Hey guys. I am currently on my 45 days streak deep deep in flatline state. I wanted to ask about one thing that tortures my mind and wont let go. The reason why i decided that i cant go back to porn was, that after years of watching normal porn, i needed more extreme stuff to get the dopamine spike going. So i watched stuff that included fake violance and trans porn. I wasnt hard from it as i wasnt hard for normal porn either, but my heart was beating and brain went nuts. I am doing quite well so far in my journey but reading through journals of many guys i would expect some morning wood or wet dreams by now. I am worried that the stuff that i was watching fucked me up and i wont have good response for normal girls. Maybe my mind is trying to drag me back and this is the last desperate move.
Will my fetishes go away?
- Thread starter Markoslav
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Your fetishes weren't about what you desire in the real world, they were about your tolerance to simple nudes. You kind of said that in the post, you liked the rush! You'll get back to normal soon in your own time. What you are going through is healing, be thankful in your healing. Keep your eye on your ultimate goal the best version of you possible. Get an accountability partner. Also keep in mind its your journey and its always going to be different than others. Flat-lines vary and sometimes people reboot their libido with healthy supplements. Hope that helps
SietchTabr
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I, too, am very interested in having my various fetishes diminish as I move away from porn use. I'm not sure I've seen any studies or information on this ? anybody have citations or things to read?
This is honestly my primary motivator for trying to get off porn. I do not like where my use has taken my mind at all.
This is honestly my primary motivator for trying to get off porn. I do not like where my use has taken my mind at all.
doneatlast
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Everyone ends up with some sort of fetish/escalation, and that stuff tends to have the deepest fishhooks.
IF your fetish developed solely from escalation during porn use, it will normalize. Worst case scenario, it will be what makes you itch for a relapse (an itch you'll eventually know how to deal with) and makes for the most dangerous weapon against your sobriety, but your sexual tastes will normalize outside of those rare moments.
Sometimes fetishes pre-exist porn, and porn being what it is, it allowed you to explore these things that made you feel weird or uncomfortable. In those cases it lessens VASTLY, but still remains slightly. Think of it this way: you start with a fetish small as can be, so small you may not even be aware of it in a world without porn, but when fed with porn it dominates all other types of attraction. You can get it down close to that small size, but it won't disappear. Foot fetish guys might still retain some of those tastes, but it isn't as dominating as before. Femdom guys often find some early life memories that make that stuff intriguing, and it can be harder to shake because of that. In some cases, therapy might help. Unfortunately we don't know much about where fetishes come from (at least, the ones that didn't start purely from porn escalation), so there is a lot for people to figure out on their own.
Tranny and violent stuff are classic "from escalation only" things, so my guess is you're good to get away from it entirely.
IF your fetish developed solely from escalation during porn use, it will normalize. Worst case scenario, it will be what makes you itch for a relapse (an itch you'll eventually know how to deal with) and makes for the most dangerous weapon against your sobriety, but your sexual tastes will normalize outside of those rare moments.
Sometimes fetishes pre-exist porn, and porn being what it is, it allowed you to explore these things that made you feel weird or uncomfortable. In those cases it lessens VASTLY, but still remains slightly. Think of it this way: you start with a fetish small as can be, so small you may not even be aware of it in a world without porn, but when fed with porn it dominates all other types of attraction. You can get it down close to that small size, but it won't disappear. Foot fetish guys might still retain some of those tastes, but it isn't as dominating as before. Femdom guys often find some early life memories that make that stuff intriguing, and it can be harder to shake because of that. In some cases, therapy might help. Unfortunately we don't know much about where fetishes come from (at least, the ones that didn't start purely from porn escalation), so there is a lot for people to figure out on their own.
Tranny and violent stuff are classic "from escalation only" things, so my guess is you're good to get away from it entirely.