Edit: I talk a lot about polyamory in this post. In hind sight, I realize that what I really meant to criticize was the sexual revolution movement in general. I don't care what people do in their own homes and who they do it with. I don't support or endorse that lifestyle, but people can do what they like. But don't put it online!!!
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I understand the outrage but I have to agree with Finwe and Gracie, combining their statements and saying why not get upset about promiscuous people? I've read and watched a documentary or two about the complexities of the porn industry, with its inequalities and how producers tend to attract women and men from lower socioeconomic areas. It is very sad.
But, and this is a bit BUT!!! Trigger Warning
The internet has truly democratized the porn phenomenon. I eventually moved away from major porn producers and gravitated toward Reddit for the "girl next door" vibe it provided.
And the thing about this new phenomenon is that you can't really say these people don't know what they are doing when they take nudes or film themselves having sex and post it online. It is a lot harder to imagine they have some sob story, the way most porn actresses do.
It is a lot harder to see anything but sex obsessed, overly promiscuous, people with no morals. Notice I said people here (men also post explicit content on Reddit).
I try not to be controversial on the main board here, but I feel that the journals are spaces for us to navigate our personal journeys and should be free for self expression. I know that on a few of my own I have vented and expressed myself in ways I can't in other spaces. That self expression is important. I am very much counter culture in a lot of ways. I am an atheist and also a socialist, but these days a lot of ideas are called counter culture when they are just bad ideas. I guess I am just old fashioned when it comes to how you navigate adult life and build a family, with two adults and whatever dependents you want to bring into your life. I am very much against polyamory and other lifestyles, both philosophically and personally. And I feel that the journals should be a safe place to express this.
In my daily life (IRL) almost every one I know and associate with is old fashioned, being into monogamy when dating or wanting to settle down eventually, so I really do not believe that polyamory is as big as the media really wants us to think. I feel it is a really tiny movement, if you can even call it that.
That said, I think that the main board should be a space where people feel safe to contribute ideas and speak. But that requires both the freedom of expression and empathy and understanding for others.
I have to say that if I ever met a swinger or polyamorous person in real life I would run the hell out of the room. I would be pretty drastically repelled. My reboot has only made my opinions on sexuality stronger, which makes me feel that this is just a value system that is really important to me.
I am pretty sure I am not alone.
So, while I think we should be wary of threads that exist only to dehumanize women, there should always be room for people to vent and be nostalgic for the good old days when people dated and love meant something.
I'll shut my trap now.
Rich