No.turning.back
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"Never say never", but I have no intention of going back. Once I put the pieces together, realizing that it all boils down to porn, I woke up. I don't remember when I porn became a problem. I had to have been at least 14 when I started watching porn and looking at pictures online, but it wasn't an issue right away. I don't remember the last time I was able to get it up just by thoughts/fantasizing. I've always needed something visual, at least that I can remember.
I'm going on 4 weeks since I last PMO'ed, or had an orgasm in general. In fact Monday will be 28 days. it hasn't been a perfect 4 weeks. After week one, before I had done enough research to understand that even fantasizing about porn will slow a reboot, I tried to masturbate to thoughts alone. During week 2 I came across pictures, an again before I had a complete understanding, figured if I look but don't masturbate, it's ok. I ended up trembling and full of anxiety as I went to sleep, because I essentially tortured myself. The good news is that I have gone the 4 weeks without bingeing or edging and falling into the old cycle. Now that I have a solid understanding of the science, I'm being very cautious with social media. I never used it as a substitute, but I'm sure there are triggers there.
I've seen many people comment about low libido, or no libido, but I'm horny as ever. It sucks, because I can't do anything about it. The past two days have been horribly depressing. I'm not sure that it's so much the reboot, thought some have blamed depression on the reboot. I think it's because I'm having trouble not thinking about this process, which seems infinitely long, and there's a fear that it won't help in the end. I'm not going back to porn, it's not an option, but the fear of this not working is not easy to deal with. I'm trying my best to be productive. I have a job. I've also gone hiking with friends twice recently and started to jog. I jogged monday-thursday this week. It feels good to grow as a person and leave porn behind, but at the same time this lingering fear in the back of my mind that rebooting won't work is impossible to avoid.
I've seen lots of comments stating that it takes people longer to reboot now because we've been consuming porn for longer. But original rebooters, like Gabe, had watched porn starting at a young age too. I think it's more the fact that we focus on rebooting too much. Gary Wilson has said it numerous times, anxiety and fear also generate dopamine. Could stressing about the reboot prolong things?
I've had OCD since I was very young, so obsessing comes naturally to me. As an adult, I've learned to manage myself, but this process is a real challenge for the OCD.
I'm going on 4 weeks since I last PMO'ed, or had an orgasm in general. In fact Monday will be 28 days. it hasn't been a perfect 4 weeks. After week one, before I had done enough research to understand that even fantasizing about porn will slow a reboot, I tried to masturbate to thoughts alone. During week 2 I came across pictures, an again before I had a complete understanding, figured if I look but don't masturbate, it's ok. I ended up trembling and full of anxiety as I went to sleep, because I essentially tortured myself. The good news is that I have gone the 4 weeks without bingeing or edging and falling into the old cycle. Now that I have a solid understanding of the science, I'm being very cautious with social media. I never used it as a substitute, but I'm sure there are triggers there.
I've seen many people comment about low libido, or no libido, but I'm horny as ever. It sucks, because I can't do anything about it. The past two days have been horribly depressing. I'm not sure that it's so much the reboot, thought some have blamed depression on the reboot. I think it's because I'm having trouble not thinking about this process, which seems infinitely long, and there's a fear that it won't help in the end. I'm not going back to porn, it's not an option, but the fear of this not working is not easy to deal with. I'm trying my best to be productive. I have a job. I've also gone hiking with friends twice recently and started to jog. I jogged monday-thursday this week. It feels good to grow as a person and leave porn behind, but at the same time this lingering fear in the back of my mind that rebooting won't work is impossible to avoid.
I've seen lots of comments stating that it takes people longer to reboot now because we've been consuming porn for longer. But original rebooters, like Gabe, had watched porn starting at a young age too. I think it's more the fact that we focus on rebooting too much. Gary Wilson has said it numerous times, anxiety and fear also generate dopamine. Could stressing about the reboot prolong things?
I've had OCD since I was very young, so obsessing comes naturally to me. As an adult, I've learned to manage myself, but this process is a real challenge for the OCD.