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Re: Yes I Can!
« Reply #525 on: August 02, 2017, 01:12:52 PM »
Sure miss the counter app.

If you think it helps. Put it back on...

Or what I did for a while was have it only on my page 1 of my journal, but whatever works.

Blessings.
I am a man under grace not law.

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« Reply #526 on: August 02, 2017, 08:22:02 PM »
Bob!  Sure do miss your posts!  You can do this!

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« Reply #527 on: August 05, 2017, 10:13:24 AM »
Thanks Gracie, I appreciate your thoughts.

Aug 2, 2017 I begin again.

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« Reply #528 on: August 05, 2017, 10:20:57 AM »
Saturday morning and I have a long trip ahead of me. It doesn't help that the reason is the personal health of a loved one. The stress plays havoc on my obsession. 

Being on the road has always presented triggers. Driving by places that I shouldn't go. Thinking of things that take me away from my goal of strength in abstinence, being at peace with myself, and the bond and relationship with my wife. I have so much to accomplish and this behavior gets in the way.

At least I will not be alone with my travels. My wife will be going with me so that takes the "opportunities" away. I inwardly longed to be by myself but that is the kiss of death. It will set my journey back further than the three days of abstinence.

Lots on my mind and this provided a place to vent.

Peace

Aug 2, 2017 I begin again.

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« Reply #529 on: August 12, 2017, 01:28:55 PM »
Afternoon folks,

I am currently sitting at 10 days on a return journey to the bright side. I have been here before.

It was a challenge then. It is a challenge now. But, I am writing to profess this road can be traveled more than once. If you don't make it, you begin again. You  continue to work at it until you arrive.

Multiple attempts are not desired. Once and done would be great. However, for whatever reason, I was not able to stay away from the pull of porn. I suspect the reasons are many but that's irrelevant. It doesn't matter how many times one makes this journey; just that you continue until the goal is accomplished.

For folks starting out, realize it can be a challenge. We are all human. We screw up. We can fail in obtaining our desired goals. But, if you persist, you can beat this demon. Never give up. Begin again and learn what caused the detour. Investigate the reasons you didn't make it. Work to correct the pitfalls.

Don't beat yourself up. Learn from your mistakes. Just get back on the horse.

Peace
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« Reply #530 on: August 13, 2017, 05:59:02 PM »
Good evening folks,

This is a post that I made quite a while ago. I had to search back through my Journal to find it again. I wanted to revisit it as I felt like it provided some understanding on my reasons for working towards of life free of pmo.

Reasons to take on a PMO, MO free life
  • Brings me closer to my wife.
  • Stay in the moment (no need to sneaking away).
  • Sex is more intense.
  • Enjoy my time making love, (no quick, "I have to O").
  • ‚ÄúSure you can use my computer", (No hidden stash).
  • All people deserve respect; Porn is not victim-less.
  • Free porn is not free. No need to line the pockets of people who exploit others.
  • More time available, ("where did the time go"?)
  • Eliminate DE and PIED issues.
  • Waking up with an intense hard on.
  • Pleasant sexual response around attractive females.
  • Increase sense of confidence.
  • Perception that I am more desirable to others.
  • I am in control.
Positive thoughts to all who are working through this process.

Peace
Aug 2, 2017 I begin again.

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« Reply #531 on: August 14, 2017, 03:13:17 PM »
Wow! Those are all good reasons, brother- and inspiring, too!

I am a man under grace not law.

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« Reply #532 on: August 16, 2017, 07:12:58 PM »
Hey folks,

Last weekend, I had a long road trip that would typically been an extreme  challenge. The isolation, places along the road that "draw me in" and time to sit and fantasize, they all contribute to a potential binge. However, that didn't happen. Something I read on RN "clicked" and allowed me to think of things in a different way. Not sure I understand it. I tried to find it again but couldn't. No matter. I traveled for 600 miles and did so without incident.

I started out and I wasn't sure it would be possible.

So...the goal isn't 30, 90, or 120 days free. It is a new lifestyle.

Peace
Aug 2, 2017 I begin again.

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« Reply #533 on: August 17, 2017, 10:11:43 PM »
Evening,

Just received my copy of Your Brain on Porn today. While I am well aware of the mission behind RN and the YBOP website, I must say the book was a wonderful read. Yes, I am 3/4 of the way through and I plan to continue, then read again.

The process feels right. I am moving forward.

Peace
Aug 2, 2017 I begin again.

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« Reply #534 on: August 18, 2017, 06:33:35 AM »
Good job, Bob!  I hope you succeed this time, because you know you can do this!  It is time to be the new and improved Bob! Go Bob go!

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« Reply #535 on: August 18, 2017, 07:50:11 PM »
Bob,

Can you list one to three things that are important to you that you can work on to improving, things that you have to study or practice at your on time, things that you can then reapply, like skills or abilities, which you can later assess that improvement has indeed happened?
Self Worth, Self Respect, Self Love
Purpose before Person

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« Reply #536 on: September 29, 2017, 07:15:45 AM »
Greetings,

Coming up on 60 days in an extremely long process. And while the number of days is irrelevant, I continue to make progress. I want to remind everyone to never give up. You must learn from your mistakes, your decisions, your actions. You can become a new person. That is what is required.

I don't visit RN as often as I once did but I will check in every once in a while.

I hope all the best for everyone who is present.

Peace
Aug 2, 2017 I begin again.

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« Reply #537 on: September 30, 2017, 06:30:14 AM »
Bob,  keep up the hard work!   You are doing great!

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« Reply #538 on: September 30, 2017, 05:01:14 PM »
Hey Bob! It's been a long time between drinks brother. Thanks for the update my friend and please keep coming back. Thinking of you. PORN IS NOT AN OPTION.

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« Reply #539 on: October 10, 2017, 09:18:50 PM »
Thanks folks.

Be struggling lately. Need to realize this is for the long haul. Not some score of points or days. Its a lifestyle change and change has always been difficult.

Peace folks, stay strong.
Aug 2, 2017 I begin again.

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« Reply #540 on: October 10, 2017, 11:50:21 PM »
Thank you for posting Bob. Questions:

1. How have you been struggling?
2. Where are you currently in your reboot?
3. How are things with your wife/partner?

I'm asking these questions because I found that the more I shared about my state of mind and the state of my recovery, the less shame I felt. And the less shame I felt, the less I wanted to PMO. And brother believe me when I write that I shared EVERYTHING here. I look forward to reading your next update. Be well my friend. PORN IS NOT AN OPTION.