recovering Hard mode no fap with girlfriend,need some answers!

hello there guys,1 month and 14 days no fap,no porn,no orgams,but regularly had sex with my girlfriend without cumming..I have 2 big questions in mind
is having sex going to slow me down even if I abstain from cumming? Because of the fact that I'm really sensitive,everytime she touches me or just she gives me a gentle handjob or blowjob I feel like I'm going to cum in 3 seconds,of course I stop,but..is this like some type of edging? is this going to slow my recovery down?(the same thing goes when I'm have vaginal sex with her)
thanks for helping me out!

If you are able to have sex with your gf, what is the exact problem you have?

Strange trap, futa, tranny fetish that I don't like, Also sex is good but it feels not right, like I am not feeling the most out of it

It's the information I'm looking for as well.

Then, I'd say go have sex and orgasms. But do not bring fetish stuff into the bedroom. See what it does to you and how it affects you.

I am rebooting with a girlfriend. Goal is to O from intercourse. IMO, edging with a person can be harmful. Speaking for myself, I want to be cognitively and emotionally present. I want be in the moment without another agenda. In my experience, edging, mentally trying not to O, was a distraction. I wonder if this contributes to ED. I welcome feedback.

Thank you guys really a Lot! Did you think that accidentally edging could have set me back? I'll try to stay away from it even though.. Seriously just 3 touch and I could ejaculate ahha

This is the first day I entered to start reading posts. And your post matches the current issue 
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Yeah like for a while I thought that those tranny fetishes were a part of me, but I never was able to accept this side of me, I just didn't enjoy to fap to that kind of porn, but it felt more intense comparing to vanilla porn, even sex felt like not as good as it should be, I'm into no porn no orgasm since 1 month and 18 days and I feel that sex is getting intense the more I abstain from porn/ejaculation, but the tranny stuff is going away slowly