Hello, I have been suffering lately from PIED and trying really hard to stop masturbating altogether. Swearing off porn hasn't been the toughest part, though, it's been the masturbation. Without porn, I still find myself masturbating to Facebook pictures or even images in my head of women I know and am attracted to. The longest Ive gone is about 5 days, and I snapped a 4-day streak this morning when I couldn't get my fiance's friend out of my head in the shower. It's horribly embarrassing when I can't get it up for my fiance and I've got to stop but I'm so pathetically weak. I don't really know if I need any advice necessarily -- although i'll take any you've got -- just needed to get my thoughts out there. Hopefully by sharing my struggles on here I can keep them under control.
Trying to reboot....
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Hey jwk2408,
Glad your able to share your thoughts as this tends to be very therapeutic and beneficial for rebooters. At least it was for me during my reboot.
My advice is to stay away from masturbating to Facebook pics because you are still wiring your brain to pixels and not a person. Also, fantasy has been said to slow reboots down and increase cravings for porn. So do your best to pursue other healthy activities to keep your mind off pmo.
It is embarrassing and that is a feeling thousands of us have felt and can relate to. However, the simple fact that you are here, ready and willing to recover shows you are not weak. Sharing this stuff even anonymously is not easy. Proud of you for being here.
Learn everything you can about the negative effects PMO can have on you and decide you want a life that is better than the numbed desensitized porn life of your past.
Hope the best for you
Glad your able to share your thoughts as this tends to be very therapeutic and beneficial for rebooters. At least it was for me during my reboot.
My advice is to stay away from masturbating to Facebook pics because you are still wiring your brain to pixels and not a person. Also, fantasy has been said to slow reboots down and increase cravings for porn. So do your best to pursue other healthy activities to keep your mind off pmo.
It is embarrassing and that is a feeling thousands of us have felt and can relate to. However, the simple fact that you are here, ready and willing to recover shows you are not weak. Sharing this stuff even anonymously is not easy. Proud of you for being here.
Learn everything you can about the negative effects PMO can have on you and decide you want a life that is better than the numbed desensitized porn life of your past.
Hope the best for you
Viper
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Fantasizing about your girl's friend instead of your girlfriend huh?
Who am I to judge?
But if you've read any of the journals on here, you'll see many guys who are struggling in their marriage because
of PIED. So it's good that you're taking action now before your bride walks down that isle.
In addition to facebook, you pretty much have to try to avoid any image that can stimulate your lust.
So those mens magazines that have gadgets, and cars but also have scantily clad women...those are out.
You still have time to turn this around. Make that commitment. Read some of the journals and get inspired.
YOu can beat this!
Who am I to judge?
But if you've read any of the journals on here, you'll see many guys who are struggling in their marriage because
of PIED. So it's good that you're taking action now before your bride walks down that isle.
In addition to facebook, you pretty much have to try to avoid any image that can stimulate your lust.
So those mens magazines that have gadgets, and cars but also have scantily clad women...those are out.
You still have time to turn this around. Make that commitment. Read some of the journals and get inspired.
YOu can beat this!
jwk2408 said:
I think it's important to note that very likely at this point the masturbation is linked with the pornography in your brain. If you are very serious about breaking the problem, you might need to emphasize more that masturbation is the problem in your reboot.
Some things that helped keep me on the straight and narrow were creating a list of reasons why I want to reboot. You dont even have to write them down if you don't want to, but just having the ideas worked out in you head is great. When times get tough and you are tempted, bring the list back up to remind yourself that your goals are what you are doing this for.
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