Started the reboot

Hi everyone,

I am very new to this. I started my reboot (no porn/fap) October 14 I've been clean for one week. The reason I started this reboot is because whenever I am with a girl I couldn't keep an erection let alone finish the job. I'm sure I have some sort of underlying anxiety issues which i am currently seeing a therapist about. Most of it I believe is porn induced ed. I remember when I was about 15 if I saw a naked girl I would be aroused very quickly. I am 18 now and if i see a naked girl I feel no sense of arousal. It is very unfortunate because all my friends do not understand what I am going through. It has been very difficult. I've been made fun of by some of my friends and the girls that I've been with.

If anyone has some suggestions or has any idea about the problems i've been having feel free to reply anything would be great. Thanks!

You're doing everything right if you're not looking at porn. No masturbation speeds up the process and even avoiding orgasm for a certain period of time when having sex or with a partner can be helpful also.

If you're already not I would recommend you begin mindfulness meditation and exercise. Both have been shown to increase dopamine receptors in the brain which will help a lot with any mental issues you may run into and could possibly help speed up the reboot too. Mindfulness will help you be able to become a witness to negative experience and emotions rather than get corrupted by them. Exercise will help increase general mood, motivation and will help blow off negative steam.

As for your friends and these girls laughing at you... They are ignorant, any guy that laughs at another guys sexual problems is simply not a nice person. As for the women they're probably shielding themselves because they don't want to bare the idea of them possibly being unattractive, which isn't a bad thing because we all like to have nice thoughts about ourselves. It's not their fault and it's not exactly yours either, you didn't watch porn knowing one day it would cause ED. At the end of the day I believe it's nothing more than ignorance, you have to be the better person and forgive them and perhaps find new people to hangout with

Goodluck. It's great that you've made it your first week clean, but STAY VIGILANT. It's not uncommon for people to go 6+ months without porn and then relapse.