I cannot cum when I am with my girlfriend. Help!

So I have been dating this girl for for about a month and a half. We have probobly had sex about 15 times. And fooled around an uncountable amount. I have strong feelings for her and she has strong feelings for me. I get hard from just sitting beside her. But I have not been able to cum from oral or vaginal sex. The only time I cum with her is when I masturbate beside her to finish myslef off. I only did this successfully twice. I have tried some other times and still could not cum from masturbation.


If I masturbate by myself I cum fine

I have not masturbated in about 2 weeks I am trying to reboot. (How long does a reboot take?)

I still feel some satisfaction after having sex with her. I feel like I orgasm without cumming??

I am on concerta and fluoxemine ADD and OCD medication. And perhaps they are interfering.

If you can help me out I will be eternally grateful!

Hey there Bensuthy. First off, I have no idea about the medication... I'd say check the packages for possible side-effects or talk to your doctor!

Now on to the main issue, how long have you been using porn? How often do you jerk off to it? Struggling to get hard or orgasm from vaginal/oral sex is typical if you've been watching too much porn or perhaps developed a "death grip" technique to jerk off. Your brain is either lacking that dopamine spike you get from watching porn, have you found yourself watching more hardcore genres perhaps? Or your penis is not getting enough of a physical stimulation compared to that masturbation technique.

You say you've not masturbated for 2 weeks... but have you watched any porn in that time?

This link here is an excellent place to start either way:
http://yourbrainonporn.com/node/79

fnatk said:

Hey there Bensuthy. First off, I have no idea about the medication... I'd say check the packages for possible side-effects or talk to your doctor!

Now on to the main issue, how long have you been using porn? How often do you jerk off to it? Struggling to get hard or orgasm from vaginal/oral sex is typical if you've been watching too much porn or perhaps developed a "death grip" technique to jerk off. Your brain is either lacking that dopamine spike you get from watching porn, have you found yourself watching more hardcore genres perhaps? Or your penis is not getting enough of a physical stimulation compared to that masturbation technique.

You say you've not masturbated for 2 weeks... but have you watched any porn in that time?

This link here is an excellent place to start either way:
http://yourbrainonporn.com/node/79

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Yeah,
I like the direction fnatk is going with this.
Perhaps if you can give us a hint on how much porn and what kind of porn you escalated to.
As well as how often you jerk off or jerking off while watching porn.
One thing is for sure, there is no magic number of days on reboot that will get you back to normal.

I do have very good news though...your issue is not nearly as severe as most guys on here.
Lets keep it that way.

I really appreciate the advice guys!

I do no watch porn anymore and when I did watch porn it was pretty "light" stuff mostly just big tits (whitch my gf has) milf and some threesome stuff.

When I did masturbate it was usually only once a day rarely twice. I did it three times a day once I think.  I did not use lotion so I think the "death grip" is what caused it  I would do it anywhere from 3-7 times a week. It depended on the week.

Anymore information you guys need do not hesitate to ask

also i get hand jobs and blow jobs and have sex with my girlfriend frequently. how will that affect my recovery?????

thanks again all replies are appreciated

My advice would be to abstain from orgasm, handjobs and blowjobs for a few weeks and see if it helps.  The 'death' grip is likely the reasin you can't cum with your girl.  Your penis is basically sensitized to hands and a vagina and mouth can't compete with that.  Once you resensitize yourself by not orgasming at all and by not having handjobs and blowjobs you will regain the sensitivity.  You might even develop PE for a bit, but that too will go away in time.

Hey guys, my girlfriend was giving me a blowjob and I came in her mouth. A blanket was covering my  face when I was getting the blowjob and I was using my right hand to grab her tit really fast on and off (simulations a hand kind of.) I just wanted to say thanks for helping me everyone.

What's the next step for me?