AnonymousAnnaXO
Active Member
I have a question to ask partners and PA's. My partner, when I tell him about the things he used to do, especially when we began dating, he doesn't see what I say as himself. To him it seems like a different person did those things. He says it's hard to imagine him being that way comparing himself to who he is now.
I do see a huge change in him, a good change. It just threw me off when we were talking about the past and he asked me if he really did those things to me (i.e. instagram porn girls and scrolling through and liking them in front of me when I said that was unacceptable, or commenting on naked women on tv when I made clear how uncomfortable I was and he continued, etc.). He honestly can't believe that he was "immature and disrespectful" (his words) to me like that and he couldn't imagine doing that to me now.
Has any partner experienced the PA not relating to the person they were when using porn? Or PA's have you experienced that? I was just curious of more people felt that way.
I do see a huge change in him, a good change. It just threw me off when we were talking about the past and he asked me if he really did those things to me (i.e. instagram porn girls and scrolling through and liking them in front of me when I said that was unacceptable, or commenting on naked women on tv when I made clear how uncomfortable I was and he continued, etc.). He honestly can't believe that he was "immature and disrespectful" (his words) to me like that and he couldn't imagine doing that to me now.
Has any partner experienced the PA not relating to the person they were when using porn? Or PA's have you experienced that? I was just curious of more people felt that way.