Right okay so.. Maybe i'm not as cured as i thought i was.

Morning All,

About a month and a bit ago, i abstained from PMO for 5 days, and i ejaculated during sex, it was quite easy for me to do so, and i thought woopteefuckingdo, i was cured. awesome, yay. the girl i had sex with isn't someone i regularly have sex with so i was just happy i was cured.


A month and a bit later me and my ex started talking again, hitting it off, we went out together and then we went back to her house, we had sex, i couldn't cum, i was even starting to lose my hard on during sex, this has NEVER happened before. like, ever. ive never lost a hard on during sex i just find it hard to cum. am i now suffering from the early stages of erectile dysfunction?  To be fair the sex wasn't the best, shes a very very shy girl and she isn't confident in her own body so it was just the one position for like 20 minutes whilst she hid herself underneath her sheets.

Obviously the serious thing to do is continue to abstain from PMO, even if i didn't want to there's absolutely no way that i could watch it now, my phone internet is blocked from it, my phone internet has been blocked from it, work's internet is obviously blocked, like theres absolutely no way for me to even access it, which is great and has really aided my recovery.

Someone please just reassure me that this will pass, soon i'll be able to keep my hard on and fuck for as long as i want.


please reply, thanks

When I started rebooting, I too thought that this is just a temporary break from P. But it seems that, at least for me, I can never go back to P without it affecting my performance in bed. Actually I have found that even M without P will likely decrease my sensitivity during the next sexual encounter and lower my libido in general.

Earlier this year my confidence was so high that I relapsed to some M and even P. But much to my surprise the next time in bed was a disaster! I got back to the wagon pretty quick (and returned to this forum as well).

happy someone else is in my shoes.

it's been 14 days without porn and i feel great tbh. i'm getting stronger in the gym, i used to really really really struggle to get up in the mornings and was usually late for work or uni, that's not perfect now i still struggle but it's gotten better.


i'm gonna see this through man, im sure in 90 days all this will be over, and porn will be out of my life for good.

It sounds like this could also be psychologically-driven. Were you out to prove something while having sex with your ex? Did you prolong sex to try and do as Dennis on Always Sunny and "demonstrate your value?" Personally, I've noticed throughout my entire life, that if I go past a certain length of time in sex, I have to REALLY put forth an effort in order to finish, and typically it has to be a vigorous pace. I'm going through a reboot now and am having the opposite issue, as sensitivity has increased higher than I've ever felt, but I can definitely understand the shoes you are in. Did you feel like you were going to ejaculate early on in the session and worked your way past that?

Everytime I have sex at the beginning I feel it building up like I'm going to ejaculwte snd then I hit a point where I just lose it, sensitivity gone.


Sometimes the build up stays and I finish, but I'm having another problem now

That sounds like how I have been my whole life; an intense urge to cum within the first few minutes, but if I power through it, a loss of most sensation. Luckily, I feel like my sensitivity issues are starting to normalize and I am gaining control. You may just need more time, mate! But count your lucky stars; at least you are successfully having sex!

So leave my penis for more time, the sensitivity will come & then i'll be fine?

Yessir! What you will notice is that you'll be more sensitive all the time, especially during sex, but instead of having a ton of sensitivity at first during intercourse and a sudden lack of sensation, it will feel amazing and relaxing the whole time until you just can't hold it back anymore and have to cum. Don't beat yourself up for a little PE at first either; that comes with the territory! Your situation sounds normal.