Reboot 90 Days completed yesterday, PMO'ed yesterday

Phoenix25

Member
So a little background on myself.  I am 32 years old and suffering from prone position/porn induced ED.  I started MO'ing when I was around 13 years old to pictures and worked my way up.  My biggest issue was that I discovered prone mastrabation.  Back on Oct 26 I decided to do a week reboot to try and resolve the issue.  After doing a bit of research on the matter I found YBOP and decided to go the whole 90 days.  I tried to do hard mode and the strange part it was not that tough.  I did have a few ups and downs during the last 3 months, mostly downs.  I did feel a bit sluggish and forced myself to the gym whenever I got the chance.  After about 60 days I tried to test myself with very little success.  Not a big deal at that point, however I noticed I started to fantasize about real women early in the morning.  I would find myself getting a bit of arousal early in the mornings.  In addition I noticed the return of my morning wood.  The downside is I have hit a major flatline during the whole process.  It is still going on currently.

Then about one day a week after hitting day 60 I tried to arouse myself the traditional way without any external stimulation.  I had very little success, but I did not push the matter.  Yesterday after hitting 90 days I began to worry I have not O'ed in 3 months, so I PMO'ed using prone (which I did not want to do).  I lasted all but 5 seconds.  Strange part is after I was done I had no desire to do it again and I feel confident that I can go a very long stretch without doing it again.  I think am going to try ultra hard mode for the next 30 days and then see if I can MO with no stimulation and using the proper manner. 

I really want to beat this thing and get my head back on straight.  The whole asexual experience is a bit scary to handle for a long period though.  You feel as though if something is missing from your life.  Also I have been single for a very long time which I am sure is not helping my cause.  I have very minimal actual experience for my age.  I am trying to get around this whole issue and any suggests would be greatly appreciated, thanks!
 

Gambit123

Active Member
For what it is worht, i am also 2, have had PIED for 8 years ...i dont have the prone position issue so i am not sure if this changes anything I say here...but I am almost done with 90 days of rebooting. First month was just reduced masturbation and the last 2 months htough have been hard mode...and I am just seeing noticeable results (harder and longer lasting erections but still not yet completely healed, may take another 3 months or longer) and they are only some days. Point I am trying to make, after almost 90 days I am just starting to see results. So the reboot is different for everyone. So it could take 4 or 5 months for you to start seeing some results evne though the standard is 90 days. I have read many success stories that took between 6 months and a year. Gabe took 9 months. I continually give this advice to myself because I am an impatient person but I think we just need to be patient. I also, from what I have read, do not think you completely undid your 90 day hardmode by relapsing. I read one success story where I guy did 90 days hardmode, relapsed, then did antoehr 90 hard and was healed. This is just my two cents and again not sure how the prone position issue affects this advice. You may want to email Gary from YBOP and GAbe to ask about the prone position MO issue. Hope this helps and stay strong !
 

Phoenix25

Member
Thanks for the advice.  Like stated earlier in a way I was lucky.  Once I made up my mind to stop, I literally stopped all together.  Yes my mind did wander here and there.  However, as a male I just feel that it is in our nature.  I cannot not look at an attractive women you see in your day to day.  I am a bit worried to start dating while dealing with this issue.  But I don't want to walk away from opportunities either.

Even today I feel fine and I don't feel like I am having the relapse that people talk about on this forum.  So in a way it is a good sign.
 

Phase2

Well-Known Member
While I'm not an expert, I have read a lot and I would suggest you may think about working in some rewiring into your process. After 90 days, it may help. It doesn't mean you invite someone over for a barn burning sexfest, not at first, but maybe just a date, holding hands, kissing, etc. This gets your brain working on responding to real live humans and this process takes some time too. More info here:

http://www.yourbrainonporn.com/erectile-dysfunction-question
 

JayII

Member
My opinion is that it is a evolution on your recovery,the simple fact that you are not force feeding your brain with porn every other day will allow it to reboot if you continue on the same path, It's hard but keep going
 

Phoenix25

Member
Thanks guys, I appreciate the input and support.  I agree the term relapse is a tough term to identify in this forum.  I have PMO'ed once in 90 days which to me is an impressive feat on my first go around.  It was good confidence booster to my willpower as well.  The flatline is the one thing that is bothering me.  It appears to have lasted months in my case.  The third week of my reboot I was feeling urges, but I was able to keep them under control.  They went away after a few days and I have been in "limbo" since.  Is there any way to get out of a long term flatline?  Should I go for light intimate contact with women to speed up reboot?
 

Gambit123

Active Member
i think you should embrace the flatline. If you had a high libido during this time, think how hard the reboot would be!

I am almost at 60 days hardmode, i would say 80% i have been in a flatline and the days where my libido surfaced and i couldn't stop thinking about sex with a hot girl from my past....those days were tough!

I think we just need to have faith that we will come out of the flatline. Also, from what i have read, the theory is that during the flatline is when the deepest healing is occurring so perhaps take it as a sign that you are experiencing the greatest healing during your flatline.
 
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