Reboot for the sake of My Love

Hi Guys,                   

[As of the title above, i have broke up with my girlfriend, but will not change it since it still reminds me what happen if i don't quit this dopamine addiction, that right..you lose the one you love!  :'( ]

My First post here, I talk about my story and hope I get really get my much needed support here.

I am 24yo, started watching porn and PMO since ard 15. I just started rebooting myself on 22nd of June and currently in need for advice.

The reason I am Rebooting is for my girl. We met and i really like and adore her (could really do anything for her), we started dating and things escalated, while one day we were making out in bed, Kissing and all, I got an erection fairly quickly, but when she started stroking my P and giving me heads, My P went soft and I couldn't sustain an erection, even when 1 time I did sustain and erection I couldn't finish (this happen on multiple times). This got my girl and myself really frustrated, we did tried another few more time but most of the time I couldn't finish or sustain an erection (I was really anxious and frustrated trying to maintain an erection). She think is her problem that I am not turn on by her and she got really sexually frustrated.

Later I told her that I might have PIED. She said she is a little disappointed but will try to go through this with me, but I can feel she is starting to distance herself, and she said she prefer me not to stay over at her place anymore. Everything is going down and I am getting really bad anxiety and depress mood while trying to do a reboot (which i have manage to persevere for 1 week)  :'(

So I wonder if anyone around is experience a similar situation and hopefully could give me some advice.

Cheers,

RebootChemist

Goals (Set on 02/07/2015):

*Join a gym: Not done yet
Workout for 1 month: Not done yet
Workout for 2 month: Not done yet
Wotkout for 3 month: Not done yet

*Find a new sport to play: Not done yet

*To socialize (go out to party or meet friends) at least twice a week:
Week 1: Not done yet
Week 2: Not done yet
Week 3: Not done yet

More goals to do!

Many of us only discovered their PIED when not able to perform with a real girl.

For me it was in January/February when I met a girl and on several occasions couldn't get hard no matter what she tried. Luckily I wasn't really emotionally attached to her, because I was only trying to compensate for my old relationship, so her dissappointment wasn't such a problem for me. Still it is a devastating experience.

I never talked to her about PIED, basically we only stopped dating at some point... we had 'somewhat successful' sex like two or three times but always with Viagra. Even though she claimed not to have a problem with it - at that time I thought my ED was related to anxiety - it definitly made her feel insecure and uncomfortable that my penis didn't react to her the way it was supposed to. I don't think she would have sticked through my whole reboot.

Going through a reboot together is definitly possible, but if she is already beginning to distance herself after just a couple of days that is propably a bad sign. A successful reboot can take several months, in some cases over a year from what I've read - so having a 'new girl' staying by your side all this time and waiting for you is a real challenge.

I personally find it more relaxing to go through my reboot all by myself, only sharing my experiences with you guys here. My advice for you is not to tie your personal luck to this one girl. I know it's a stupid thing to say when you think that you found the right special one... but there are plenty of fish in the sea and you should worry about yourself and your mental health first. Do your reboot and then see what happens.

Best wishes man.

Day 7: Succesfully did a week of reboot without P/M/O, it was really a tough week.

-On one had i had to deal with my big exam,
-On another hand i had to deal with my relationship problem,
-Then bad new broke that my housemate decide not to extend his lease so I had to find a new place to stay.

All this things are piling against me, I feel suffocated, anxious and depress. But I had decide to persevere on.

Maybe the suggestion for a new girl may be a right things to do. But as a busy working man working full-time is really hard to go meet someone.

Consider joining a gym just to work those stress of, and I saw exercise can increase one libido.

That all for now, will see how things work out.

Signing off,

RebootChemist

Day 11: All seem lost?

Key Summary:
- Successfully hold on to my reboot.. havent watch any porn nor masturbated...
- Broke up with my girlfriend, in the end she is not the one... I was doing this for her sake, what meaning does it have to continue doing this?
- Feeling extremely anxious and depress... all cost seem lost?
- Convincing myself that i will do this to the future girl i meet, i must hold on~

I am strong, i should stay strong..this journal will prove my journey to a new life.

Signing off,

RebootChemist

come on.
selfishness is success.
you do this for your own sake. not for any one else.
you can get hundreds of girls in your life.
but you must stop this dopamine addiction.
it is not good for your overall health.
I am sure this porn addiction will also effect heart of men.
because when we take porn consumption, our heart starts to pump hard, may be we all porn addict might suffer from heart diseases in future.

Yes i finally realise that i am doing this not for her but myself... even without a girlfriend, this dopamine addiction needs to stop.

I have set up my goals and try to cope with the loss... and the best advise so far from this site is to fill those time...

Simple, if you have no free time, you will have no time to fap and think of crazy stuff..

Thanks for your reply mtaha, i appreciate it!

Signing off,

RebootChemist

good luck to you reboot chemist, and i feel mhata is right.
We all have taken that step to do this for ourselves with our own motivation guiding us.
all of our actions can only benefit us in the future, when we constantly orgasm that cant be good for our hearts, obviously for some its just once a day or something but some guys are like 3/4 times a day.
however we have educated ourselves knowing the affects of porn on the brain but in the future when more generations experience what we have they will discover even more problems from excessive porn use.

Sorry to hear about your girlfriend, Chemist. I'm sure things will get better like they should.

For my point of view, yes doing this is for yourself but too much selfishness is not that good.
Chemist you are doing this for yourself, and for the one who is gonna truly love you.
Don't give up.

Good to know that chemist that you understood my point.And thanks for other bros here who appreciated my post.
Chemist, compensate the loss.
now you need to put new chemicals into the system to complete and balance the chemical equation.
Glad to meet you. I am also a chemist, doing chemistry in college.

you must make reboot your first priority in your life.
keep going chemist.
stay strong.

Im glad to hear im not the only one with that same problem, for me it was trying to have sex for the very first time and p wrecked it for me, didnt even get it in properly.. then that was it. Were still friends but as previously said its good to do the reboot on your own.
Im a very self concious guy so having this site is a life saver.

james you are right.
best of luck.