Can I have sex during my reboot? My thoughts...

Maximus76

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I see so many people ask this question so I thought I'd write down my thoughts in a short article on my website. For sure this was a question I asked myself when I started my own reboot 2012 so I completely understand why rebooters worry about that. During the years I have learned a lot from personal experience as well as reading hundreds of other peoples expereinces so with that in mind I wrote down my thoughts...

..if interested the article can be found here: https://naturalhealthevolution.com/can-i-have-sex-during-my-reboot-is-it-ok-to-have-sex-with-girlfriend-during-reboot/
 

lfelipe

Active Member
maximus i see that you have experience and i?ve read your article and it is great!! so i want to ask you: i first realized that i had a problem in 2016 when i had a erectile dysfunction while i was having sex; my erection would come and go and it took me forever to ejaculate so i went on the internet and found this website that helped me!! i stopped masturbating to porn and in only 3 weeks i saw a big inprovement although sex and porn was always on my mind and in about a year i can say that i was performing normally again but i got to addimit i didn?t stop watching and masturbating to porn completelly but it was much less frequently than before and i had access to sex and i was able to have erections with my memory and imagination and my life had improved greatly personally and professionally!! but in the last week i stopped masturbating but unlike last time porn was not on mind as much because i believe i got more involved with my career and life but sex and beautiful women(real women) were so i stopped masturbating and 2 days ago my libido went down and now my penis shrunk and i can not get hard!! before a simple thought of a naked woman would get me hard!!although i still get the morning erections!! does that is part of the process? because now i?m getting less interested in porn and mastubation that i ever was and even though i have never truely stopped with porn and masturbation because like i said i was performing normally it seems that the reboot is only getting me now! is that it? what can you say about that?
 

Maximus76

Member
Probably just the flatline, which is normal when you stop the activity that your brain is getting its dopamin fixes from. Try not to have the mindset that you MUST have libido right now but instead just take one day at a time and keep going. There is no rush. You libido (your REAL libido) wil come back if you stop masturbating to porn.

All the best!

 

lfelipe

Active Member
thank you!! i asked because i have a relationship with this girl, we are not dating but it is a intimate relationship but she travels a lot and by the end of the month she will return and we usually have sex when she is in town and since now i got this lower libido but at the same time i been having sexy dreams and morning erections so i?m not sure what i should do and what is my situation exactly!
 

malando

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lfelipe said:
thank you!! i asked because i have a relationship with this girl, we are not dating but it is a intimate relationship but she travels a lot and by the end of the month she will return and we usually have sex when she is in town and since now i got this lower libido but at the same time i been having sexy dreams and morning erections so i?m not sure what i should do and what is my situation exactly!
Stop worrying about everything! Wait till you see your girlfriend, see how it goes. In the meantime, don't relapse. It's that simple. Thinking about this all the time is only going to create problems. You state of arousal now has nothing to do with what will happen when you are with your girlfriend. It's a waste of time and energy even trying to predict this. The only thing you can know now is that porn is not an option. Don't keep testing your penis and checking for arousal. That's anxiety at work. Don't feed it by constantly checking on it. Keep busy and look forward to seeing your girlfriend.
 

lfelipe

Active Member
thank you malando actually i?m not testing my erection!! i don?t touch him at all since last week!  i?m just trying to pay attentions to the sighs that it gives me; i don?t want to look at porn, my only consern is that when she gets here i won?t be able to perform and she will have to leave unsatisfied and me too!! i?m very focus on getting real sex and real relationships now; whatever comes first!! i don?t feel the need to watch porn!! i don?t care about porn anymore!!!my energy is not down, in fact overall i feel much better, i?m only a little anxious regarding that situation with that girl!!and during the last month my porn used went down and last week it stopped and this fase began!! i think that is what trigged this flatline;
 

Maximus76

Member
Keep having sex, don't look at porn, avoid masturbating and try not to worry about it! Also take a look at this blog post: https://naturalhealthevolution.com/flatline-nofap-reboot-supplements-for-ed-during-pmo-reboot/
 
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