Two Years Pornfree!

Marco

Member
Hi everyone,

I did it! 2 Years!!

The only thing I want to add since last year is that M has given me a hard time (old fantasies came back the more I did it). So I stopped it completely moths ago. I can recommand nofap to everyone, it helps me to control my sexuality.


Down here is my old post from last year:

I wan't to share my experience, my way and my strategies with you all.
Here is my old Journal: http://legacy.rebootnation.org/index.php?topic=8724.0


So, what happened in this Year?
Over all it was an awesome year, my life changed 180?!!!
I lost my depressions.
I lost my self doubts.
I lost my social anxiety.
I got good self esteem.
I got a lot of motivation.
I got inner strength.
I stopped drinking and smoking, my long time habits.
I stopped smoking weed.
I reduced my gaming habits a lot.
I started to eat healthier.
I started sport, after 15 years no sport to 3-4 time a week.
Better sleep.
Over all turned from a negativ thinking person into a positiv. From a passiv consumer to an active actor. From dark to light.


What did I learned?
The reboot is not a thing you do for some time an then it's over and you are fine. It's more a way of life and an never ending ongoing process. It is like every other serious addiction. You can never turn back in a moderate way. It's all or nothing. It's maybe the biggest challange.


How is my sex life now?
Surprisingly this question has become less and less important over time.
My sex is good and fun, easy and without anxiety und negative thoughts.
But sex overall has kind of lost its priority im life and my mind. And that is for good!
The reboot and nofap kind of liberated me from this oversized, omnipresent monster which controlled my mind for so long.


No fap
When I startet to reboot  I stopped M for about 4,5 month until I started M again.
It become more with stress and more frequently. It wasn't good for me. Thoughts about extreme things tend to came back and my mood was negatively effected.
Now I'm back to nofap. Nofap gives me a lot of energy and strength. It's magic :D I can recommend rebooting with nofap, it's been a good combination.


What worked for me during the reboot?
  • A all or nothing mindset. A bit radical but effective.
  • Stopping to focus at numbers an stats. After 3 months I stopped my journal and I stopped counting days and stuff. I started to focus on life instead on the reboot. It helped me to normalize the reboot.
  • Sport. Exercice. Gym.
  • Inform myself. Try to get the best an deepest knowledge about the issues. Know your enemy.
  • My "Who is that person trick". Whenever I catch myself thinking in an objectified way about woman, I try to think about the person. What's her name? Where does the person come from? What is she doing? And so on. It distracts my thoughts and gives the person instantly more value than a sex object. For me it works well and the thoughts are becoming less over time.
  • Setting small goals. I need something to do. It distracts me from this whole sex thing and reconnects me with the world.
  • Talking with friends about this. The moment I talked about it, it become a real thing.
  • Beeing honest to myself, on good and bad days.
  • I started caring about my self, my mind and my body.
  • Less usage of electronic devices in the night (mobile, pc, console, etc.)

Struggles?
Yes! I'm exposed to critical content almost every day. Every content with naked/light clothed women is challanging. When ever I consume media I need to be aware when browsing Facebook, Youtube, news sites(clickbait ads), etc. I still have to deal with it every time I see some images. It is getting easier over time, but there is still a potential danger/trigger.

What does the future brings?
I don't know. But I'm positive about it :D
This thing will always be a part of me but that's ok, the benefits of the reboot are insane!


I want to thank you all for sharing und writing your experiences, it helped a lot back then and now.
I wish everyone the strength and willpower to reach their goals in life.

Stay strong,
Marco.
 

Big H

Active Member
Congrats man. For myself I definitely feel happier. I seem to smile a lot more. I also seem to be more emotional and also I actually have feelings for real girls. It's good to know it wasn't that you just quit porn but that you also improved as a person. I'm still at that improving as a human stage. I definitely feel more hope for the future without the porn hindering me.
 

Death Trap

Active Member
This is about the best news any of us could hope for. Also, I think your observations are quite interesting.
 

tiredofthe struggle

Active Member
well done and great post also.

Really like your approach to battle objectifying women, i really struggle with that aspect yet would hate to make any woman feel objectified or uncomfortable in any way. Its an approach i will definately use.

Best of luck and thanks for the advice and inspiration!
 
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Numez

Guest
My "Who is that person trick". Whenever I catch myself thinking in an objectified way about woman, I try to think about the person. What's her name? Where does the person come from? What is she doing? And so on. It distracts my thoughts and gives the person instantly more value than a sex object. For me it works well and the thoughts are becoming less over time.

this is great
8)
 

Marco

Member
honestly not pretty long. I had spontanious moodswings for about 2 month. I think starting new activities  during this time helped me al lot.
 

misc person 86

Active Member
Great to see a decent success story, it's been a while. I know sex is less important now, but I gotta ask if sex it's working for you every time you want to have it? I don't mean are you horny all the time, but I mean when you're feeling like having sex and begin to engage in the activity, does your libido and erection hold up everytime you try? And how frequently are you having sex.

Thanks, and congratulations.


Edit!

Read your original post. You were having sex but with DE, not full blown ED and it took you 2 years... This is pretty worrying for me haha, but still, congratulations!!!
 

Marco

Member
Si said:
Great to see a decent success story, it's been a while. I know sex is less important now, but I gotta ask if sex it's working for you every time you want to have it? I don't mean are you horny all the time, but I mean when you're feeling like having sex and begin to engage in the activity, does your libido and erection hold up everytime you try? And how frequently are you having sex.

Thanks, and congratulations.


Edit!

Read your original post. You were having sex but with DE, not full blown ED and it took you 2 years... This is pretty worrying for me haha, but still, congratulations!!!

Hi,
ED took me about 6 month to cure.
I have regular sex like once or twice a week, it's no problem anymore.
The overall sex duration has shorten a lot, normal it's about 5-10 minutes until the rocket goes off . ;D
But I still have problems with normal M (no P). After a time of doing it regulary I get in bad moods and sex becomes less enjoiable.
no Fap is still the best choice for me.

Greets and good luck.
 

Bles you

New Member
I'm glad for you, Marco! I want to know if morning wood  return to normal after this long no fap period? I also noticed that I can hold Orgasm less than before because of the sensitivity that increased during reboot,or I may have forced my PC muscle for too long by edging :p
 

Zeratul

New Member
Marco said:
So, what happened in this Year?
Over all it was an awesome year, my life changed 180?!!!
I lost my depressions.
I lost my self doubts.
I lost my social anxiety.
I got good self esteem.
I got a lot of motivation.
I got inner strength

Wow, awesome
 
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