How do I know if I've rebooted

So my reboot hasn't been perfect but I'm doing well and I've been talking to this girl a lot that I've wanted to date for years now and she's been flirting with me a lot lately and I been holding back just because  if this goes somewhere  how do I explain that I can't have sex. This is terrifying to me and even though I would trust her to keep the secret she is still  human and I don't think I can trust anyone 100%  with this secret . So I was wondering how anyone here who has rebooted and is now capable of having real intercourse with a real woman, how did you know you were ready. Because I'm afraid of being embarrassed again because I can't get it up to a real woman.

that my friend would appear to be the million dollar question - how does one know they are rebooted/rewired and ready to go.
We all are different, there is no schedule for any of this - each one of us will get there when we get there.  I would suppose at some point we are going to have to put it out there and see what happens.

I would like to suggest to you, if you think you may be able to confide someone, they may be very supportive and understanding.  That support would go a long long way to help anyone throught this.

Good luck to you, and welcome to the nation.

I just went for it in the reboot with my current GF - and the dreaded ED hit and I was very embarrassed.  Having had ED hit with four+ women she immediately thought it was her... which is common. I didn't tell her immediately that it was a porn problem because you don't want the women you potentially want to grow closer to thinking your a big perv, rather I said I was going to be seeing a Dr. - which I was.

In your shoes if you go for it then explain that you have had ED, and your Dr. and you found the culprit - a deficiency, and you are slowly getting back to normal and you'd prefer being friends for awhile.

I did this and after a month of dating the girl, while being 'friends' she wanted it again and I explained why I couldn't have sex, because of ED and I had to rewire my brain - luckily my GF is a psychologist and ppl come in with sex issues all the time and she has studied them - what relieved her was that I was willing to sacrifice porn - which clearly I am willing because real sex is drastically better - now after dating her for about four months we had sex for the first time a week ago and it was like loosing the V-card boss.  Best experience ever.

I recommend being honest, but not right off the bat - if you have been dating for years I'd just say it, but not if you have been WANTING to date for years.

And I sacrificed many relationships during the initial reboot, a Brazilian runway model, a Mexican runway model,  an American runway model - anddd, it sux - but you have to realize that it was your actions that got you to this point, just like it had for me.

All is well though because just think - in six months you'll be feeling like an alpha able to perform like a 'G' - perhaps better than counterpart males who continue looking at porn and never reach a state of ED, but it certainly hinders performance.

Zach you say your reboot has been going good so far, no offense but according to you counter you are only a few days in, I mean, 3 days are not enough, specially if you consider, you might have spent thousands of days on PMO.

As Untolerable and Savingmysoul have said, it s kind hard to know when you are cured. But that s not because you are not cured that you can't start rewiring, especially with someone you trust and love. In the mean time, don't test yourself, and give your brain at least 8 weeks of complete rest ( no MO, no PMO ).

I tested myself after more than a month off PMO and 24 days of MO ( and I also had seriously decrease my use in the previous month). M not cured, but I saw a hell of an improvement. So I know the road is still long, but m mending. The best way to check how you are doing is by rewiring with a real partner, if possible without orgasm during the first 8 weeks. If you don't have a partner (like me) and that you really do want to test yourself, the best way seem to masturbate but no porn, no image, and if possible no fantasy.

In my case it was with the condom on, no hand, only rubbing against a pillow. http://legacy.rebootnation.org/index.php?topic=1803.0

But try to rewire with a partner, it way better and give it some time

^as he said it is best to rewire with a partner, and to just do other sensual things to help - cuddling period -  sounds super feminine to say that, but cuddling is very very good for the brain, you start getting familiar with pheromones and just being touched not exactly sensually etc.

and don't test yourself for heavens sake - I made that mistake early on and then found myself in an embarrassing three day binge that set me back big time on progress and made myself feel terribly guilty.