Progress?

Untolerable

Member
So I want to report two 'progress'-like things that have occurred over the past three days and please tell me if this means I am close to being 'cured'.

Woke up with MW -110% the other day and went the bathroom, took a cold shower - of course by now the MW is gone.  Get back in bed to just think for a second and immediately start fantasizing about my GF - and despite having just had a cold shower - I got an 80-85% erection and did not touch myself at all - first time I have had one brought on totally mentally in years.  -I did not masturbate but I did have a tremendous urge to.

This morning, I did not wake up with MW - first time in a while, however I did have a few drinks last night which ruin REM sleep, hurting MW odds... anywho - Go to a meeting this morning with this guy and he is talking and then all of a sudden - random erection - 80-85% with NO Fantasy thoughts.  I have not had a random erection in years.

Then about two hours ago I was driving to visit a client, and listening to some EDM thinking about work - once again not fantasizing. and BAM - another erection hands free and this one was prob 60-65% - but still def an erection and I suddenly felt a high libido for the first time in a while.

Major progress?  Does this mean the end is close?  I would love to sleep with my GF finally.
 

savingmysoul

Active Member
Morning wood is great in the fact that you have started to heal, and you can see and feel that things do work down there.

the only way you will know where you are in your progress will be to see how you consistantly respond to your girl.  Morning wood unfortunately does not guarantee one free from pied.

Hang tough, stay committed to no P and no M!

It has no place in our lives anymore.
 

Untolerable

Member
Yeah, I have had MW consistently for about a month/month and a half now. - I mean I got an erection mentally without using my hands.  And I got a random erection with no fantasy... twice.
 

Untolerable

Member
Soooo.... is this a sign of progress or what?

I got two more erections yesterday without my hands as well- just random like you get as a kid.
 
To me those are for sure signs of progress. Check out YBOP's 'normal' checklist. I'd stick with it and try to add rewiring if you can.
 

savingmysoul

Active Member
Yes i would think that is a sign of moving in the right direction.

The real test will be when you are with a real person, and you consistantly respond well, and not having to go through ups and downs.

but it sounds like you re on the right path.

P & M has no place in our lives - hang tough
 

Cerati

Member
Of course there's progress out there but it doesn't mean you should quit your process and start P and/or M again.

You should completely beat that porn addiction before calling yourself victorious!
 

Untolerable

Member
yeah, I inquire because my GF two days ago mentioned that starting thursday every night she wants cuddling, void of clothing - and she is saying this because she wants us to have sex.

-the problem has been I have not had sex with her once in three months as I've been rebooting, and in the only case where I tried to the ED hit and it was uber embarrassing. She said tonight is the night basically - butttt... i'm wondering if these are signs i'm ready or if the ED will quick in again.
 

Eidan

Active Member
If i can give you a lame advise, concentrate on her and not on your cock: easy to say, harder to do, every time I m checking if my is ok, i start to lose it almost immediately.


Do you all consider that the flatline is a progress in itself ? I mean, does this mean that your brain is starting to reboot, killing the bad paths ? is a reboot even possible without any flatline ?

thanks
 

Untolerable

Member
I had a flatline - which lasted for a month/month and a half - I have been doing cold showers, meditation, meditating trying to feel heat down around my lower member so it didn't feel like a dead limb anymore, staying P free, have M'd three times in about 30 days and am using ("Man1 Man Oil" - Natural Penile Health Cream) which I got off Amazon - and my libido has been def back big time.

Just cuddling and kissing results in an erection now - BUT I loose it quickly - BUT I'm not capitalizing on it.

As for thinking of her and not thinking of my member - honestly I can work on that, but I have almost an anxxiety attack each time because of fear of the stinken ED.

 

Eidan

Active Member
Try no to masturbate at all, no edging, and no orgasm.

Regarding losing it as soon as you start with her, I think what they say about performance anxiety is quite right. Just fool around, focus on having fun, on her body, on cuddling and kissing, and when you get down to business, focus on something which will prevent you from thinking of your erection: a part of her body you like, her screams,  your love for her, whatever, but something exiting in itself if possible :) .

Really stop masturbating, edging and orgasm, m not cured at all, but I already feel the benefits of hard mode
 

Eidan

Active Member
Also let s not forget, we are only about a month in the reboot, and not even a month in hard mode, while it seems on average it takes at least between 6 and 8 weeks  ;)
 

Untolerable

Member
Sooo..my gf came over last night we started cuddling - kissing, and were watching a movie.

After the movie was over she was giving those subtle hints girls do that they are in that sorta mood - we have never of course have had sex over the past few months because of my ED- tried once and I might as well of had a dead limb, and I had zero libido at the time.  so last night I thought - 'ok' going for this, embarrassed or not about if ED hits,  I'm going to have to try to have sex eventually (usually sex was always a super awkward almost unpleasant experience).

Put on the condom - I was at about 90% erection - and as all of us that suffer from ED know that condom is like the worse thing in the world to someone with ED - like THE WORST.

Anyway as soon as I get the condom on my erection drops to 85% then 80% - my heads a panic - she however is smiling totally oblivious to whats going on in my head or down below, enjoying everything going on - I skip foreplay - I get immediately in and then voila - did exactly what you said Eidan - I concentrated ONLY on the noises she was making - and immediately jumped to 100%.

After a few moments which felt like minuets I felt my erection fade a little - she like digs her finger nails into my back and I immediately was back at 100% only thinking and listening to her.

Took about literally 2 mins to bust - and thats being generous with the time - which may sound terrible and embarrassingly quick,  but was extremely pleasant for me. lol for some reason over the years I could never cum - just keep going and going which was problematic itself - but this time was much much different. - way more special, way more just real and clear, she looked more beautiful then anyone else ever- and when I went that quick she did not care in the slightest lol because after months of waiting we finally had sex.


SO Thankful to YBOP. :)  Highly recommend the hard reset and cold showers- that really really sped up the process for me and if you mess up on the hard reset do so by just thinking mentaly and I used my left hand so I couldn't do that death grip anymore.

To anyone curious how long this took for me to reset I'd say prob about 3-4 months with three slip ups with viewing porn (two were within the first/second month- and solo sex with masturbation about 6 times in addition to the two slip ups- last slipup was HBO Game of Thrones- beware of even that soft stuff- avoid it like the plague & I mean that sincerely-I lost all libido for about a week after that mess up and it def set me back.



So after sex, together we cuddled for awhile after and I dropped her off - but on the way back I was estatic- my confidence is back, my swagger is back, and I'm so relieved that this works - I had ED for literally YEARS-YEEARS and it has been a tremendous source of anxiety and embarrassment for me - so I wasn't sure if the 'rewiring' of my brain was legit or not.

It's legit - and real sex is legitly awesome ;)  - stay the course gentleman!

thank goooooodness.


 

Eidan

Active Member
M so glad you made it and that my tips helped a little bit ! In your stead I wouldn't drop my guard though, it s just the beginning of the process and you didn't last long. But hell, to make it with a condom, that s great !  ;D

It cheers me up cause it seems we ve got a similar story ( i ve checked your log ). You say you had PIED for years, did you keep on PMO for years also while having PIED ? Or did you start rebooting as soon as you realized you had PIED ?

See m 29 years old, when I was a teenager and until at least 21 years old I had a very healthy sexual life, and i would have great longstanding erections. I would watch rare porn  and masturbate, but nothing compared to high speed internet porn. Then, i ve been suffering from ED for 5 years maybe but I was so blind I kept on PMO while having PIED.

Then m wondering if I might no be too damaged: did you PMO also for years while having PIED ?

I hope your great results keep going up and up and improving. But rebooting and building up a natural sexual life never stops, so I would stick to my recommendation for a while : avoid MO, avoid O ( even with her ), and no edging ;)

take care bro
 

Untolerable

Member
Yeah! It was the first time I've had sex with a condom in about 5 years!  I had a steady gf for four years that was on birth control and despite having a milder state of PIED I could rush things and skip the condom.  After that breakup I tried having sex with four ladies - all ended with me trying to put a condom on and loosing the erection entirely which is terribly embarrassing. Regardless, I told my gf everything so she has been really sweet about it - luckily she is a psychologist so sex issues are not super crazy to her, and she was happy that I'd be willing to give up porn period.

I did PMO for about 5 years while having PIED.  I started my reboot this summer once I found out what the problem was exactly.
Likewise as a teenager I would watch porn very rarely on the computer, had a ridiculously great libido, and I would check out basically 10 pictures I had downloaded on a 'pocket pc'.  I did indeed PMO for years with PIED and I noticed the content was getting a bit extreme, I was opening up tons of tabs, skipping forward in the clips - which made me start thinking 'da faq?'  For years I never thought anything of Porn - when I even went to the doctor initially about my ED I even asked about avoiding P M and O and she said that PMO is basically healthy, and all men do that. SMH.

From ages 12-15 Porn was viewed basically only as pictures not movies, from 15-17 I watched movie clips non-stop but it was soft porn.

From 17-18 I went to a boarding school and saw no porn.  18-20 porn use skyrocketed.

20-22 porn use starts getting more extreme, and earliest case of ED was age 20 with my steady gf. 22-24 really bad ED, with steady gf and I had tried cheating on her about 4 times and got ED each time.

Summer of being 24, finally quit and finally successfully had sex with a condom.  My gf is ridiculously happy about this, and thinks it brought us a great deal closer and I agree - no edging, no MO, and I'll avoid O.

 
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