How to speed flatline recovery, tips pls, girl involved 32 days

currently on day 32

So i have been on and off porn for quite a while(years), never really managing a decent streak untill now.

There is this girl that i like, i want to ask her out, but i feel like i am in a flatline, my penis has pretty much been lifeless.
even tough i emotionally feel like i want to be with this woman and chase after her

this is my last semester at uni and i feel like i am running out of time, i have talked to her since around the late/middle of january, i fear she is going to lose interest( if she has any) if i spend too long dicking around. i wanted and planned to ask her out this weekend, but as i woke up today.. no morning wood.. no libido.. i managed to get hard touching myself but it took time and it went away right after. im sure first date( if she said yes) wouldn't lead to sex, still its a big risk to start something like that, and then not being able to have sex.

If i had time this would be no problem, i no longer struggle with wanting to watch porn its just a waiting game at this point, problem is just as i said i dont have time.

so i need any tips anything anyone can tell that can help me speed up recovery!

I should probably mention that i have never had sex before and started with mo and then pmo from an early age, but still i haven't been doing it everyday for the last year, its been on and of, that must count for something?

Sorry mate, I've been around for a while and have never come across a technique, a strategy or medication that would speed up your reboot/ shorten recovery period. Gotta mention that noone can predict when they would be finished normally so the success of any extra effort cannot be measured or even proven.

Logically speaking total abstinence would be the fastest way out, meaning no porn, masturbation, fondling and even fantasizing. Your end goal is to have reliable erections during sex, so you don't have to say no to sex. However in more severe cases the brain needs rest from all stimuli including real life women. You might fall into this category but noone can tell. I think you should ask your crush out asap and find out what you can do.

What Diesel said....however rebooting with a partner has helped me....Keep in mind that I'm at a year no MO/PMO. We're all different and yes, it sucks.

Hope you dont mind me chiming in. Im a partner of a rebooter. Just wanted to say, in a girls mind if you tell her you didnt ask her out to have sex with her, you like her a lot and asked her out to get to know her, will absolutely make her heart melt. So even if she doesn't know the real reason behind the no sex, she'll be looking at you with hearts in her eyes. And it sounds to me youre looking at her for more than a 'hook up".

Then if things progress, meaning you two hit it off, just take it slow over a couple weeks. Being with a real person really does help the rebooting as pearland71 said. Just have to do it slowly. Then once you hit that stage where you can comfortably talk about things, if things just arent working for you down there, you can talk to her about it, instead of worry, which never does any good.

so things happended, didn't ask her out but we've been talking more now, she initiates conversations with me and i think she shows interest

Still struggling with the flatline.. however i've been having morning wood last two days, i dont wake up with it i wake up tired and then decided to lie there some more then it comes, might be a sign of recovery or just that im tired. im on day 35 and no wet dream yet.

So no orgasm for the last 35 days.. could the solution be to MO using no fantasy and no deathgrip? could that help get me out of the flatline? kickstart things?

I would say stick on the path you're going on right now and if you feeling comfortable ask her out, but like pearland71 and beautifulbreakdown said, take it slow and don't allow sex or your flatline to linger in the background. Talk to her, spend time with her, and if things get a little more affectionate over time then do simple things, like cuddling or holding hands. No need to rush into anything heavily sexual if you're not ready, and if she really likes you then she'll be more than willing to wait until you're ready.

I remember with my last girlfriend I told her I wanted to wait a while before having sex and she thought that was a great idea, and for about a month and a half or so we just took things slow. It was great, and it put more emphasis on our relationship and not just our sexual chemistry or attraction to each other. In short, we had built a solid foundation together before we ever had sex, and it worked out better for it.

I'm not trying to put the cart before the horse on this one, but if you guys do go out on a date, just take things slow, relax and don't worry about it. You'll come out of your flatline eventually, we all do, but be patient and let the process play itself out.

About speeding up recovery.. These are two of my own thoughts, but are not part of the official rebooting canon, and are probably controversial:

1. Visualizing success. Athletes do this all the time, and it is a fairly standard way to prepare for  a sports competition or a situation where you have to perform. This does not have to be sexual fantasizing, but can be as simple as going through the process of asking the girl out in your head a few times. You have two possible outcomes, and you can define both to be successful, as you have been brave enough to go through with it, and you will be prepared to handle both outcomes.

2. Actively starving your brain. This is controversial, untested and highly experimental.. To force the brain to rewire more quickly, I am thinking it is possible to minimize the load on the reward system to the extreme for a while. Rebooters are being told to socialize, work out and enjoy themselves, but these things release dopamine, reduce cravings and in my opinion probably makes the process a little bit slower. I guess if you really want to force a reboot, go four weeks without doing anything enjoyable, and of course hard mode, monk mode no facebook mode no P no M and no O. Grab the vacuum cleaner, clean the apartment, do some tedious paperwork, do your tax report,  watch movies like "the english patient" or "the seventh seal", read "war and peace", and if this does not finish you off, read the instruction manual for the vacuum cleaner. 

I want to thank everyone who participated in the thread thus far, this is important to me. To the above poster 2. point, seems logical but it assumes that there arent different areas in the brain reacting to sex than to other activities, which there migth be. My point being; while my reward circut for sex migth be fried, there may be no problem with those related to food, music, etc. Also 4 weeks is not what i was looking for, i want to ask her out soon, not wait 4 weeks, this is what makes my situation such a huge increadibly frustrating dilemma. I'll have to reflect uppon the responses in this thread and try to come up with the best course of action.

Ask her out tomorrow. If it escalates quickly, tell her you don't want to rush things right now. There is nothing wrong with that.

Well soon atleast, if i can catch her alone after class before we are about to go home i'll do it. 

Whatever happens i really dont want to come across like i dont want sex, increadibly demasculating thing to say no matter the excuse. Arh, life.

So i might have made a mistake, all i have read tells me to be patient and wait, tough that doesn't fit into my plans. so i tougth " fortune favors the bold " and after 36 days no pmo, i decided to MOd no fantasy as a completly pragmatic decision so that it might kickstart my libido. The orgasm lasted longer than it ever has, but my semen was very watery.. which made me worried. afterwards i felt a great guilt wash over me as i started to worry i had made the wrong decision, but after that a great calm, not so anxius and desperate anymore. So i got up, and realized i dont really feel that different, other than the calm, no chaser or anything.