Remington.22
Member
Hi Everyone, while I'm not new to the forum I've been decidedly absentee since first joining/posting.
A strange thing happened, (at least I think it strange). I intended to be a regular here b/c I assumed I'd need the support & comradery in this journey - but I haven't. Which is selfish, I know, but its honestly why I've been scarce. April 8 was the last time I viewed any form of porn, decided 'enough' and I haven't been back since. Its weird in that this hasn't been nearly as hard as I'd assumed it would be. I haven't relapsed, haven't really wanted to look at porn again & am sailing along on quite smooth waters. I dunno, given the struggles and relapses others report (& that I expected) I almost feel...guilty. I haven't completely given up fap as that wasn't my commitment to myself, but I've cut way down. Sometimes the "I can never view porn again - ever" thought pops in and is a bit intimidating, but it passes or I beat it back and then I'm fine.
You've read my testimony countless times if you've been here for a while. Married, kids, 50'ish, started porn as a teenager on magazines (pre-internet) & 40 years later...still hooked. I'm married to my 1st wife & while she's busted me a few times over the decades (inevitable) I've basically been able to successfully lie and cover up.
So this weekend is going to be "the reveal" talk. We have a kid-less getaway scheduled & I'm going to use the opportunity to tell her the full monty. Our sex life is lackluster. A part of that I know is my addiction, but another part is her being menopausal & that's not going great + she's just not the sexual, sensual type. That's another struggle and conversation for another day, but I'm thinking/hoping/believing that this reveal will break off some of the ice.
I'll report back. If you're given to prayer please lift me/us up in yours for a fruitful outcome this weekend.
blessings,
twd
A strange thing happened, (at least I think it strange). I intended to be a regular here b/c I assumed I'd need the support & comradery in this journey - but I haven't. Which is selfish, I know, but its honestly why I've been scarce. April 8 was the last time I viewed any form of porn, decided 'enough' and I haven't been back since. Its weird in that this hasn't been nearly as hard as I'd assumed it would be. I haven't relapsed, haven't really wanted to look at porn again & am sailing along on quite smooth waters. I dunno, given the struggles and relapses others report (& that I expected) I almost feel...guilty. I haven't completely given up fap as that wasn't my commitment to myself, but I've cut way down. Sometimes the "I can never view porn again - ever" thought pops in and is a bit intimidating, but it passes or I beat it back and then I'm fine.
You've read my testimony countless times if you've been here for a while. Married, kids, 50'ish, started porn as a teenager on magazines (pre-internet) & 40 years later...still hooked. I'm married to my 1st wife & while she's busted me a few times over the decades (inevitable) I've basically been able to successfully lie and cover up.
So this weekend is going to be "the reveal" talk. We have a kid-less getaway scheduled & I'm going to use the opportunity to tell her the full monty. Our sex life is lackluster. A part of that I know is my addiction, but another part is her being menopausal & that's not going great + she's just not the sexual, sensual type. That's another struggle and conversation for another day, but I'm thinking/hoping/believing that this reveal will break off some of the ice.
I'll report back. If you're given to prayer please lift me/us up in yours for a fruitful outcome this weekend.
blessings,
twd