What to do after hard 90?
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Death Trap
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Keep going. And then just go have sex with someone when you are ready.
daguilara
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I think you should have been approaching woman since day one.
Once I was doing some pick up girls challenge in which I had to approach about 20 different girls a day, after 2 weeks of doing that + no PMO = I felt my dick alive like I hadn't in my life.
I once had a streak of 60 days and I felt way more progress in those 2 weeks than in 60 days of no PMO alone.
So to answer your question, you should approach woman BEFORE day 90. It's a healthy advice
(I think)
Once I was doing some pick up girls challenge in which I had to approach about 20 different girls a day, after 2 weeks of doing that + no PMO = I felt my dick alive like I hadn't in my life.
I once had a streak of 60 days and I felt way more progress in those 2 weeks than in 60 days of no PMO alone.
So to answer your question, you should approach woman BEFORE day 90. It's a healthy advice
(I think)
profapper
Active Member
Interesting i see how this can help with pied, becouse of just being close to girls. i experience this in class when girls are next to me i get wood and high sexual energy, of course i've never acted on those urges though. it would be pretty hard for me to use your pickup method, i guess i just take talking to girls too personallyBright said:I think you should have been approaching woman since day one.
Once I was doing some pick up girls challenge in which I had to approach about 20 different girls a day, after 2 weeks of doing that + no PMO = I felt my dick alive like I hadn't in my life.
I once had a streak of 60 days and I felt way more progress in those 2 weeks than in 60 days of no PMO alone.
So to answer your question, you should approach woman BEFORE day 90. It's a healthy advice
LifeIsGreat
Member
90 days is just an arbitrary number... I don't see why the 89th day should be different from the 91st day.
Just keep on going... But has the others mentioned, it's probably more than time for you to approach women and try to have an healthy relationship (Isn't it the ultimate goal of NoFap?).
Bright: you got me curious with your pick up challenge. How do you even approach 20 girls a day? Do they have to be girls you never talked to before?
I mean, I'm really social in general, but I don't think I'm talking to 20 new persons a days (maybe once a year).
Appart from helping with NoFap, any other takeaway from this challenge?
Just keep on going... But has the others mentioned, it's probably more than time for you to approach women and try to have an healthy relationship (Isn't it the ultimate goal of NoFap?).
Bright: you got me curious with your pick up challenge. How do you even approach 20 girls a day? Do they have to be girls you never talked to before?
I mean, I'm really social in general, but I don't think I'm talking to 20 new persons a days (maybe once a year).
Appart from helping with NoFap, any other takeaway from this challenge?
Death Trap
Active Member
He's talking about approaching 20 new girls a day on the street, or in bars, or wherever. It's a fucking good idea.
daguilara
Member
LifeIsGreat said:
It was not that hard. On day one you have to ask for the time to 10-15 girls (I don't remember exactly)
Then on day 2 is like this:
Girl1: ask for the time
Girl 2: ask for the time + directions
Repeat this 5 times and you call it a day
It goes on and on, littles steps at the time. There's one day when you have to high five like 20 girls. It's pretty funny and you feel amazing after you finish.
I was super shy, kissless until I started on this. I have kissed cute girls (once I kissed one in less than 10 minutes)
It helps you a LOT on social anxiety.
I haven't try it again. But now I am considering to do it again. If you want to know the source of this challenge tell me and I will give you the link
daguilara
Member
We all feel the same. I still do even when. Hve done this tons f timesBig H said:
Fist girl i did I felt a huge pair of muscleses contracting on the low part of my back
The key is pr?ctica, it's the only way. Start little, do a little every day you don't need to rush if a girl liked you there are tons.
Try to ask for the time to an extranger when you are sit next to him or her. Every one is always lost on their phones try to get them out
At first we always suck but with pr?ctica anything can be mastered
le_petit_moster
Active Member
Dear Banporn...
..what to do after 90days... stop counting !!! Yes !!!
And life your life. Counting works against you - by depleting your will power. Keep it for other important events of your life.
..what to do after 90days... stop counting !!! Yes !!!
And life your life. Counting works against you - by depleting your will power. Keep it for other important events of your life.
LifeIsGreat
Member
Yep, you got me curious Bright! I'll give it shot
I'm already really social... but that's sounds like fun to me!
If you can find the link easily I would be interested in having it! Many thanks
I'm already really social... but that's sounds like fun to me!
If you can find the link easily I would be interested in having it! Many thanks
daguilara
Member
LifeIsGreat said:
Warning: It MAY be triggering
https://www.goodlookingloser.com/anxiety/program
This is the first week:
https://www.goodlookingloser.com/anxiety/program-index/approach-anxiety-program-week-1-1
It is not an easy task. I couldn't complete it. It requires a good amount of courage to overcome it on some parts. Not impossible, many complete it and it changes their life (I didn't complete it and changed mine, got my first kiss from this)
If you start it, I come along and do it with you lol
I feel I need to feel social freedom again.
offaxis
Active Member
I think you should do the same after 90 days as you did after day 1 - namely, get a life.
I don't mean that as an insult in any way. Quite the opposite. Build a life you love, doing things that are fulfilling and taking the time and commitment and responsibility to get there. Because that's all you've got at one level - the life you build. But it will also be far far more than porn can ever provide.
Think of it this way: are you defined as a man by whether you masturbate or not? No. You are defined by your actions, your life, achievements, interactions with others and so forth.
It is so easy I think for addicts to turn our energy and view inwards. But that is fundamentally isolating and will drive more addicted behaviour in the long term. Only by looking outwards at the world and finding your place in it will you find fulfillment and satisfaction with life and other people.
Changing your life is much more about whether you masturbate or not, how often, have sex etc. These are all very unimportant details really (yet all we know as sex addicts). Breaking this addiction I think is about putting in the hard work to fundamentally alter your relationship with yourself and tackle life directly, as difficult and unpredictable as it is. If you don't do that and just abstain, you'll reach the end of those 90 days with life exactly the same - hollow perhaps or depressing - and want to run back subconsciously to your porn hidey-hole away from the world.
What is a life worth living to you?
I don't mean that as an insult in any way. Quite the opposite. Build a life you love, doing things that are fulfilling and taking the time and commitment and responsibility to get there. Because that's all you've got at one level - the life you build. But it will also be far far more than porn can ever provide.
Think of it this way: are you defined as a man by whether you masturbate or not? No. You are defined by your actions, your life, achievements, interactions with others and so forth.
It is so easy I think for addicts to turn our energy and view inwards. But that is fundamentally isolating and will drive more addicted behaviour in the long term. Only by looking outwards at the world and finding your place in it will you find fulfillment and satisfaction with life and other people.
Changing your life is much more about whether you masturbate or not, how often, have sex etc. These are all very unimportant details really (yet all we know as sex addicts). Breaking this addiction I think is about putting in the hard work to fundamentally alter your relationship with yourself and tackle life directly, as difficult and unpredictable as it is. If you don't do that and just abstain, you'll reach the end of those 90 days with life exactly the same - hollow perhaps or depressing - and want to run back subconsciously to your porn hidey-hole away from the world.
What is a life worth living to you?
rkrera
Member
That why i don't believe in 90 days rebooting as if it is a back door for escaping from this Addiction....
Simply and hopefully .. these triggers are to be found in your hole life .. so all you need to understand the risk very well and take the proper actions always.
Being without PMO for 90 days is not achievement, the real achievement is what you do right now... so all what we care is NOW "to do the good for now"
i don't care for tomorrow or for yesterday all i care about is to do the right now. so we need first to understand how the game is working before we release the controllers and thought that we won.
Accept to restart... and ENJOY the new Victory.
1- Get well educated about the addiction as over all like http://fightthenewdrug.org/how-porn-kills-love/
2- Remind your self by setting Quotes as wallpapers on you labtop desktop, and your mobile
3- set alarms on your mobile to keep reminding you and give the alarm a name of a good though inspires you, i HAVE about 5 thoughts daily.
4- find someone to help as i m doing right now
5- Decide to be happy, and choose what really makes you happy by the end with positive consequences not negative
6- accept your nature, and agree with actions has a less reward than porn. because this is the nature of us as a human been "when we perform an activity with a higher reward like addiction, we releaaaaaaaaaase the neeed of anything else, EVEN if we were also consider it as important before addiction's reminder triggers us"
7- about things with normal rewards ... they are many ::::
LIKE >> Talking with your family
going out for a walk >>> Very helpful
Playing sport
watching movies BUT without any uncut scenes
clean your room
set a plan for your time
many actions are there
8- start monitoring your believes, your believes is the motivator for all your actions. when you change what you believe you will change what you do
like thinking you will stay alone ... and such of fucken negative believes that makes you lose control
9- u have to list you mistakes and new lesson in a note each time you relapse and keep reminding your self weekly at least
10- Be honest with yourself, and love your self the way you are .. good and bad .. best bad people are the people who admit mistakes and start doing good things after.
be the best bad
11- choose the easy way, and dont ever never test your strength by allowing your self to be exposed for such a material.
no entertain nor attempt to test
12- Feed the good wolf and train it >>>
by
learn
remind
helping others
meditation
build new habits
analysis
build your own inventory of ethics, and moralls, knowledge, experience, and believes
13- accept the reality that life is ups and downs, mistakes are to happen but always "KEEP TRYING"
"THE GREATEST GLORY IN LIVING LIES NOT IN NEVER FALLING, BUT IN RISING EVERY TIME WE FALL"
14- TRY AGAIN
15- TRY AGAIN
16- TRY AGAIN
17- human are not for sale or for entertainment <<<<< BELIEVES
18- SEX ONLY COMES WITH RESPONSIBILITY
19- RAISE UP YOUR HUMANITY, SAVE IT. ALL IS REFLECTING TO YOU
20- WHEN WE WORK WITH OUR BRAIN THINGS GO EASY IN LIFE
21- WE CAN HAVE A PLEASURE WITH NORMAL REWARS, AND WITHOUT NEGATIVE CONSEQUENCES
22- THERE IS NO GOLDEN AGE, TO WISH TO GO BACK FOR .. AN AGE WITHOUT CRAVES, AND REMINDERS.
IT IS NOW... ONLY NOW
23- PAST IS JUST A SIMPLE IMAGES STORED IN OUR MEMORY AND CONNECTED TO SOME EMOTIONS, IT HAS NO CONTROL OVER THE PRESENT MOMENT
24- REMEMBER THE DAMAGES
25- FIND SOMEONE TO HELP
FINALLY
BELIEVE THAT HAPPINESS ONLY EXISTS IN NORMAL THINGS, WE ARE THE SOURCE OF IT BY TAKING A GOOD ACTIONS.
WISH ME LUCK .. I AM ON THE SAME SHIP .. I BELIEVE THAT WE ARE ON A JOURNEY .. AND SOME BIG WAVES HIT OUR SHIP .. BUT WE ARE SKILLED ENOUGH TO SEAL AND FACE THESE HITS ..
TOGETHER WE ARE IN SAFE .. FIND SOMEONE TO HELP
Simply and hopefully .. these triggers are to be found in your hole life .. so all you need to understand the risk very well and take the proper actions always.
Being without PMO for 90 days is not achievement, the real achievement is what you do right now... so all what we care is NOW "to do the good for now"
i don't care for tomorrow or for yesterday all i care about is to do the right now. so we need first to understand how the game is working before we release the controllers and thought that we won.
Accept to restart... and ENJOY the new Victory.
1- Get well educated about the addiction as over all like http://fightthenewdrug.org/how-porn-kills-love/
2- Remind your self by setting Quotes as wallpapers on you labtop desktop, and your mobile
3- set alarms on your mobile to keep reminding you and give the alarm a name of a good though inspires you, i HAVE about 5 thoughts daily.
4- find someone to help as i m doing right now
5- Decide to be happy, and choose what really makes you happy by the end with positive consequences not negative
6- accept your nature, and agree with actions has a less reward than porn. because this is the nature of us as a human been "when we perform an activity with a higher reward like addiction, we releaaaaaaaaaase the neeed of anything else, EVEN if we were also consider it as important before addiction's reminder triggers us"
7- about things with normal rewards ... they are many ::::
LIKE >> Talking with your family
going out for a walk >>> Very helpful
Playing sport
watching movies BUT without any uncut scenes
clean your room
set a plan for your time
many actions are there
8- start monitoring your believes, your believes is the motivator for all your actions. when you change what you believe you will change what you do
like thinking you will stay alone ... and such of fucken negative believes that makes you lose control
9- u have to list you mistakes and new lesson in a note each time you relapse and keep reminding your self weekly at least
10- Be honest with yourself, and love your self the way you are .. good and bad .. best bad people are the people who admit mistakes and start doing good things after.
be the best bad
11- choose the easy way, and dont ever never test your strength by allowing your self to be exposed for such a material.
no entertain nor attempt to test
12- Feed the good wolf and train it >>>
by
learn
remind
helping others
meditation
build new habits
analysis
build your own inventory of ethics, and moralls, knowledge, experience, and believes
13- accept the reality that life is ups and downs, mistakes are to happen but always "KEEP TRYING"
"THE GREATEST GLORY IN LIVING LIES NOT IN NEVER FALLING, BUT IN RISING EVERY TIME WE FALL"
14- TRY AGAIN
15- TRY AGAIN
16- TRY AGAIN
17- human are not for sale or for entertainment <<<<< BELIEVES
18- SEX ONLY COMES WITH RESPONSIBILITY
19- RAISE UP YOUR HUMANITY, SAVE IT. ALL IS REFLECTING TO YOU
20- WHEN WE WORK WITH OUR BRAIN THINGS GO EASY IN LIFE
21- WE CAN HAVE A PLEASURE WITH NORMAL REWARS, AND WITHOUT NEGATIVE CONSEQUENCES
22- THERE IS NO GOLDEN AGE, TO WISH TO GO BACK FOR .. AN AGE WITHOUT CRAVES, AND REMINDERS.
IT IS NOW... ONLY NOW
23- PAST IS JUST A SIMPLE IMAGES STORED IN OUR MEMORY AND CONNECTED TO SOME EMOTIONS, IT HAS NO CONTROL OVER THE PRESENT MOMENT
24- REMEMBER THE DAMAGES
25- FIND SOMEONE TO HELP
FINALLY
BELIEVE THAT HAPPINESS ONLY EXISTS IN NORMAL THINGS, WE ARE THE SOURCE OF IT BY TAKING A GOOD ACTIONS.
WISH ME LUCK .. I AM ON THE SAME SHIP .. I BELIEVE THAT WE ARE ON A JOURNEY .. AND SOME BIG WAVES HIT OUR SHIP .. BUT WE ARE SKILLED ENOUGH TO SEAL AND FACE THESE HITS ..
TOGETHER WE ARE IN SAFE .. FIND SOMEONE TO HELP
Yeah, but don't become a social robot. Numbered challenges like these always turn you into a calculating weirdo. Just go through life and talk to the women you meet.profapper said:Interesting i see how this can help with pied, becouse of just being close to girls. i experience this in class when girls are next to me i get wood and high sexual energy, of course i've never acted on those urges though. it would be pretty hard for me to use your pickup method, i guess i just take talking to girls too personallyBright said:I think you should have been approaching woman since day one.
Once I was doing some pick up girls challenge in which I had to approach about 20 different girls a day, after 2 weeks of doing that + no PMO = I felt my dick alive like I hadn't in my life.
I once had a streak of 60 days and I felt way more progress in those 2 weeks than in 60 days of no PMO alone.
So to answer your question, you should approach woman BEFORE day 90. It's a healthy advice
When quitting cold turkey you at times have chemical surges, that make you feel very damn good, but it's not a natural state, and it's going to reside once your system gets used to the chemicals. Or you crash altogether. Don't expect it to last forever.