100 Days - Not Feeling Horny - No Morning Wood

I am 55 years old and have been using porn all of my adult life. Over the last 20 years I've not been in a relationship, some dating, but no actual sex. Part of the reason was I have always had performance anxiety in bed and it just got worse and on top of that the porn made it even worse. I know I am not alone with that.

I have been porn free for over 100 days! No PMO at all. But I'm not feeling horny or waking up with morning wood. I'm pretty healthy, I could lose a few pounds but I'm certainly not fat. I bicycle long as a workout but don't lift weights. About a year ago I went to a urologist and he checked my blood flow and said I had the blood flow of an 18 year old. I do Kiegels every day, 3 times a day of 10 reps.

I'm a young 55 year old and want women in my life and they are around. What can I do to feel horny and ready again? I plan on starting weight lifting, which I heard will help. I will be also posting in the over 40 group about this.

"I am 55 years old and have been using porn all of my adult life. Over the last 20 years I've not been in a relationship, some dating, but no actual sex." What you said here is the cause of your issues. Porn has rewired your brain to pixels, you must rewire it back to real life. I am in a similar position, only i'm 21 and never even touched a girl sexually, your previous experience should make for a quicker recovery once you start rewiring. Best of luck.

Hi there, perhaps you should be putting yourself in the position to meet women - have you thought about getting involved in some social activity?

I used to take my wife to dance lessons a few years ago and I was treated to dance with a whole range of other women in those partner swapping routines. Even as a devoted husband, the touch, the movement and the eye contact was... invigorating... Not to mention a perfect ice breaker as you tread on each others toes    There were quite a few singles who came to the lessons with the definite possibility of meeting someone tucked away ever so innocently in the back of their minds.

I can only imagine that would be the perfect way to get the right whiskers twitching, old tom.

Just a suggestion anyway... and damn fine job on 100 days by the way - that seems epic from where I'm sitting right now.

Thanks guys for the support. I actually have a date tomorrow night with a woman who I dated a little bit last year. I think that my porn habit was in the way, so I'll see how it goes now without the porn.

I did take a little bit of dance lessons a few years ago. It was fun and I could see the possibilities.