DE - how long till yours was cured? Share please...

bbkenpo

Member
I am 54 years old and perfectly healthy.  I acquired DE about 4 years ago, right when I was getting divorced.  Never had the issue but once I did I could not finish while with a woman.  Masturbation, and especially with porn always worked.  I watched porn so I would have something to think about and also model in my mind.  I am not sure if I had a death grip syndrome but I suspect both that and watching porn.  One thing for sure, after trying to ejaculate normally with a woman, the next day or that night I would just masterbate to release.

I am breaking that cycle now ? I hope.  Have not masturbated or watched porn for one week.  I do not want to go back.  My new girlfriend just got back from 5 days away.  We made love for an hour.  I stayed hard the entire time thank goodness.  I got so close, so close to cumming during sex with her but it just would not pop!  This is so frustrating.  Logic tells me to simply stay the course and I will get it back.  Anyone who has cured DE with nofap please share how long did it take?  I am going insane.  Thank you.  Also what was it like when you finally were able to cum with a woman, did it just happen?  Did you notice anything different?  Please share and thank you.
:)
 

Brooklyn Jerry

Active Member
I would say the problem is you are used to more pressure or friction then what is felt from a women's vagina. I at times would have to manually JO after finishing with my lady. A few times even her going down in me was not enough. It can be due to having orgasimed earlier that day while watching porn, or loss of sensitivity do to my sick being used to my hand . But it will heal, just leve your hands away .
 

pearland71

Active Member
Kenop-

This week is my one year anniversary NO PMO (best guess but it's close). I had a dead dick, no feeling, no libido, no morning wood.....I couldn't get a hard-on to save my life....With the help of my GF and this board I'm doing 100000000% better than I was middle of last year. Morning wood is back, erections are 60-75% there BUT my libido is still lacking.

My PIED hit me overnight back in Feb-March 2015.....literally...I couldn't get hard watching porn or trying to have sex with my GF. Luckily, this also killed my desire to PMO so cutting that out was easy but it also killed my overall sex drive. It's been a long road of frustration to say the least.

I'm not 100% cured but I feel like a new 44 year old man compared to last year.

Best of luck.

TJ
 

bbkenpo

Member
Thank you so so much!!!  I am only on day 9 but it feels like forever.  I don't ever ever want to watch porn again or masturbate.  In some ways I guess I am lucky in that I have no problem getting erect and staying erect.  But not being able to finish is at some point going to result in not getting erect again.  So I will stick to no PM until I can cum with my partner.  She was gone for a week and I really was hoping I would finish with her, but I only got super close.... I can't wait till I have the O.
 

YoungFire

Member
Took me 5-6 days to cure my DE. But then again I'm only 18 and have only been watching for a few years.

Best news is, DE takes less time to cure than PIED, in a whole month or two I'm sure my brain must be able to return back its normal state when I was 13-14 and had no idea what porn was.


Hang in there!
 

Camouflage

Active Member
I made some comments also in the other thread, I can totally relate to your situation. It may be just a strange coincidence, but my DE problem also started when I got divorced! Perhaps we both have some kind of psychological factor also contributing to our ejaculation problem? I did not have any sexual problems during my marriage (which ended 18 months ago). But after my marriage I couldn't orgasm at all during sex.

But I did find help from nofapping. It took me about a month of no MO (I did have some sex, so it was not a strict hard mode) to see progress. And for me it was a slow process, not a sudden miracle. But slowly I have gotten better and better. :) I am sure you will too! For me, getting rid of porn was not enough, I had to quit masturbation as well.

As a sidenote, due to my low sensitivity, I also started restoring my foreskin with some stretching exercises. Many restored people feel that foreskin really helps keeping the penis more sensitive.
 

bbkenpo

Member
@camoflauge Thanks so much!  Yes it is crazy how mine also started literally at the end of my marriage.  I am sure I was doing things a certain way in our sex life.  Also I am praying that no M and no P will cure it.  I am sexually active with a new partner but still after 10 days no ability to O but I do feel close several times.

Tonight she is spending the night and we will give it a go again.  I cannot wait for the first time.  I will be so happy!  Thanks for all the support and I am glad to support you as well.
 

bbkenpo

Member
Success!!! First time cumming in so long! I can?t even believe I am writing this, I feel like a miracle has taken place.  It has been 10 days since starting no PMO.  I have read story after story of success from DE and always knew I could do it but of course still questioned if it would ever happen to me. 

Last night with my new GF while having regular sex I had the most amazing mind-blowing orgasm ever. It was from penetration in doggie position.  Thank you to everyone thank you for all of your stories and assistance. 

Of course I have no idea what happens next with O but I know one thing for sure, no P and no M.  She was as happy as I was because she shared in the experience.  I don?t feel like a sexual loser anymore or someone that just has to ?go with it? and accept it.  I know now that I AM capable of being normal.
 

YoungFire

Member
bbkenpo said:
Success!!! First time cumming in so long! I can?t even believe I am writing this, I feel like a miracle has taken place.  It has been 10 days since starting no PMO.  I have read story after story of success from DE and always knew I could do it but of course still questioned if it would ever happen to me. 

Last night with my new GF while having regular sex I had the most amazing mind-blowing orgasm ever. It was from penetration in doggie position.  Thank you to everyone thank you for all of your stories and assistance. 

Of course I have no idea what happens next with O but I know one thing for sure, no P and no M.  She was as happy as I was because she shared in the experience.  I don?t feel like a sexual loser anymore or someone that just has to ?go with it? and accept it.  I know now that I AM capable of being normal.

exactly how i felt when i came from having sex for the first time. it's a great feeling isn't it?
 

Devo22

Member
At 54 years old you should not be ejaculating during sex. Try taking it easy during sex next time and just stop before you finish. You will feel great, expand your power, up your penis health and not be stressing over something you shouldnt be doing in the first place. Most of us are addicted to orgasm in the first place, that is why we keep relapsing. PLease read
www.reuniting.info

post any questions
 

Devo22

Member
You should not be ejaculating especially during reboot. You should be cultivating your male energy (semen) like cultures have been teaching for thousands of years. We dont have unlimited supply of semen, that is why prostate cancer is on the rise, TOO MUCH EJACULATING.

Please read "cultivating male energy" by mantak chia

please visit www.reuniting.info

Learn about non-ejaculatory sex. Become a god in the bedroom by completely rebooting hard mode followed by non ejaculatory sex leading to hours of amazing sex while upping your energy instead of feeling post ejaculatory grogginess, brain fog, tiredness, craving carbohydrates....
 

bbkenpo

Member
Unfortunately I relapsed and masturbated on Saturday night.  This was after cumming two nights in a row.  I have not cum two nights in a row since my divorce 4 years ago.

I am ashamed and don?t feel really great about myself, had to reset my counter.  What happened was we were making love many times during the day.  I had no issue getting or staying hard.  She had multiple orgasms. I kept getting so close, literally right on the edge.  I kept telling myself I was ok, that it would happen or pass.  Neither happened.  I had that feeling where I literally could not stand it.  I had to have a release.  She was more than willing to give me a super amazing and very long HJ AND BJ.  But nothing happened, I could not release.  So I masturbated with her there.  I was using my hand and motion and finally I came but I broke the rules.  Now she is back staying at her place and my unit is very sore from overuse but I am so happy about ejaculating twice and also sad that I relapsed.
 
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