Johnny1234
Member
Quick back story
- 14 years of P abuse and chronic M
- Varying degrees of ED for my entire sexual career (10 years)
- After ED ruined a relationship with a girl that I was crazy about, I found YBOP and this forum
- I'm nearly 2 months in no PMO
Here is what I'm struggling with
Firstly, I have had one PMO relapse. The craving / excitement / instant rock hard erection that I experienced with my relapse pretty much cemented the fact that I'm dealing with a severe case of PIED. So as guilty as I immediately felt afterwards, I do see it as a learning / growing experience.
Flat lining has been a freakin roller coaster ride from hell. I haven't been able to go longer than two weeks without M. Typically, by the end of one week no M, my libido is out of control. All I can think about is the pursuit of sex. I obsess over it. Unfortunately, I live in a new city and know nobody, so it's difficult to get the real thing. I found myself pouring through Craigslists ads obsessively - even at work. Anybody who's ever been desperate enough to go that route knows how much of a waste of time it is for a straight guy. After a while, I realized I was getting slight erections just reading these ads and it came to me that I was subconsciously kind of getting my P fix from just the text alone and the accompanying fantasy thoughts. CL and all dating sites have been removed from the equation.
Multiple times now, I've woken up from an erotic dream with a full blown erection and just have been unable to resist the urge to finish myself off - fantasizing about whoever was in the dream. I know that's bad, but I honestly don't know if I possess the will power to keep myself from doing that!
Also, everybody who says "testing" is a bad idea - they could not be more correct. I've "tested" many times, and I've been able to stop myself fewer times than I've finished. Really trying to cut that out too.
I guess my biggest issue right now is that when I come out of a flat line, my obsessive "all things sex" thoughts are out of control. The sad part is even in that state, I'm sure if I had the opportunity to have real sex, my little buddy would be a no show to the party.
I'm just feeling frustrated, and wish there was some way to tell for sure that you are getting "better." I'll continue to fight the good fight.
- 14 years of P abuse and chronic M
- Varying degrees of ED for my entire sexual career (10 years)
- After ED ruined a relationship with a girl that I was crazy about, I found YBOP and this forum
- I'm nearly 2 months in no PMO
Here is what I'm struggling with
Firstly, I have had one PMO relapse. The craving / excitement / instant rock hard erection that I experienced with my relapse pretty much cemented the fact that I'm dealing with a severe case of PIED. So as guilty as I immediately felt afterwards, I do see it as a learning / growing experience.
Flat lining has been a freakin roller coaster ride from hell. I haven't been able to go longer than two weeks without M. Typically, by the end of one week no M, my libido is out of control. All I can think about is the pursuit of sex. I obsess over it. Unfortunately, I live in a new city and know nobody, so it's difficult to get the real thing. I found myself pouring through Craigslists ads obsessively - even at work. Anybody who's ever been desperate enough to go that route knows how much of a waste of time it is for a straight guy. After a while, I realized I was getting slight erections just reading these ads and it came to me that I was subconsciously kind of getting my P fix from just the text alone and the accompanying fantasy thoughts. CL and all dating sites have been removed from the equation.
Multiple times now, I've woken up from an erotic dream with a full blown erection and just have been unable to resist the urge to finish myself off - fantasizing about whoever was in the dream. I know that's bad, but I honestly don't know if I possess the will power to keep myself from doing that!
Also, everybody who says "testing" is a bad idea - they could not be more correct. I've "tested" many times, and I've been able to stop myself fewer times than I've finished. Really trying to cut that out too.
I guess my biggest issue right now is that when I come out of a flat line, my obsessive "all things sex" thoughts are out of control. The sad part is even in that state, I'm sure if I had the opportunity to have real sex, my little buddy would be a no show to the party.
I'm just feeling frustrated, and wish there was some way to tell for sure that you are getting "better." I'll continue to fight the good fight.