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A couple questions I wanted to ask for sucessful rebooters. i just wanted to know when did to you begin to introduce orgasm with a partner into your reboot im about 81 days in and only one mo session around day 12. I been completely abstaining from all O im still in somewhat of a flatline i dont feel libido or desire but i did have flashes while rewiring with my long distance gf i wanted to try but i dont wanna O and send myself further into flatline. Can u heal with Os from your gf slowly introducing them or does everything have to be karezza style i feel like my gf will find a bit weird i dont wanna bust a nut. She knows of my problem as well i told her some medication screwed me up and i need time to heal shes been supportive

My husband and I had sex for roughly 9 months of his reboot.  Not always penetration as his erections were hit or miss.  After 9 months my husband was very frustrated and abstained from orgasm for 8 weeks.  We still had sex every day for those 8 weeks just no intercourse or orgasms for him.  His erections came back 100% after that.  He completely rewired. 

I think it's important to rewire to the real thing first and foremost so even if you decide not to O keep having sex.  If you do O I really don't think it's a big deal.  The point really is to stay away from porn and rewire with a woman.  Every person is different and people have had success with different techniques.

I have a long distance gf. The first time we met, we tried having sex for a week. I had P.I.ED. It was heaven (meeting her, being with her) and hell (P.I.-fucking-ED) at the same time.

We met again after a month. I was loaded up on ED drugs (combination of 20mg Cialis and 100mg Viagra - full pornstar swinger doseage). After three days of trying and frustration, I suddenly had a moment of real horniness, got half-hard and managed to have sex. I came after 10 seconds. LOL

I never stopped the orgasms with my gf after that, except for the times when we had to part in our long distance thing. Sure in the beginning my refraction period lasted forever, my erections were weak, my libido crashed after an O. But all that got gradually better with time - in fact every time I see her, I have improved.

My now, I could have one orgasm per day, can have sex without ED drugs (when my libido is high), don't fall into a flatline after an O from sex.

does everything have to be karezza style

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No. The thing you need to keep an eye on is orgasm frequency, not the style of sex you are having. Orgasms from sex can cause a flatline, greatly reduced libido. I experienced this myself, so I took care to only orgasm after about three days for a while (though I'd still have sex every day, sometimes several times a day). Both me and my gf like the sex to be intense and bordering on rough, we'd actually get bored if it would be only karezza style.

The question is of course, if the quality of your erection even allows you to have rougher sex. Also you have to learn to not-orgasm during it, which many guys have a hard time doing. My sensitivity is still a little impaired, but that actually helps with the rough sex.

Then there is the thing, that Karezza is supposed to re-teach you to connect with your partner and be in the moment, which many porn addicts have a problem with, since they have been alienated from real sex. But if you have no problems with that (I am extremely in the moment during the rough sex), there is no rule that requires you to only stay with that kind of sex.

@Mart71

Lets say I get to a point where my erections are great and i'm having sex with someone a few times per week. No problems for about a month. Can increased rate of orgasms send me back to hell? I mean after im healed is there still a risk to come back to pied (wo porn ofc)

In my experience, you can slowly increase the amount and frequency of orgasms over the months. Different guys report different experiences regarding this. Some feel, it sets them back a lot (back to hell) - for me, it is more like a little flatline, a strongly decreased desire for sex. Which I know I will come out of sooner or later. I could only adivise to simply listen to your body regarding this and experiment.

This might not be related. I recently had to part with my long distance gf for a month, during which I started a regular progressive resistance training program. When she returned, my horniness was high and I orgasmed more frequently (one per day). None of the orgasms I had caused a mini-flatline, even though just five weeks before just two within 12 hours did send me in a several week long lbido-flatline.

But I can't say it HAS to have been the training. It might have been the one month abstinence or just the point of my recovery at that time anyway.

My husband went through a period where he had difficulty having sex more than 4x a week.  Now at the 1.5 year mark his libido is much higher and he wants sex every day.  He finds that orgasms do not effect him anymore like they used to.

I did not set a time table to introduce orgasms.
My lovely assistant would sorta test the waters every now and again to see if I get turned on.
My PIED was so bad, i didn't even want to kiss 
Had no interest so you can imagine how she felt when we did that and then some all the
time as do most normal couples.
So why am I not interested anymore?
All my research lead me to rebooting and why I'm on this forum.
So back to orgasms;
I pretty much accepted any type of sex so long as I had a hard on.
But only if I was hard. Not her trying to jerk me off or suck me until
I get hard. Because it will stress you out even more when that's
not working, trust me. So if I do get the occasional hard on, I would
put her hand on my crotch. And then, it was on like donkey kong!  8)

At first, I wasn't getting hard enough to go deep inside.
And at that time during the reboot, I developed some anxiety
so intercourse was out.
But blowjobs were in!  8)
So she was sucking away and of course, busted all kinds of nuts.

Eventually, I would make strides to the point where I am now and
that I am back at normal intercourse. I'm still not out of the woods
though as my erections are not at level 10. And just because I
can have sex again, doesn't mean I'm not fighting the urge to
jerk off to porn. I'm still fighting the good fight and I strongly
suggest that you do the same.