ok, a shorter post; and a few questions about rebooting

Pierce

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Ok i realized how monstrously big my previous post was and how nobody would've wanted to read that, so here's a shorter version with my questions:

Hi everyone,im 25 years old, with a girlfriend and i have a "light" porn induced ED problem and currently just started rebooting a few days ago (no masturbation), but i havent watched porn in 3 months.

Just a couple of questions:

1.- From the moment i started dating i havent been able to get an erection without a lot "help" form her (a lot of stimulation) and i have been "forcing" sex with her, i think i should stop doing that NOW, but, if i get a natural, easy erection without her help should i go for it? Should i try to have sex with her if i can get hard purely on my own?

2.- Two months ago or something, i stopped masturbating alogether for an entire month (didnt masturbate a single time), but after i actually tried to have sex with her, i got an erection very easily but ended up coming really fast.
Has this happened to any of you guys? should i be worried that this method restores my erections but makes a premature ejaculator?

3.- Has any of you ever taken some vitamins and natural suplements for this?  I have heard about the wonders of Vitamin B3 (Niacin), gingseng, gingko biloba for threating erectile disfunction:

http://www.livescience.com/15657-vitamin-improves-erectile-dysfunction.html
http://virilityprotocol.com/gingko-biloba-effective-treatment-for-sexual-dysfunction/

I mean, vitamin B3 is essential for your body, among other uses is necessary for synthetizing sexual hormones, so if you depleted this vitamin and the hormones it produces by masturbating,  it makes sense that you can get your erections back once you get the levels of that vitamin back to normal? thoughts on that? experiences?

Thank you in advance.
 

Gabe Deem

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@ Pierce
im 25 years old, with a girlfriend and i have a "light" porn induced ED problem and currently just started rebooting a few days ago (no masturbation), but i havent watched porn in 3 months.

First I want to congratulate you on 3 months.. that is awesome good job and keep going with the reboot! Now to your questions -

1.- From the moment i started dating i haven't been able to get an erection without a lot "help" form her (a lot of stimulation) and i have been "forcing" sex with her, i think i should stop doing that NOW, but, if i get a natural, easy erection without her help should i go for it? Should i try to have sex with her if i can get hard purely on my own?

Yes, if you get a natural erection easily I'd advise going for it. However, you might want to stay away from orgasm for a period of time, like a few weeks or months simply because this has been said to speed up rebooting. On the same note, if you are having to "force" erections and you cannot easily become aroused it is a good idea to give yourself more time. The only time forcing an erection would be a good idea would be for long term rebooters who have not seen progress.

2.- Two months ago or something, i stopped masturbating alogether for an entire month (didnt masturbate a single time), but after i actually tried to have sex with her, i got an erection very easily but ended up coming really fast.
Has this happened to any of you guys? should i be worried that this method restores my erections but makes a premature ejaculator?

Perfectly normal to ejaculate quick after a long period of abstinence and yes this is very common when coming out of a reboot. The good news is, it tends to go away and many rebooters have reported that reboots actually cured their PE problems. I experienced premature ejaculation coming out of the reboot. But with practice of slow gentle sex I was able to train my body to last much longer. You should not be worried, you will just have to train yourself to stay calm and make love slowly. As more frequent sex happens it shouldn't be a problem. No longer an issue for me even when I go a while without an orgasm. Just give it time.

3.- Has any of you ever taken some vitamins and natural suplements for this?

Many guys have tried everything there is, and nothing works besides rebooting for guys with PIED. It is important to realize that porn induced ED is porn induced. Many guys have been to several doctors, including myself, and experts only to be told we are perfectly healthy. Most guys with porn-induced ED can masturbate just fine with porn on, and even ejaculate several times if they wanted to. However, without porn they cannot maintain an erection. The point is this. Turning on porn does not make any hormonal problems one might have go away, or blood flow problems, AND it is not anxiety because a guy is not nervous when trying to masturbate by himself.

Porn on = erection. No porn on = no erection.

Now with that said vitamins and overall eating healthy and exercise may help, but if a guy has porn induced ED that is a brain wiring problem. The only thing that will fix that is rebooting. I was a perfectly healthy 23 year old who could only get it up to porn. Even Viagra and Cialis had no effect on me.

My advice is to just eat healthy, and avoid porn. Stay patient it sounds like you are well on your way my man.

Welcome to the Nation.
 

Pierce

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It is important to realize that porn induced ED is porn induced. Many guys have been to several doctors, including myself, and experts only to be told we are perfectly healthy. Most guys with porn-induced ED can masturbate just fine with porn on, and even ejaculate several times if they wanted to. However, without porn they cannot maintain an erection. The point is this. Turning on porn does not make any hormonal problems one might have go away, or blood flow problems, AND it is not anxiety because a guy is not nervous when trying to masturbate by himself.

Porn on = erection. No porn on = no erection.

Ok, i think i have to clarify something. Porn for me, was never an issue, i quit porn three months ago but that was WAY before i knew about this whole rebooting process, i just got myself a girlfriend and thought to my self "ok, time to quit this bullshit".

I wasnt hard for me to leave it, and i havent experienced any cravings or anxiety on porn, none.

My problem is that, WITH OR WITHOUT porn, i CANT GET erections unless i manually stimulate myself. Ok that's probably wrong, i CAN get erections, but really weak ones that dont last for long, and that need to be constantly "taken care of" for them not to go away. I get erections during sex (sometimes), during the morning (again, sometimes) while fantasizing about my girl, etc.

A month or so ago my girl and i were in this motel room, and she turned the porn channel out of curiosity, we watched it for about five minutes and nothing happened, i didnt have an erection (didnt count it towards my three months of no porn, since that wasnt intentional watching).

So for me, i think my ED problem is masturbation induced, and NOT por induced.

Knowing this, would this entire rebooting program help my situation? do i have to search for something else?


EDIT:

An outline of my problem:

1.- I can get erections, sometimes 80-90% full, sometimes 40-60%, just by kissing, caressing and making out with my girl, or even someting so simple as THINKING about sex for long enough.
2.- Cant maintain my erection for long enough if me or my girl dont stimulate it, sometimes if goes away after i put the condom on and she has to jerk me off again, sometimes it works but sometimes i still can't get hard despite the stimulation.
3.- Once that painful process is over, and i manage to penetrate my girl, i can have sex 90% of the time, but still my dick goes limp 10% of the time

 
I have the exact same problems! It's very easy for me to stay away from porn, but in the past 2-3 years I had erections (not satisfyng at all!) just with hand stimulation. I suggest you, anyway, to go to an urologist. I'll do it in the next days. And please, let me know if you have any news about this issue.
 

fnatk

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Hey there Alexandros & Pierce, I think that while Porn might not be the main factor behind your ED, the Masturbation most likely is. Are you familiar with the term "death grip"? Basically because you've masturbated so much for so long, you have to grab your dick harder and harder to get more stimulation and so regular sex doesn't cut it anymore, neither does a blowjob. There's a fairly easy way to test it, have your girlfriend (If you have one) give you a handjob with a really tight grip. Or perhaps try MO on your own with just a very soft grip. No squeezing etc, just a feather light touch. Can you still get erect and stay that way without fantasizing about anything, just from the touch alone?

If that works, it might still be a sign of your addiction ruining things for you because your brain is wired to get stimulated from masturbation by your own, not with a partner!
 
Thanks for you reply, fnatk. Actually in the past two years I used to masturbate "edging" for hours. Do you know if the cure to this problem is in anycase to avoid masturbation until you're healed?
 

fnatk

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I think edging, death grip, masturbating every day etc all contribute to rewiring your brain towards self pleasure and your erections will therefore struggle with regular sex. Rebooting is what I'd try, properly, no PMO for at least 90 or 120 days!
 

briank

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GoodMood said:
What do guys mean by "forcing" sex?

To me, it means trying to go in when not completely hard.

Has nothing to do with trying something the female doesn't want, as it might sound.

 

Bibbity

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I think abstaining will help you here.  Continue to have sex but stop orgasming for a few weeks.  My husband had the same issues as you.  He had no problem giving up the porn and after 9 months of rebooting he still was having erection issues.  He gave up O for 8 weeks (we still had sex though) and then his erections came back 100%.  Then of course he had PE but with practice and slowing down etc. (basically what Gabe said) he is now able to ladt as long as he wants with a full erection....and he's nearly 40!
 
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