Hi - I am new here and feeling pretty positive about everything I have read.
A bit about me, I am in my 40s and have watched porn since a teenager. I started with magazines and as the internet evolved so did my use of porn.
I watch porn 2-3 times a day and over the last couple of years have experienced issues with ED. With each encounter they have got worse to a point where I know it will happen even before it does.
I turned to Viagra, but the problem persisted. I convinved myself it was the partners I was with, but it persisted no matter who I was with.
I am in an open relationship, so my partner is happy for me to meet other women - but because of this problem I have lost all confidence and I feel like I am missing out. Because of my fear of ED I avoid meeting people, I also put porn ahead of intimacy with my partner and we rarely do anything together, although the ED issue doesn't really happen with her (yet!!!).
I understand how addiction works, it feels like porn has crept up on me, I always believed it was harmless but now I am realising that it has caused damage - not just ED either.
So, I want to make a change, I don't want to use willpower, I want to feel free and in a place where I don't want artificual stimulation - however, at the moment this feels more like a dream than a reality.
I am prepared to put the work in and want to learn and understand all I can.
So today, I am starting me reboot - I intend to still be intimate with partner, but will not masterbate and by posting this I am making myself accountable to the group.
Any advice, tips or support greatly appreciated.
Thanks
A bit about me, I am in my 40s and have watched porn since a teenager. I started with magazines and as the internet evolved so did my use of porn.
I watch porn 2-3 times a day and over the last couple of years have experienced issues with ED. With each encounter they have got worse to a point where I know it will happen even before it does.
I turned to Viagra, but the problem persisted. I convinved myself it was the partners I was with, but it persisted no matter who I was with.
I am in an open relationship, so my partner is happy for me to meet other women - but because of this problem I have lost all confidence and I feel like I am missing out. Because of my fear of ED I avoid meeting people, I also put porn ahead of intimacy with my partner and we rarely do anything together, although the ED issue doesn't really happen with her (yet!!!).
I understand how addiction works, it feels like porn has crept up on me, I always believed it was harmless but now I am realising that it has caused damage - not just ED either.
So, I want to make a change, I don't want to use willpower, I want to feel free and in a place where I don't want artificual stimulation - however, at the moment this feels more like a dream than a reality.
I am prepared to put the work in and want to learn and understand all I can.
So today, I am starting me reboot - I intend to still be intimate with partner, but will not masterbate and by posting this I am making myself accountable to the group.
Any advice, tips or support greatly appreciated.
Thanks