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LukeR

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The doubt
« on: January 12, 2018, 04:29:32 PM »
Hi everyone, this is my firts post in this community.

I chose that title because I'm not sure my problem is caused by porn, but I hope you can orientate me.
I'm a 25 yo man, and I'm a virgin. I've seen porn and I've masturbated since I was 13, several times a day. I never had sex before, not for lack of desire but for lack of opportunity (although I admit that I did not give much importance to it). I recently met a girl and fell in love with her, but the 2 times we tried to have sex I couldn't get an erection. She's beautiful and I really like her, but I just couldn't make it hard (the most I could achieve was a semi-erection that didn't last long). She is a bit insecure with her body and these experiences have hurted her (and me) and I don't want to make her go through the same thing again. I thought maybe masturbation is the problem, so I decided not to do it until we try again (I'm on day 2 no fap and is hard as f*ck).

Now, I'm not sure if my problem is porn related because I can have an erection without it, I mean just thinking of something that I find exciting. Maybe the problem is that I'm used to masturbating and being with another person becomes more difficult the older you get your first time. I really don't know if this is the right place for me, although I can relate to that need to see things more and more extreme, reaching really weird places. I am willing to do everything I can to solve this problem and be able to have a normal and happy relationship, whether that means stop watching porn or stop masturbating, or whatever it takes.

Well, that's the case ladies and gentlemen of the jury.
But seriously, I sincerely hope you can help me.

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Re: The doubt
« Reply #1 on: January 12, 2018, 06:41:41 PM »
Sounds like PIED and you sound like a porn addict. You are having hard time quitting and you are reaching really weird places as you say (escalation in taste).
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I'm on day 2 no fap and is hard as f*ck
You are addicted, you need to quit. There is no doubt about that.

You can get it up on your own because you are imagining something that you find exciting. Sometimes I can get it up on my own just by thinking about giving some girl a massage, especially during reboot when I enter a period of extra sensitivity to any sexual thoughts (period of strong cravings). Still I have PIED.
My Last Relapse - 18. January. 2018

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Re: The doubt
« Reply #2 on: January 12, 2018, 07:17:47 PM »
Im on nofap day 58 and will say your problem is porn man. Before I started my journey i could reach an erection and penetrate but 60% compared to now already. Kissing and any sort of affection with a woman, Im already hard do not feel any anxiety AT ALL. Im shocked by this! I experienced PIED too many times with new women and wish I could go back lol. Continue your nofap journey and reap those benefits!