FlyingToNY
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Fighting my porn and masturbation addiction might be the best decision I've ever made.
Even though I can feel I can write a book on this subject now, I'm going to make it brief. By no means think this wasn't a big deal. This changed my life.
Before finding YBOP:
I stumbled on YBOP while browsing Reddit. Totally new life.
Speedbumps I hit along the way:
To summarize, quiting porn and masturbation revolutionized my life. It's hard but worth it.
Good luck to everyone. Stick with it. It's well worth it.
I'm sitting on a plane from Cali to NY for the next five hours and they have WiFi. Feel free to ask me anything.
Even though I can feel I can write a book on this subject now, I'm going to make it brief. By no means think this wasn't a big deal. This changed my life.
Before finding YBOP:
- I jacked off about 10 times a week for 12+ years
- Porn tastes became much more extreme and not in allignment with what I actually like
- Deathgrip: I wasn't sensitive enough for regular sex
- Had sex with 5 different over those 12 years. I suffered PIED everytime to varying degrees. I even got a prescription for Viagra.
- I never actually had an orgasm from sex I was so desensitized
- I didn't understand how all of my friends could have sex lives but me. It led to a lot of feelings of resentment.
- I had a boring socail life went down the toilet ever since I found porn.
I stumbled on YBOP while browsing Reddit. Totally new life.
Speedbumps I hit along the way:
- Relapsed: I relapsed a TON the first 18 months. I still felt benefits cutting it back.
- Flatlined: Frequently when trying to get to my first 90 days. It's very unnerving... stick with it though. It passes and your sex drive comes back more healthy
- Edging: I found I struggled with it the first 400 or so days... especailly having actual sex. It's as if my brain would say "I know what this is... let's do more"
- Meditation: It didn't seem to make a difference until 12 weeks or so. After I year, I really noticed the ability to observe my urges for what they were.... just a feeling.
- Developing an actual life: You need something to pull you away from porn and masturbation as much as you need techniques to cope with the urges. Find new hobbies, meet friends, find healthy things you enjoy.
- I haven't watched porn or masturbated to orgasm.
- My morning wood is intimidating.
- I had my first wet dream.
- Real sex and real girls turn me on.
- I've had sex with 16 amazing girls over the past 730 days.
- PEID CURED. I FEEL LIKE A NEW MAN.
- I can feel and ejoy sex now.
- I feel confident in social situations. No more anxiety.
- I laugh a lot more now.
To summarize, quiting porn and masturbation revolutionized my life. It's hard but worth it.
Good luck to everyone. Stick with it. It's well worth it.
I'm sitting on a plane from Cali to NY for the next five hours and they have WiFi. Feel free to ask me anything.