Strip clubs?

Telemachus

New Member
Howdy. I'm 32 years old and about day 34 into the reboot. It's been going pretty well so far. No P, no O, and no edging. However, occasionally me and a buddy like to go to a local club on the weekends to check out the talent and occasionally get a dance. In general, would you folks say say that such behavior hurts or helps the cause?

TIA
 

Reso

New Member
On one side of the argument, she is a real life human, the stripper is flesh and in front of you. You can smell her, possible touch although sexual activities are clearly off limits. While this positively reenforces your ideas on human skin to skin pleasure, she is still only fulfilling your fantasy. The sexual viewings you want to encounter to improve your condition are the ones of a parter you can touch and fulfil your desires. The reason you may be experiencing ed/de is because you let your fantasies run wild and can no longer respond to the natural human act of love when presented.

Everyone is clearly different and different approaches work for different people. Decide wether or not you feel it is working against your condition and act according.
 

Viper

Well-Known Member
I would stay away from anything that builds your lust unless it's a willing partner/lover.
Going to titty bars are designed for you to stare at naked women you certainly
wouldn't mind having sex with. But since you're not, it's only doing what
porn does for you only you can't jack off in the bar.
 
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Mart71

Guest
Imo it's not artificial stimulation, so it shouldn't have an effect on porn related issues. You need to make up your own mind how much it contributes to you objectifying women.
 

TheBadger

Member
My opinion is that one aspect of porn addiction and its relating conditions is the endless novelty of searching and clicking. This is why I tend to encourage people to find a permanent partner to rewire with.
Remove the novelty of seeing loads of naked girls at a strip club should help. Furthermore, when your libido returns it might make it harder to resist the urge to masturbate as the strippers will certainly make you horny.
 

Untolerable

Member
I just had sex for the first time since I started the reboot - WITH A CONDOM  8) -which as we know is basically ED's glove of doom. - regardless, I visited the strip club twice during my reboot anddd would not recommend it.

My thoughts on why not to go

1 don't go because I got a lapdance and could not get anything even then and had the girl all confused
2 don't go because I then was stuck fantasizing about the girls for up to two days after, and M to the O'd and had to reset my counter
3 don't go because if you are like me you are blowing about $100 an hour, and that could be money well spent with your real lady friend

My thoughts on why to go

if you have not MO'd for like 3 months I'd go to see if you can get an erection due to strictly mental stimulation - it took me a while before I got here  - but I'm talking totally hands free - I think this is a better way to see your progress then slipping up and MO'ing with the death grip.
 

Brooklyn Jerry

Active Member
The worst thing would be to go to a strip club then come home and JO thinking about what you just saw. I don't think  its a good idea since you are on this site looking to quite PMO. It may lead to going back to where you began.



 
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