own. It seems you have been trying for maybe 9 or 10 months on your with no apparent success, so I see no reason to think you are going to have any success in the future if you continue to try to do this alone. Please think about what resources are available to you, including this forum. I can't remember who said this, maybe it was Einstein, and I am sure you have heard it before: "The definition of insanity is doing the same things over and over again and expecting different results."

You are courageous to come back to the forum. Give us an update when you get a moment.
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My longest streak was about 1 and a half months and there was little improvement. I told my older cousin but he had no idea what happened. In fact he thinks its totally normal to masturbate but he doesnt do it bevause of a condition he has. and thanks for talking to me @getagrip
 
getagrip

getagrip

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Well, I give you credit for at least trying to talk to your cousin. But I still think you need some support from one or more other people. If you can't think of any other adults you might try talking to, then I suggest you use this forum to get an accountability partner, perhaps someone young enough you can relate to. It doesn't have to be in the form of a journal, it could be just exchanging PM's on a regular basis.
 
Pr3c1se

Pr3c1se

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Best reassurance is to read success stories. .... Realize what you're going through is not unique.  It has happened to millions of men.  You're not alone in your "freak out".  Just know that if you do the right things (don't test your dick), then things will get better!  Just trust the process, and when you forget about that trust, go read more success stories.


It's hard to "go to your father"... because most fathers have NEVER been through anything like this.  This is a millennial issue.  chances are your friends are in the same boat, just saying.

Feel free to hit me up with PM's if you have questions or just need someone to talk to!
 
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