Wet dreams

Hello. I'm new here, 58 years old, married with a good sex life ? and a PMO problem, in my opinion.

I've seen a number of posts about people experiencing increased erections and wet dreams as they gain more time in their reboot process.

This is, I confess, mere curiosity (i.e. not important to my recovery), but as I've never had a) erection issues or b) a wet dream, I'm curious how common these things are among men of different ages.

I would add that while I fairly often have erotic dreams, they are nearly 100% what I would call "stress" dreams: Me, pursuing sex with a woman, she's willing, but we are constantly frustrated because we keep getting interrupted, we can't find the right place to do it, things like that. I have never, to my knowledge, climaxed in a dream ? could this explain my complete lack of wet dreams in my life?

Thanks, all, for considering my questions.

As far as I know, never having a wet dream in your life isn't really a weird thing.  If you're 58 now, then you were 14 in 1975 (sorry if I'm making you feel old!), which was well before internet porn, or even cable or video porn.  Unless you started porn and masturbation at a very early age, that makes for a good test for what "normal" should be for you, and if "normal" means no wet dreams, then not having them after quitting porn seems reasonable.

I had two, MAYBE three in my youth, and then over a year after quitting porn, I had two separate ones.  I remember the dreams as being weird anxiety dreams (like you're saying) and they seemed completely random.  They didn't coincide with any over the top arousals, near relapses, or anything like that.

I did have a pretty long normalization of everything outside of the wet dream phenomenon.  I got my body used to ejaculating every time I had any arousal (or at least shortly thereafter - see something arousing during the day, PMO at night), so my body needed to relearn how not to ejaculate.  I'm talking blue balls, and sharp pain near my pelvis (vas deferens?  Not strong on the anatomy), and difficulty fully urinating.  All that eventually got better, but it took a while.  Erections... well, at some point I remember looking at myself in the mirror and feeling like someone swapped out body parts on me, like a Mr. Potato Head.  I'm not sure I would have identified it as a problem prior to quitting, but now that I've seen a before and after, I definitely think it was.

Age plays a role in many ways, specifically the age you are when high speed internet porn first entered your life.  I'm 37, and I didn't get DSL until I was around 21, and didn't get speeds capable of streaming video until my late 20s.  That definitely made things easier for me to normalize than some other guys on here.  Basically, the more time you get to hard wire non-porn sex responses, the more immunity you develop to the dangers.