My boyfriend lied to me three times before he realized how serious his addiction was. He wants to get help and is making an appointment with a therapist. He has never blamed it on me. However, he has previously said two hurtful statements on two separate occasions when I caught him (emotions were running high). One was "I'm not physically attracted to you. I'm only attracted to your mind." The other was, "If you took better care of yourself and worked out, you could look like this porn star, I wouldn't have a PA." He later said he didn't mean those things. I told myself that he didn't believe these statements, that it was the PA talking, and I led him to say those things by asking leading questions. It didn't make sense that he isn't physically attracted to me because he has no problems in bed and getting it up. In fact, sometimes, he finishes fast. Also, when he refrained from PMO for a bit, he seemed more interested in me and took initiative.
Yesterday, not sure how the topic came up, but I asked him, "If I look fit and you're more attracted to me, would you still have a PA?" He was playing video games when I asked him this, and he answered no. After he stopped playing video games, I asked him again, and he looked me in the eyes and repeatedly said, "If you were fit and I'm more attracted to you, I would not have a PA." He even said "You wanted the truth, right?" I got upset because I know this is not true, and I'm an attractive, fit-looking person. Eventually, I guess I convinced him to change his answer. He finally said, "if you were fit and I'm more attracted to you, I would still have a PA because it is a habit." I just don't know what to believe. I want to support him through his recovery because he seems willing and ready to work on it, but if he really is not physically attracted to me anymore, I don't think I should stay.
How do I know whether he truly isn't physically attracted to me or if his words have some truth to them?
Yesterday, not sure how the topic came up, but I asked him, "If I look fit and you're more attracted to me, would you still have a PA?" He was playing video games when I asked him this, and he answered no. After he stopped playing video games, I asked him again, and he looked me in the eyes and repeatedly said, "If you were fit and I'm more attracted to you, I would not have a PA." He even said "You wanted the truth, right?" I got upset because I know this is not true, and I'm an attractive, fit-looking person. Eventually, I guess I convinced him to change his answer. He finally said, "if you were fit and I'm more attracted to you, I would still have a PA because it is a habit." I just don't know what to believe. I want to support him through his recovery because he seems willing and ready to work on it, but if he really is not physically attracted to me anymore, I don't think I should stay.
How do I know whether he truly isn't physically attracted to me or if his words have some truth to them?