My sex therapist treatment for PIED. I need your opinions on that...

I have been diagnosed with pied by my sex therapist two weeks ago. I have been rebooting for two weeks. I didnt have sex, watch porn and masturbate during tht time. Today i was in my third session with him and he wants me to find to partner to do focus on those things :

* Sensate focus

*first few weeks couples take turn non genital touching establishing an awareness of sensation.

* person touching does so on basis of what interest them or person being touched can guide.

Also he wants me to do :

Erotic bath with a partner, learn the fantasize (masturbating without porn), blind taste and massage.

He said i can do kissing, massaging, cuddling, touching the booty but cannot do penetration neither recieving an oral sex. He also told me i can masturbate as many as possible without porn just fantasize something turns me on. What do you guys think about that ? Is that how rewire with the partner supposed to be ? Also is masturbating without the porn is okay during reboot ? I need everybodys opinions about it. Thank you.

 

Stevew

Well-Known Member
'' i can masturbate as many as possible without porn just fantasize something turns me on. ''
Not sure people will agree with you doing that. If you can get a girl to help you reboot with that is great! did the therapist actually say ' touching the booty '? Just wondering ha.
 
Stevew said:
'' i can masturbate as many as possible without porn just fantasize something turns me on. ''
Not sure people will agree with you doing that. If you can get a girl to help you reboot with that is great! did the therapist actually say ' touching the booty '? Just wondering ha.

He said i can masturbate as much as i want without the porn by just fantasizying something. But no sex no oral and he said i can touch the booty but not genital area. I have some prtners that i have had sex but didnt tell my situation maybe i will just tell them some lies to do those things. I dont feel comfortable to tell the situation. Maybe i will tell them that i have too much in my mind and just wanna relax with kissing and cuddling ????
 

Stevew

Well-Known Member
Tell the girl netflix and chill and surprise here and actually netflix and chill. Girls don't often make the move. Date her for few weeks so she gets feelings for you then talk to her about porn etc.
 
Stevew said:
Tell the girl netflix and chill and surprise here and actually netflix and chill. Girls don't often make the move. Date her for few weeks so she gets feelings for you then talk to her about porn etc.

I already dated with those girls and we fucked already so they ask for sex again and i dont know what to tell them. Maybe i should give some religious reasons or tell them i have little depression going on and not feeling the penetration? Any idea would be appericiated i just dont wanna tell them i have pied and explain everything.  :-[
 
Better than what I went through, when I had to find out that I had PIED at one of the worst times to find out, when it was supposed to be our first night together...
 

Stevew

Well-Known Member
Tell them you are on medication for your health which reduces/stops erections for a period of time. There is such thing. Like say it's a symptom of the medication your taking.
 
Stevew said:
Tell them you are on medication for your health which reduces/stops erections for a period of time. There is such thing. Like say it's a symptom of the medication your taking.

That makes sense. Maybe i will use that. So what do you think about my therapist suggested me to masturbate without porn ? I just dont wanna relapse but im not sure if i listen to him  ???
 

Camouflage

Active Member
I can only say my own experience. I tried to reboot by dropping porn but continuing with MO. I tried it for several months, but it didn't work for me. I saw no improvement in my delayed ejaculation problem. But when I abstained from masturbation I started getting real results (it still took several weeks of no MO).
 

sodonewithit

Active Member
What cam said.  This just plain won't work without dropping the big M.  The therapist is wrong but none of us here are trained, still there is a overwhelming amount of guys who all say the same thing.  You could dismiss it if there aas some direct correlation between us all but there would appear this can't be the case.  This is almost the perfect blind study, random people on the net all doing different things but coming to the same results.
 

Ontrack Man

Active Member
Hello,

I am a sex therapist myself, I hope I can help you out.

all of what your therapist recommended is OK, it is the standard protocol when dealing with ED; except since this is PIED the P has to be out of the question.

I would change just one thing.  If you are going to masturbate (better if you don't), don't do it with fantasies, just to sensations.  It is very possible that if you M you will have porn images in your mind, they are linked to your sexual arousal.  So try just touching your body with no mental images, it doesn't matter if you get an erection or not, the important thing is to enjoy and sensitise your body again.  In time you will learn to fantasise again in a healthy way, but maybe it's too soon for that right now.


Good luck!
 
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