23 years old. Never masturbated to regular vanilla porn; only femdom/foot shit. Im almost done my 3rd month of rebooting from that nasty stuff and I was just wondering If I'd ever be interested in pussy? Like when I'm with my girlfriend, and I finger her, I never get hard. Not once! Im incredibly worried; Im aware that you can't cure a foot fetish, but I don't want it to be my only stimulant; also the regular stuff!
Will I ever be interested in vanilla sex?
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FallenAngel88
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The simple answer to your question is: yes, you will, if you are consistent in rebooting and don't give up!
I have a similar problem, I'm 27 y/o and started in my teenage years to fap on naked girls and vanilla sex, then I found out fetish/femdom junk and now after some years that junk is my main matter (about 90%) for PMO. I still like vanilla sex and vanilla porn, but I find the kink junk more exciting.
The best things that you can do are:
1) completely forget fetish/femdom or any other kind of porn; if your fetish attraction is porn-induced, then it will decrease week by week, month by month; if it's not porn-induced but "innate", then in any case your libido levels will improve also in "vanilla" stuff.
2) have regular contacts with your girlfriend, not only sexually (fingering, oral sex and other) but also with cuddles, kisses, massages, simple skin and eye contact, because that will feed your libido levels, give you a lot of mental and emotional relief and "connect" more and more your mind with reality again, after the years spent in the virtual porn world where your mind was used to find pleasure and relief. Remember that our main sexual organ is the brain, not the penis! If brain works, then penis works, but not viceversa...
I have a similar problem, I'm 27 y/o and started in my teenage years to fap on naked girls and vanilla sex, then I found out fetish/femdom junk and now after some years that junk is my main matter (about 90%) for PMO. I still like vanilla sex and vanilla porn, but I find the kink junk more exciting.
The best things that you can do are:
1) completely forget fetish/femdom or any other kind of porn; if your fetish attraction is porn-induced, then it will decrease week by week, month by month; if it's not porn-induced but "innate", then in any case your libido levels will improve also in "vanilla" stuff.
2) have regular contacts with your girlfriend, not only sexually (fingering, oral sex and other) but also with cuddles, kisses, massages, simple skin and eye contact, because that will feed your libido levels, give you a lot of mental and emotional relief and "connect" more and more your mind with reality again, after the years spent in the virtual porn world where your mind was used to find pleasure and relief. Remember that our main sexual organ is the brain, not the penis! If brain works, then penis works, but not viceversa...
FallenAngel88
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dude23 said:
That is the sign that you like sex and girls like any other guy, you just need to clear your mind from all the porn junk and your sex drive will gradually rise again. Your foot fetish is not the problem, porn is the problem (fetish or vanilla porn is the same, no difference). My suggestion is: don't challenge yourself by watching porn pictures, you may have a momentary erection but that is ephemeral, actually it may increase your PIED; besides the chaser effect may lead you from the picture of a vagina to a picture of female feet and then to videos where you are very tempted to fap on.
Instead you need to have an erection by watching a REAL vagina, that is the goal of the reboot, because reality is always truthful but porn is always deceptive.
This journey will have A LOT of ups and downs, that is normal, but don't let this tear you down. If you don't give up, you will win this bad vice and the PIED problem!
FallenAngel88
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dude23 said:
I understand your worry, but you have no reason to have such fear. PIED is not like normal ED, you are very young and the only reason to have ED is porn induction. Eradicate totally porn from your life and your PIED will gradually disappear. Time is a fundamental factor: maybe you will need a lot of time to totally recover, but if you are consistent in avoiding porn and PMO, finally you will recover!
I know it's very frustrating, but you need to feed your mind with hope, not with despair. Read some of the Success Stories in this forum and you will see that recovering is not impossible, it's just hard but totally within your reach. Willpower, patience, hope and seriousness are the keywords to succeed.
Phase2
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I agree with FallenAngel.
Think of porn like a grain of sand in an oyster. Each day the oyster adds another layer of pearl around the offensive sand grain. Eventually, with time, the oyster is completely protected from the intruder. You are doing the same thing with porn and your fetish. Each day away from it, it's memory and hold on your brain moves a little further away. The trick is to not let it in at all from here on out. Do not indulge your fetishes, do not let them stay alive. Eventually they will wane from what interests you and you will be excited by other things instead.
I have a fetish myself. It used to occupy 90% of my sexual thought. It has worked for me and it will for you too. I just don't let it back in my life anymore and it has no hold on me. Be strong, man.
Think of porn like a grain of sand in an oyster. Each day the oyster adds another layer of pearl around the offensive sand grain. Eventually, with time, the oyster is completely protected from the intruder. You are doing the same thing with porn and your fetish. Each day away from it, it's memory and hold on your brain moves a little further away. The trick is to not let it in at all from here on out. Do not indulge your fetishes, do not let them stay alive. Eventually they will wane from what interests you and you will be excited by other things instead.
I have a fetish myself. It used to occupy 90% of my sexual thought. It has worked for me and it will for you too. I just don't let it back in my life anymore and it has no hold on me. Be strong, man.
well....I've had a slight glimpse of hope last night. I was with my girlfriend and was able to get an erection by just practically looking at her/making out. We fooled around and she decided to give me a blowjob.....except I couldn't orgasm. I didn't get that feeling right when you're "about to bust" at all. I'm seeing a sign of progress but I was just wondering if this is normal? I also realized that I have to stop MO to even thoughts of her, good idea? Just wanted to thank you guys for the support as well; this is a great community and I feel as if more people should be aware of the dangerous effects that porn use can do.
FallenAngel88
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Ups and downs are quite normal during reboot. Reboot is not a straight line, is more a jagged line, like a rollercoaster. You'll have periods of total flatline (very common and necessary, you don't have to worry) and some sparkles of recovered excitement (more and more in time, if you're consistent in your reboot). Never deceive yourself and never despair!
As I told, it's good and healthy that you go on with preliminaries and cuddling with your girlfriend, that will make your reboot easier and faster; at the same time avoid ANY sexual fantasy, that's surely a good idea, because thought can be our "inner porn". Just keep to reality and, if you wanna have an easier reboot, avoid MO at all. The more severe you are with yourself, the faster and better you will recover from PIED and all the side effects/fetishes.
No need to thank, we are all a family here, trying to help each others.
As I told, it's good and healthy that you go on with preliminaries and cuddling with your girlfriend, that will make your reboot easier and faster; at the same time avoid ANY sexual fantasy, that's surely a good idea, because thought can be our "inner porn". Just keep to reality and, if you wanna have an easier reboot, avoid MO at all. The more severe you are with yourself, the faster and better you will recover from PIED and all the side effects/fetishes.
No need to thank, we are all a family here, trying to help each others.
Camouflage
Active Member
I regained morning woods at some point of the reboot process, and it was definitely a good sign! I had previously been at a doctor, because I was worried about my missing MW. The doctor did some tests, and everything was normal. But only rebooting helped getting spontaneous erections back.
My porn addiction also "escalated" from vanilla to more kinky categories. I have been struggling with both ED and DE. But I have made a lot of progress during the past year. I'm sure you will too! But for me quitting porn was not enough, I also needed to quit masturbation for a time (79 days was my longest nofap streak). I am still not 100% cured, and I am staying completely away from porn, and also avoiding M as much as I can.
I had previously been at a doctor, because I was worried about my missing MW. The doctor did some tests, and everything was normal. But only rebooting helped getting spontaneous erections back.My porn addiction also "escalated" from vanilla to more kinky categories. I have been struggling with both ED and DE. But I have made a lot of progress during the past year. I'm sure you will too! But for me quitting porn was not enough, I also needed to quit masturbation for a time (79 days was my longest nofap streak). I am still not 100% cured, and I am staying completely away from porn, and also avoiding M as much as I can.
Phase2
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Dude23--If I were you, I would definitely stop masturbating for a while while you get back on track. It sounds like you are making good progress--morning wood and erections with your girlfriend are encouraging signs of change. This is great. Of course its not all going to happen at once and suddenly you are a sexgod--its going to happen like it is: Fits and starts but with encouraging progress. However, if you want to move this along more quickly, I'd say absolutely, completely stop masturbating. Soon your dick will start craving your gf. Good luck buddy. Lets us know how it goes!