bobby1000000
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Hey all,
I am soon to be 30 years old male living in Canada (originally from the UK) I think I first discovered porn in the back on a movie magazine when I was about 10-12 years old. I stuck pictures of scantily clad women in the back of my diary and would masturbate to them in the toilet. Then the internet arrived and I remember having dial up and seeing the first (very short) porn clip and was hooked from then on really.
I've never been a really heavy user, but I watch porn or some kind of sexual imagery (instagram etc) at least a couple of times a week. I do it to relieve frustration and tension in my body that builds up - but afterwards I feel flat and emotionless. I also feel guilty as I have a girlfriend and I neglect her sexually because of the porn/masturbation. We do have sex maybe 2 or 3 times a month, but I often feel pretty blank afterwards and I imagine pornographic images/scenes in my head when we are having sex. I feel disgusted at myself for this as my girlfriend is a tall blonde hot babe so I should not have to imagine porn when we are having sex.
I have tried going "cold turkey" a couple of times. I think the longest I lasted was 2 weeks, but I couldn't stand the pressure and had to watch porn again. At the moment I have stopped watching hardcore porn and just masturbate to still images - so it is still porn just softer. I really want to get over this addiction as I feel it is making me emotionally flat and unavailable to my partner and it will end up pushing us apart and leaving me alone and depressed.
I will start a diary here to keep you updated on my journey and also to ask for advice from time to time. My girlfriend knows I have a problem with porn but she doesn't know I mentally recall imagery during sex, I think I won't tell her as it will just break her heart which I do not want to do, I want to marry this woman and have her children,
Anyway sorry for the longish post, will keep you updated.
Bobby1000000
I am soon to be 30 years old male living in Canada (originally from the UK) I think I first discovered porn in the back on a movie magazine when I was about 10-12 years old. I stuck pictures of scantily clad women in the back of my diary and would masturbate to them in the toilet. Then the internet arrived and I remember having dial up and seeing the first (very short) porn clip and was hooked from then on really.
I've never been a really heavy user, but I watch porn or some kind of sexual imagery (instagram etc) at least a couple of times a week. I do it to relieve frustration and tension in my body that builds up - but afterwards I feel flat and emotionless. I also feel guilty as I have a girlfriend and I neglect her sexually because of the porn/masturbation. We do have sex maybe 2 or 3 times a month, but I often feel pretty blank afterwards and I imagine pornographic images/scenes in my head when we are having sex. I feel disgusted at myself for this as my girlfriend is a tall blonde hot babe so I should not have to imagine porn when we are having sex.
I have tried going "cold turkey" a couple of times. I think the longest I lasted was 2 weeks, but I couldn't stand the pressure and had to watch porn again. At the moment I have stopped watching hardcore porn and just masturbate to still images - so it is still porn just softer. I really want to get over this addiction as I feel it is making me emotionally flat and unavailable to my partner and it will end up pushing us apart and leaving me alone and depressed.
I will start a diary here to keep you updated on my journey and also to ask for advice from time to time. My girlfriend knows I have a problem with porn but she doesn't know I mentally recall imagery during sex, I think I won't tell her as it will just break her heart which I do not want to do, I want to marry this woman and have her children,
Anyway sorry for the longish post, will keep you updated.
Bobby1000000