$$$$ or Game Over?

Hello to all. It was around last year this time when I first found out about rebooting and the actual details about being addicted to porn. I have since then been looking into it and trying to get away from viewing porn. Through the encouragement from various pmo/nofap type videos online I was able to go past 90 days ?hard mode? as one would say. I wasn?t aiming for specifically 90 days as I want this to be a complete lifestyle change indefinitely. Well after suffering from stress and some unrelated physical issues I relapsed around the middle of last year and have been back on masturbation and porn consistently with streaks of about a week to 10 days here and there. Obviously what I had done wasn?t enough. After viewing more videos produced by those who are more ?professional? in this field, it seems to be that this is a deeper problem than what i expected. I am 35 yo male who was exposed to porn to around my early teens and have masturbated since. My question here is, is it possible for me to recover at this age without some type of program that I would have to pay thousands for? I ask this because a lot of the videos I initially watched seemed more geared towards using willpower and were people in their 20s. Now I view these people who have taken on treating porn addiction as a profession and while the whole will power thing may be enough for someone in their early to mid 20s, at my age more serious help will be required according to them. Is this actually the case? I understand the need for a system and strategizing to be employed as opposed to just people hyping you up and cheering you on, not that I have anything against that. While my recovery is of utmost importance, I simply do not have the funds for the fees they are talking and health insurance won?t cover it. A lot of these guys really seem intelligent and provide very insightful information as former porn addicts themselves. One of the more notable ones is JK Emezi with Elevated Recovery. He has good information and videos but I can?t help but being left feeling ?hey you just watched all these great videos and are on your way to a recovery if you practice what I?ve said. You?ve also just wasted all of your time if you don?t pay $$$ because what I just stated in this video will not work unless you get the final tips from the paid program.?  Really? Is this truly the case? Has anyone in this age group had good results without a paid program? I?m also getting conflicting information. I was under the impression those in my age group recover faster but a lot of these paid program guys are saying otherwise. Some are ever making it seem like full recovery may not even be possible. It?s like this whole recovery is aimed at teens and 20s and anything past that is just screwed. What are your thoughts? Greatly appreciate the response.

Good morning Beachboy

      I will start by saying there will never be any guarentee  of a full recovery for anyone.  With that being said  what is your motivation for  quitting  You must do a little bit of soul searching  and draw some conclusions about your life  Your post does not give much history  about your life and lifestyle  this info can be of great significance to  having a successfull reboot.  Reboot is not only to be used for  curing  physical issues like pied/ed  but  to eventually cure other  deeper problems    ie  relationship  issues  job/career issues  spiritual issues  exc.
A reboot is simply (a hope) to rebalance your brain from an imbalance of dopimine production.  After that comes the long term healing of  any damage  this addiction may have caused in your life. And finally a beginning to a new life doing the things you might have wanted to do  but couldnt do to the time on porn

    Here is my experience.

    I am 48  addicted to porn since around 14 or 15  have wanted to quitye for probably 25 years  never understood it was an addiction and it was slowely rewiring my brain causing all sorts of problems  exc  I found this site a little lover 2 years ago and nbegan my journey  I have done  90 plus days  and wound up crashing a few times  I am currentlyu on day 49 of my most recent reboot  I am finding this one much easier because of a learning from my mistakes along the way.  My outlook at the moment has never been more positive.  I have  learned so much more about myself from the times I was abstaining to use in and gained many more tools  to use in my reboot.  When 90 days is up I believe I will have the tools to use to  leave it behind  for good .  For me it is not a moral issue  it is not porn needs to be censored or anything lik that.  It is so I may make clear decisions  and live the life I want to live with my family.  During this most recent attempt  I have had such a clear mind that I am already working on  those areas of my life  that needed improvements  ie health finances  organizatioin exc.  I  figured I would not  be able to deal with these till after 90 days  but  I suppose that this is my 3rd really good attempt  I am now  educated enough to be successfull

  so Yes I believe it can be done for guys  35 years and older  You may just need to write out your thoughts and ask for help here  to gain the knowelge and the tools to be successfull long term  I'm going to also say that the internet was a big contributer to feeding out addiction  I believe that it can also feed us what we need to beat it

    Perhaps take more time reading and educating  and slowely put the things you learn to use 1 by 1

      Cheers

      Post often it helps me it helps you

I recovered at the age of 32 after 15 years of porn (ab)use. What you are looking for is an easy way out. Like taking a pill to reduce your body fat instead of changing your diet long term and be physically active. You are fooling yourself, if you think dealing with this matter is a financial issue. If your recovery is of utmost importance, you should attack this problems from all angles. What will probably help you is a good psychologist but going to self-help groups can also be very beneficial. Stop the sabotaging yourself with assumptions like it's too late or that you cannot recover anymore. And even if you could not recover fully (whatever that means), wouldn't it still be a lot better to recover 75% than not at all? What is the other option? Being a porn fein for the rest of your life? If so, embrace it, it's gonna be a long ride 

I hope, it'll work out for you, don't give up. Being on the other side, I can tell you being PMO free is totally worth it!