What do men do? If women are turning to porn to survive even when women are more likely to graduate college, more likely to be hired and even out-earning men in some professions, what happens to the men who don't have this option?
I have always sort of sympathized more with women, call it paternal instinct if you like, and whenever I see a woman that even looks like she might not be enjoying what she is doing, my instinct is to jump to her aid.
I was having a conversation with my wife about this recently, discussing why I want to stop watching porn, and she told me that from her point of view there are actually more men in desperate situations with little sympathy and even less support. She really just wants my me to be able to get hard again, and thinks my moral objections to porn are silly, I still disagree with her and feel that porn is morally wrong, but she does kind of have a point.
It hadn't occurred to me that while sex work may be degrading and dangerous, it is at least a high paying option that a woman can turn to, and that's only if she doesn't qualify for welfare programs of which there are more available to women. What would a man do in a similar position? Even if a man does turn to porn he's going to be making a lot less. Perhaps the percentage of homeless men vs homeless women tells part of the story?
I'm still sympathetic to women, and I don't think anyone should be forced to work in porn out of desperation, but I'm starting to realize that I had never even taken the time to extend the same sympathy to men. I feel as though we have this tendency as men to look out for women first, throughout history good men have always put women first. While I think women certainly do care (my wife is a shining example), it sometimes seems like she is in the minority, most women seem to be focused more on women's issues, which makes sense to some degree, but not when it is at the expense of mens rights and freedoms.
So I guess I've sort of had my eyes opened a bit, it seems as though women are doing better and better these days, but men are getting left behind. If we prioritize support for women over support for men, is that really fighting for equality?
My wife encouraged me to put these thoughts out there, to encourage other men to perhaps do some thinking on whether we might be sacrificing to much of our own rights and freedoms and putting woman on a pedestal.
I have always sort of sympathized more with women, call it paternal instinct if you like, and whenever I see a woman that even looks like she might not be enjoying what she is doing, my instinct is to jump to her aid.
I was having a conversation with my wife about this recently, discussing why I want to stop watching porn, and she told me that from her point of view there are actually more men in desperate situations with little sympathy and even less support. She really just wants my me to be able to get hard again, and thinks my moral objections to porn are silly, I still disagree with her and feel that porn is morally wrong, but she does kind of have a point.
It hadn't occurred to me that while sex work may be degrading and dangerous, it is at least a high paying option that a woman can turn to, and that's only if she doesn't qualify for welfare programs of which there are more available to women. What would a man do in a similar position? Even if a man does turn to porn he's going to be making a lot less. Perhaps the percentage of homeless men vs homeless women tells part of the story?
I'm still sympathetic to women, and I don't think anyone should be forced to work in porn out of desperation, but I'm starting to realize that I had never even taken the time to extend the same sympathy to men. I feel as though we have this tendency as men to look out for women first, throughout history good men have always put women first. While I think women certainly do care (my wife is a shining example), it sometimes seems like she is in the minority, most women seem to be focused more on women's issues, which makes sense to some degree, but not when it is at the expense of mens rights and freedoms.
So I guess I've sort of had my eyes opened a bit, it seems as though women are doing better and better these days, but men are getting left behind. If we prioritize support for women over support for men, is that really fighting for equality?
My wife encouraged me to put these thoughts out there, to encourage other men to perhaps do some thinking on whether we might be sacrificing to much of our own rights and freedoms and putting woman on a pedestal.
