My story after being addicted to porn for 32 years

Zvonko TM

New Member
Dear people,

I'm writing here for the first time. I am from the Netherlands so my english is not very good. I am 42 years old and started PM when I was 10 years old. Porn has been in my life for 32 years. I have now stopped for the first 30 days and what I am experiencing. Withdrawal symptoms are varied; anxiety, concentration problems, restlessness, pain in body both physically and mentally. I have realized since 2005 that I am addicted to porn. That's because I went on vacation to a foreign country where I had no access to porn. Then I realized how addictive it is because I couldn't watch for 20 days. Porn was part of my life and I didn't know how deep I got lost. I even followed therapy which didn't work because they assume you have an underlying problem from your childhood or something. But after reading book Your Brain Porn I found out what the real problem is.
Strangely enough, I had no problems with ED until I was 40. But since fast internet it started my ED problem. I was divorced at 39. I have 2 beautiful daughters aged 9 and 6 years old. After my divorce I met some women and all I had ED problem which made them leave me. I didn't understand how I got ED. Until I read the book. It was a revelation.
Now I have a girlfriend for over half a year and I already have problems with her. Now that I know I have told her and she understands and would like to help. What I do do is that I sometimes take an erection pill, because then it stays up. I have determined never to look again and want to recover. I already notice on the thirtieth day that I am already making progress. I am looking forward to it, even though I sometimes go through difficult times now. I believe in it and can't wait until I recover to have a normal happy life that makes sense again.
 

imsorrynotsorry

Active Member
Hello Zvonko TM,

How are you holding up?

The underlying childhood issue can be one thing that opens the door to PMO, but later in life it could be something else. Right in the addiction cycle it's most likely the brain wanting more. You will feel better soon, hang in there.

Happy to hear something from you.

Imsor
 

alalex775

Member
Time is your ally my friend. Things will go back to normal, stay strong.

Regarding the ED problem, I would look into supplementation with zinc and magnesium, as well as performing regular light exercise, if you are not already doing so.

Regarding anxious feelings coming up, what helps me is being mindful when these feelings arise. I use the Letting Go technique outlined in the Letting Go book by David Hawkins, which is basically observing when the feeling arises and allowing it to process, without any resistance or judgement. Feel free to message me if you would like to learn more about this.

When triggers arise, I use the red x technique outlined in YBOP, which has been helpful so far.

Best of luck on your journey and I am proud of you for being on the path to freedom!
 
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