wingman_444
Member
It's been a while since I've been on this site, but I'm feeling I need some more accountability at the moment.
I've struggled with PMO since early teens, 12 or 13 I'm not sure. I've had off and on success over the years, anywhere from a couple years PMO free to a week where I relapse 5 of the 7 days. It's been a very up and down journey.
As of now, its been about an hour and a half since my last relapse. The longest stretch I've gone in the last few years is almost a month. That was quite an achievement for me.
I'm really shooting for 100% PMO free, cold turkey, whatever. I don't want this in my life anymore. I'm married and I don't think it's fair to my wife, or to me, to have this dangling over my neck. She also doesn't know, and I would really like to get it under control before I inevitably get caught. I would really like her to find out on my terms.
That all being said, I'm not really sure how to attack this from where I currently am. I only struggle when she is either taking a nap or otherwise too busy to notice, or out of the house and I'm alone. Apart from the situation, I'm not really sure what my triggers are. Sometimes I'm home alone and I have no issues. Sometimes even just the thought of knowing she is going to be gone is enough of a trigger that I immediately relapse as soon as she leaves. I'm trying to record what happens when I relapse to see if I can find a pattern, but I'm not having much success in pinning it out at the moment.
Anyway, thanks to anyone who may read this, and I'm committing now to writing a short entry every day or every other day. Just as a way of expressing and organizing thoughts and hopefully keeping myself a little more accountable. Any advice from anyone is greatly appreciated.
I've struggled with PMO since early teens, 12 or 13 I'm not sure. I've had off and on success over the years, anywhere from a couple years PMO free to a week where I relapse 5 of the 7 days. It's been a very up and down journey.
As of now, its been about an hour and a half since my last relapse. The longest stretch I've gone in the last few years is almost a month. That was quite an achievement for me.
I'm really shooting for 100% PMO free, cold turkey, whatever. I don't want this in my life anymore. I'm married and I don't think it's fair to my wife, or to me, to have this dangling over my neck. She also doesn't know, and I would really like to get it under control before I inevitably get caught. I would really like her to find out on my terms.
That all being said, I'm not really sure how to attack this from where I currently am. I only struggle when she is either taking a nap or otherwise too busy to notice, or out of the house and I'm alone. Apart from the situation, I'm not really sure what my triggers are. Sometimes I'm home alone and I have no issues. Sometimes even just the thought of knowing she is going to be gone is enough of a trigger that I immediately relapse as soon as she leaves. I'm trying to record what happens when I relapse to see if I can find a pattern, but I'm not having much success in pinning it out at the moment.
Anyway, thanks to anyone who may read this, and I'm committing now to writing a short entry every day or every other day. Just as a way of expressing and organizing thoughts and hopefully keeping myself a little more accountable. Any advice from anyone is greatly appreciated.