GEToutOFmyHEAD
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DAY 1:
Even though this is around day 5 of no PMO, I'm starting this journal at Day 1. This is because my partner of 4 years has just told me that she is done. We have had sex maybe 3 times in the last 3 years due to my PMO and lack of motivation. I made the decision to quit PMO "FOR GOOD!" around 5 months ago, and have been having a tough time of it. Right at the start, I had a run of 54 days of no PMO, but since then maybe a week at a time. I have gone to 12 step groups in the past, but I find myself reluctant to go them now. My previous times, I was given ultimatums to go "or else..." and I really didn't want to quit back then. The experience has soured 12 step for me right now. As we all know, this addiction kills motivation and initiative, so the amount of hard, soul searching work that seems to be the core of 12 step really doesn't appeal to me. I have been averse to writing journals since high school, and this was exacerbated when my 1st wife read my journal after promising never to do so.
I am a very guarded individual, and I come here with hope, but also more than a little skepticism as to whether I can actually get clear of this SHITTY-ASS MOTHER-FUCKING BULLSHIT addiction.
My partner and I still love each other very dearly, but she has to take care of herself, and that does not include me where I'm at right now. I hold no animosity or resentment towards her, just a bucket load of grief for the lost potential. :'(
Even though this is around day 5 of no PMO, I'm starting this journal at Day 1. This is because my partner of 4 years has just told me that she is done. We have had sex maybe 3 times in the last 3 years due to my PMO and lack of motivation. I made the decision to quit PMO "FOR GOOD!" around 5 months ago, and have been having a tough time of it. Right at the start, I had a run of 54 days of no PMO, but since then maybe a week at a time. I have gone to 12 step groups in the past, but I find myself reluctant to go them now. My previous times, I was given ultimatums to go "or else..." and I really didn't want to quit back then. The experience has soured 12 step for me right now. As we all know, this addiction kills motivation and initiative, so the amount of hard, soul searching work that seems to be the core of 12 step really doesn't appeal to me. I have been averse to writing journals since high school, and this was exacerbated when my 1st wife read my journal after promising never to do so.
I am a very guarded individual, and I come here with hope, but also more than a little skepticism as to whether I can actually get clear of this SHITTY-ASS MOTHER-FUCKING BULLSHIT addiction.
My partner and I still love each other very dearly, but she has to take care of herself, and that does not include me where I'm at right now. I hold no animosity or resentment towards her, just a bucket load of grief for the lost potential. :'(