PIED from my first girl

Hi everyone,

I am writing you from Italy, and as most of you, I am a porn addicted.
I am sorry for my english so scholastic.
I watching online porn from 13 years (I am 28 years old) and I never had problems in masturbation, up to my first time with my first girlfriend, when I had my first ED problems.
I choice 4 girls in my life, and with all of them, it was the same.
With first girls, I thinked that the cause was her which did not provoke me properly.
With second (a milf) I blamed the performance anxiety.
With third I said mw that is sex didn't works well, was for her physical aspect.
But with the girl I am with today, I didn't use alibi, so I started to make me some questions. So I started to search online and I found this forum.

Other informations about me.
I never was addicted to porn up to limit my life. I always been a normal boy, with school and then job, Even though I've always been very timid with girl specially.
So I always (Except for rare exceptions) used porn at the night, before go to sleep, for have masturbation. And somehow it happened to jump for fatigue, for example.

I have sex always in my mind, I am excited also from girls in real life, but when I arriving to have sex with them, it appens such as said before.
I had many many many Sexual intercourse Go discreetly, with an erection up to 80% ? But fatigue I can reach orgasm, but ONLY if I fantastic while I have sex with her, or watching porn together.
I can not have sex without thinking, or masturbating without thought or without porn.
And this is so orrible...because I can not simply make love with my girlfriend leaving me totally into physical sensation...but I must to think something about my extreme fantasy, otherwise I lose erection.
If I was able to always complete sex in this way it would also be good, but unfortunately many times I had to quit, and it was very humiliating and frustrating for me and for her.

So I want to get out of this tunnel and be able to have sex simply by pacing, to just excite myself by looking at it and touching (which rarely happens), and even masturbating without the need of thought or porn.

Do you have advices for me?
How long do you think I will use it for reboot?

Thank you.

Hope.

Quit masturbating,porn/porn fantasizing and take a 90 days break. You might need more time to recover.

Thank you men.
And during this time, How to do with my girlfriend? We stay together from 2 months and between two weeks her come to me and will sleep with me. Thanks.

I want to say other information. Once read about dopamina and porn, I tried to masturbate only with hand and sensation, so without fantasizing or watch something. In the beginning was difficult, but I do that 2 times. Do you think that I am go on the true way? Thanks

Ciao, qui abbiamo tutti piu' o meno lo stesso problema. Ti consglio di astenerti dal guardare video porno e qualunque altro stimolo artificiale (immagini o video) e di non pensarci nemmeno. Non e' strettamente necessario astenersi dalla masturbazione ma e' consigliato limitarla. Il fatto che tu abbia una ragazza e' benefico, perche' ti permettera' di abituarti alla presenza fisica di una persona in carne e ossa mentre il tuo cervello 'dimentica' gli stimuli artificiali. Anche se hai problemi di performance inizialmente, migliorerai col passare del tempo (almeno cosi' e' stato per me). Ti consiglio anche di essere sincero con la tua ragazza e di informarla riguardo al tuo problema, onde evitare incompresioni, e assicurati che capisca che c'e' una soluzione a questo problema.
Buona fortuna!

Gentilissimo odin, sei italiano per caso?

Vorrei farti una domanda: poco fa sono stato in spiaggia, e c'era una coppia con lei completamente nuda...ovviamente non potevo stare a fissarla, ma ogni occasione era buona per gettare l'occhio. Non ho avuto un'erezione in spiaggia, semplicemente perch? non ho iniziato a pensare con la mente.
Secondo te, o meglio secondo le regole che in questi casi vanno seguite, ? salutare o meno eccitarsi su una donna reale dal vivo? Donna che per? non ? e non sar? mai tua.
E se penso a lei tornato a casa? Ovviamente senza masturbarmi, ma semplicemente pensando di fare sesso con lei. E' un male vero?

Grazie infinite.

No, non ? un male masturbarsi pensando ad atti 'normali' con donne reali perch? l'uomo l'ha fatto dall'inizio dei tempi..haha. L'importante ? non richiamare alla memoria atti o scenari dai video porno perch? cos? facendo si rallenterebbe il processo di 'reset' di cui abbiamo bisogno.
Comunque si anch'io sono italiano

Quindi anche se penso di farlo con la mia ragazza, anzi forse dovrebbe essere anche meglio, cos? magari mi fa venire pi? voglia al momento di farlo, giusto?
Con lei finora c'? stato soltanto masturbazione reciproca, ancora non siamo arrivati al sesso, ma tra due settimane andremo in vacanza insieme, e sicuramente capiter? occasione.

Invece masturbarmi con sue foto intime (che ho ovviamente) ?

Si secondo me quello ci pu? stare

Perfetto grazie amico

Don't masturbate, watch porn or orgasm. I'd tell your girlfriend that you have a problem in your brain (don't talk about porn addiction). Say you need to avoid masturbation for a few months. If she likes you enough, she'll be supportive!

Up to discover porn addiction, I said her that I am not as other boys, which they excited just for physical contact, and she loves it, because she think that for me is not the same with all girls, And this makes her feel special.

Thanks man

Hi man! I'm 28 too and I also had 4 GF (now it's 5th) and had the same problems with them at the begining of sexual life.
Tomorrow will be month of my rebooting period and I still have a problems with real GF.
See this post => http://legacy.rebootnation.org/index.php?topic=13798.0

But in fact my desire to watch porn dissapeared I fell progress in many aspects the life is gaining momentum and i'm interesting what will be next. I feel great despite the fealure, so see resulst after time it will need 8)

Today is my 13th day, and when I chatting with my gf, I have a lot of wish!
Hope that in real will be the same.

I would to let you know a story.

Never, never...I wanted to lick vagina of my gf, I always said that it's for passive men!
With my new gf, and after 7-10 days no PMO, I started to want it in my thoughts...and this arouse me so much.

I never had sex with her, because we don't live in the same city (there are 150 Km between us). We stay together from 3 months, and so far we just masturbated, and one time she tried to make me oral (obviously doesn't go well, I was in erection 60-70%).

Saturday we will stay together, and I hope that sex will be happen.
I am very load and motivated, because I am in 16 days no PMO, so saturday will be 18.
And I am positive about it, because I never wanted to make oral sex to a girl, NEVER!

Do you think that reboot starts to give first results, or this change is just for her?
I would to know your ideas about that.

Thanks.

Today is the 19th without porn and masturbation!

Yesterday was the most beautiful day of my life!
I had the first time sex with my gf, and I was aroused ALL the time, incredible! I said her that, and she was very happy! I said her, because in the weeks before yesterday, I tried to explain her my situation (PIED), so if it went bad, she would not have thought of being the cause!

So I want to tell you that this is a semi-success, semi because I never had sex with her before start reboot, so I don't know if everything went well for no PMO or just for her, because she arouse me like no other!
By the way, before yesterday, we had reciprocal masturbation, and I didn't aroused like yestarday. So I think that reboot has his merit!
Oh, last but not least: after 18 days without orgasm, I cummed really really really much, what the fuck! Never seen a male pornstar cummed in that way: 6 sprays really intense, and after that, I started to smile for happiness!

Hope that this can help you!

Reboot will continue, I want to fuck hard FOREVER! Yeahhhhhhhh!!!

Lol!!!  ;D Congrats man,keep going on the path you're on and you'll be good.

Thank you Jones, I'll do it!  8)

I want to talk to you about a personal reflection. I'm thinking that is a benefit to think about a series of body parts during reboot, for example: ass, vagina, tits, legs, ecc...but not for masturbation and not for think about virtual sex, but simply to help our brain to start wishing a real woman!

I never wanted think about oral sex (me to her), because I am really dominant, and I always thought that it's just for passive man!
During reboot I started to wish lick vagina, I started to arouse for vagina's hair, I started to think about smell of my girl, and I started to wish my girl, no others!
So when saturday I was there with her, I was aroused for those reasons.

Probably I'm saying a lot of bullshit, in fact I am not saying that I am sure about it works for all, but I would to discuss with you.

Do you think that during reboot you just have to wait that all will return back good, or do you think that my idea has his importance?

Thanks.

Do you think that reboot can starts also without a flatline period?

Yea. When I first tried the reboot I didn't go into a flatline. If you're really wired up in p there is a high chance that you're gonna experience it.