WHAT IS THE NEGATIVE EFFECT PORN IS HAVING ON YOU?

weldee

Member
I have been struggling with this addiction for over 10yrs now . And even though i dont watch porn everyday, heck i dont even watch it every week...most times its once in a month and and when i watch it at that time possibly by the 3 day i get to masturbate and that ends it until next month again. but just once ina  while maybe the cycle could happen twice in a month. and it has been like this for more than 10yrs. yes i have tried to quit and each time i fall back again ...my longest period that i have been off is like 6 months but here i am again still battling this demon.

My question is does anyone here have negative effects of porn like me? for me porn makes me lack desire to want to succeed , desire to want to achieve anything worthwhile. i lack basic motivation to leave a successful life. I dont have any sexual problems or erectile dysfunction or anything of such.

I just masturbated anout an hour ago and the guilt feeling came on me again and that brought me back to this forum. how can i get inspired or motivated to want to try and achieve something meaningful with my life? pple have talked about setting goals, having vision etc....yeah i have watched many inspirational videos on your tube and read different books but none is working for me.  and i just somewhat beleive its bcos of porn thats why i am still like this. i am 39yrs old married with 2 kids and in so much big debts.
 
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wecandoit

Guest
The negative effects that I've been experienced are not very different from yours. And I guess many others could say the same thing. It seems that lack of energy, motivation, drive to do things in life, are very common. I suffer from social anxiety and depression as well and I don't know if my porn addiction has created them or not, I couldn't say right now. However, I do think it has made them worse because during my longer streaks away from porn, I noticed less anxiety and depression.

On how to quit porn... It's not an easy answer. As I haven't freed myself from this addiction it's safe to say I don't really have it figured out completely yet. I guess one thing that should be done is accepting the suffering. I know it sounds the opposite of what people want. Most people want to stay away from suffering. However, the truth is that porn is an addiction and any addiction has withdrawal. Withdrawal is suffering. After staying away from porn for a while, withdrawal starts (sooner or later, depending on everyone). Anytime we relapse, we postpone the suffering until next time. With the next streak, the withdrawal (suffering) comes back again. And again. We meet the suffering over and over again. A relapse doesn't free us from suffering, it only postpones it for a while. My idea is, we should accept the fact that we are going to suffer, then suffer once and be over with it, instead of suffering over and over again in a cycle. I know it sounds easier said than done but this is my approach this time. I know I am going to suffer terribly, but I want to suffer for the last time and then free myself from this stupid addiction that I want to leave me alone to live my life. This is just my opinion. Good luck with your recovery.
 
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