Reboot attempt #2

I first tried a reboot that I started for the new year and it went well. I lasted about 2 weeks and then caved. Since caving, I keep caving every 1-3 days and just can't stop.  :-\ The initial reason I started a reboot is because I could tell I was nowhere near as loving with my past 2 ex girlfriends as I should have been. I was not attentive and sex was either non existent or dull. Shortly after my most recent ex I tried having sex with a female and I could not get hard. That was the turning point and I knew I needed a reboot.

Since my failed attempt at rebooting, I've been extremely discouraged to continue on with it. I've quit writing in my blog and turn to PMO when I'm bored or lonely. I work from home 95% of the time and live alone which makes it extremely difficult. I know I can do it because I went two weeks without PMO and felt great, but caved when I was visiting another country and was feeling lonely in my hotel. I want to get back up on the horse and kick this thing in the rear end. I need help and motivation. I'm starting to feel like a fake as well, I post articles on social media about not watching porn and yet I fall victim to it on the daily. Please, help with this reboot so I can kick out this nasty habit for good!!!

Some of my triggers I am aware of:

  • Dirty talk on Kik messenger (Which i delete and reinstall daily)

  • Yahoo trending section (Click on female names hoping there's a nude picture of them)

  • Lonely / Bored

  • Hot girls in skimpy clothing on Instagram
 
Hey NoPMO4LOVE,

don't get discourage about only making it 1-3 days that's not bad. Just think those are days you would have use to do PMO before you found out. I have been having trouble too, I have been going 1-7 days and I'm finally feeling good about this time. Even though I'm only on day 5. I have made it over 30 days before and I know that we can both make it.

What I try to do when I notice nothing is working is I try to remember what worked before. Just some suggestions to keep you off of kik, change the content setting on your phone so it won't allow you to download it. Mine allows me to put a 4 digits code. I have done that and hiden the code in a place that isn't easily accessible.  You might want to think about uninstalling instagram for the time being as well. Hope that helps. Send me a PM if you need some support.

Good luck and together as a community we can help each other recover.


 
Thanks a ton JHall, I really appreciate the feedback. Even just comments and talking to others really helps out. That's good man congrats on day 6! keep chuggin along! I think it'd help to check in with someone daily just be like hey man what's up howre you feeling? haha sounds weird but i was doing that with a buddy at first and went 2 weeks without porn doing it.

Can you actually do that with kik?? I think I really need to. I'll take a look at that. I'll be doing fine and like on day 2-3 and i'll get a message from a chick with a nude and it triggers me. Going to take a look at that now. I'm going to message you and see if I can keep in rhythm with you or something, maybe we can help each other. This past year has been incredibly rough and i've been falling back on porn so much because of it.

Hung out with this girl last night I met off tinder who is actually in recovery from drugs, really awesome girl and I wanted to save the embarrassment of trying to have sex and withheld ha. She was super cool about it. Thought I'd just throw that out there. So far Day 2 is going smooth though
 
Hey NoPMO4Love,

We could just keeping writing into each other Journals if you want to keep in touch and give encouragement.  Mine is called Changing my life.  You should be able to do that with Kik. If you go to your play store on your phone and go to the settings tab it should and you should see content filter.  I actually have had the same problem with that.  I would download it for a day and waste a lot of time on there.  Then that night or the next day I would delete it and I would be able to go for about a week before downloading it again. 

That's how I made it to my best streak of over 30 days.  I just had filters on the whole time.  I also got rid of tinder and anything to do with online dating.  I have found that since my brain is so use to getting it from the computer that I can't be doing that online.  I go from trying to find a girl to date in the beginning of the week and then by the end of the week, it all of the sudden goes I have to find someone right now. Then when I can't do that I end up resorting to something else like P or Kik.  So I plan on trying to quit those for around two months.  If I don't find a girlfriend by then I might go back, but I have decided yet.  Hope this helps and don't be afraid to send me a PM.  I haven't tried that yet.
 
Yeah I'm cool with that! I will find yours and post in it as well! Yeah I took a look because I have an iPhone, I can set a pin when downloading all apps but not a specific app. Haha i wish I could just call apple and be like yo block this permanently. Your story seriously sounds EXACTLY the same as mine. You try and find someone to hang out with with good intentions and all of a sudden it becomes sexual the longer you wait and you just want to find someone to be dirty with and kik makes it easy. I've dumped up to 4 hours just sending pics with girls back and forth in a single session before. Super unhealthy

Thanks again for the encouragement. Today will be day 3 and I've got a good feeling about this time around. I'm going to take a look for your journal and post
 
Today will be day 3 and I'm incredibly happy with myself the past few days. I've been pushing myself to go out and meet people more and more. I'm trying to abstain from anything sexually with women right now until I'm confident in my sexual capabilities again. I've had some pretty strong urges to look at porn, thankfully I've been able to hold back. I've managed 2 days without kik thus far and hope to keep off of it. I read an article yesterday that did an interview of a guy who was addicted to porn which you can find here: http://fightthenewdrug.org/porn-addict-all-i-see-are-body-parts/#sthash.IlKi5LDX.07WYZGLr.dpbs
and it literally disgusted me and not because I was judging him, but because it made me realize I am the same exact way. Not just with women, but with friends. I interact with people differently based upon their looks and body type. I don't want to be that kind of judgmental person who is wired to connect with people only on such a shallow level.

I also had a girl over last night that I met at a bar last wednesday, however I let her know it was strictly as friends for the time being, which I'm really glad I did. She was extremely odd and possibly bi polar. we watched 1 episode of house of cards and she said she was going to go and drink with her friends. Normally this would have really hurt my ego and feelings, however I'm noticing I'm getting stronger and more confident and comfortable as an individual and it didn't hurt in the slightest. I recognized she was quite odd and it had nothing to do with me boring her or anything. She text me later that night apologizing and saying she wants to hang out again. Pretty sure she has ADD or something lol.

Anyways, hoping for another P free day today. Cheers everyone!
 
Sounds like you are doing well man.  three days is a nice streak. hopefully you can get to day four and stop the 1-3 day caving in.  Thxs for responding to my posts and thxs for reading them.  I haven't watched that video you posted yet, but I plan to sometime.  Also you don't have to abstain from everything sexually, they say that light touching and kissing is good and that it could help you recover quicker.  I try to think that anything that doesn't light up the P pathways is fine, you want to rewire it to real women.  Hope this helps.
 
Day 4 has actually been relatively easy to not look at P. I went snowboarding yesterday and took the day off work so it was incredibly easy to not look at P. I feel like the first few days are the hardest, at least up until like 2-3 weeks which is the longest I've experienced. I didn't cave because I had an urge it was because I was upset so the urge was not the factor.

@JHall Of course dude! That's how we'll help each other out just keep up with each other's posts. Exactly! I feel day 1-3 are the hardest as well bro. Is that true about what you said with kissing / touching? I'm cutting off sexual stuff with women because of the embarrassment factor. Ever since I experienced ED with that one girl I don't even want to try again, although what's funny is because im going to go get beers with that same girl in about an hour heh. Cheers mate stay strong we've got this!
 
@NoPMO4LOVE, congrats on making 4 days. You got over the hump!! Nice job! Snowboarding is a great way to take your mind off of it. If your in a place where there is no temptations it makes it that much easier.

Regarding my last post, I'm pretty sure I saw light touching and kissing helps recover quicker. I think I saw it on Yourbrainonporn some where. I'll try to find a link.

Nice job again getting to day 4!! And we definitely got this bro! Nothing stopping us now!!
 
Thanks again man! I really appreciate it! The days are flying by now! I'm getting really emerged in work and it makes it way easier considering i work from home. Congrats to you as well! Day 4 brotha! We definitely have got this. Keep at it broski! Hit me up if you need to chat with anyone. I can chat on skype or through the forums if you'd like man
 

TP

Member
Hi NoPMO4Love,

it is good to see you back on track now. My situation ir similar to yours. I was doing great in the begging of the year. I held myself for  3 weeks without a relapse. After that I felt into a chane of relapses. I am on day 7 now, so we can grow together.:) I will watch you everyday, bro.
Keep strong and post everyday.:)
 
Hey Adam! Definitely, thanks a ton I appreciate the support. It sounds like we're both on the same track so we can totally keep other in check and fight this nasty habit! It definitely can be tough, I never thought quitting porn would be so difficult. I think that's the case with most people though, they don't realize it's an addiction until they try to quit themselves.

Today will be day 7 for me and happily i'll be gone a good majority of the day in LA with some buddies. We're going on a food hop, hitting up a few food joints down town so that should keep me busy for a good chunk of the day. Other than that this entire week has been super busy for me so it's been relatively nice and smooth
 

TP

Member
1 week! Nice man! I have red that you spend a lot of time in front of computer and it is a main problem for You. I have the same situation, so I would suggest to use K9 it saved my ass a lot of times!:)

Have a good sunday with Your friends!
 
Hey Adam! Thanks for the reply and the 1 week mark :) I actually downloaded K9 but got annoyed because it was blocking sites that I go to that are non pornographic so I just uninstalled it. I was too lazy to see if I could configure it, which I'm sure I could. Maybe I'll give it another shot later on when I have down time! I have heard it has worked wonders for several people on here.

Day 7/8 I just got back from LA visiting my mom in the hospital. About to take my dog for a run, possibly nap, get up, grocery shop and do some more coding! Hope it'll be enough to keep any cravings away! Cheers all!!
 
Hey NoPMO4LOVE, sounds like you have been doing better. Sry to hear about your mom. Hope she is alright. 8 days is a pretty good streak you got going. Be careful about getting back from trips.  I find for some reason when I go on vacation I can stay away from PMO, before and during, but as soon as I get back a few days later I fall right back in it.

It's funny I also got annoyed by k9 because of the samething. It also sounds like you have a nice plan to stay away from the cravings, keep it up. We are both at the week 1 mark! We got this!
 
Yeah definitely! Thanks man I appreciate it. Very ecstatic about my 9 day mark today! I haven't really been having any withdrawal symptoms this time around but then again I'm not too deep in yet. Things will be slowing down for me a bit this week so that's where the real challenge will be at. The trip was just a day trip, I live 45 mins from LA haha.

We do got this! Getting there. Keep at it yourself brotha! Today I have work and then want to continue building my website so hopefully it'll be enough to keep urges at bay!
 
Keep it up man! your almost to 10 days.  Keep at it bro and thinking about work is a really good way to keep the urges at bay.  I know it has helped me more than a few times in the past. 
 
@JHall thanks brotha! :D I'm not so much struggling with PMO but am still MO once every other day or so. Not sure how bad that is but i know the true culprit is porn itself! Keep strong!
 
Hey NoPMO4Love,  Keep at it man.  MO is not bad just keep on eye on what you are using to do it.  I use to do that too on my other streaks and it worked pretty well, it got me above day 20 a few times.  Just watch out for the feeling of it getting boring.  My head after a while would get bored of it and the cravings got worse to look at porn.  I feel like after a while the cravings got really bad and it made MO feel so boring that I couldn't do it without watching Porn. 

Keep it up bro we are both into week 2 and are over ten days!!
 
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