Your thoughts please!

Kevin1960

New Member
I have a unique issue (isn?t it funny how everyone sees their own issues as unique?)
I?m 60 years old, happily married, and am in pretty good health though I could stand to lose a few pounds.  I exercise regularly and I don?t eat a lot of junky food.
My issue is the following.  I am a long time porn watcher and I want to quit for the following reasons:  I?m convinced that I?m suffering from PIED as I can ejaculate to porn but must use Cialis to maintain an erection during intercourse; I know that most of the women who perform in porn are being exploited, and at the very least are doing it because they feel they have to (for a host of different reasons), not because they want to; 
My situation is this; though I?m happily married, I?m married to a woman that really isn?t interested in sex, and never has been.  I feel that she has sex with me more out of a feeling of obligation rather than because she desires it, or  if we haven?t had intercourse for a long time say two or three months, then she may get horny and want to do it, but won?t want to do it again for another couple of months.  We have intercourse about 12 times a year.  I have long ago accepted that she and I have different sex drives, and I?ve adjusted pretty well as a result. 
I?m trying to reboot from watching and masturbating to porn.  I haven?t watched M to porn since June 28th and haven?t watched any porn since July 24th.  Hopefully I?ll beat this and won?t ever have a desire for porn again.
My questions are:  I know I?m going to get horny and have an urge to M.  Is it o.k. to M without P?  How else can I satisfy my urges?  I don?t want to peek at P but I must admit that I?ve been tempted to a few times.  Given my circumstances (i.e. age, marital status) how long will it be before my brain is rebooted and I?m hopefully cured of my PIED?
I?ve read that it is good for males to ejaculate regularly as it lowers their chances of getting some kinds of cancers and is supposedly generally good for overall health.  Any comments or tips would be greatly appreciated.
 

Fappy

Respected Member
Hi friend,
welcome to the site!
Masturbating without porn is fine if its within the parameters of your reboot. that is to say, if you are going "hard mode" then masturbation is out all toegther, but if youre simply trying to quit porn then theres nothing wrong with a wank every now and again. just remember not to use ANY visual stimuli, artificial stimuli at all for that matter. even if its not porn.
as for the sex drive thing, perhaps bring it up with your wife. she is your wife after all, and as such it is her duty to sexually satisfy you. an open, mature conversation could solve that problem.
 
Top