no0dle
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I'm a 31yo male. My 5 year relationship ended a couple of months ago and I can only guess it is because of the lack of intimacy due to watching P. It's only today that I've realised just how much it affected my relationship. I thought I just wasn't into her, and well perhaps I wasn't 100% into her but compared to what I was like in my youth that shouldn't have been an issue.
I had my first invite over for a netflix date last night and it was the weirdest experience. I was able to get up initially when mucking around but went down shortly after. I've been on and off chasing this girl for months. I'm gutted. I don't know if I'll get another chance. It's especially difficult as my last partner gave me the gift that keeps on giving and the shame I feel from that is compounded by my P use.. they feed off each other.
P has always been my go to. When I was younger I was very depressed and often considered suicide. P was the go to that stopped me from following through many, many times. It's hard to want to end it when you get that rush after the PMO. After being r***ed at 18 my P tastes changed dramatically and so did the associated behaviours that came with it. Over the years I have watched Everything. I'm ashamed. I'm embarrassed. I'm scared.
I don't really know how this is going to go but I know it's going to be difficult. I tried to stop about a month ago and managed 5 days before I lost. It was incredibly hard. I was so fired up after 4 days that I felt like I could or would do socially unacceptable things just to get the rush. It was like after those few days my brain was ready to dump all the endorphins ever onto me and all it wanted me to do was touch someone or something. My drive went through the roof in those 4 days and I didn't know how to handle it.. on the 5th I caved.
I've been using P and P-subs since I was 12 years old. I think this has been a problem for me a lot longer than I have had any inkling of. I've only even considered it might be an issue for <12 months.
I have no idea how I'm going to get through this. I need to do this. I'm scared.
I had my first invite over for a netflix date last night and it was the weirdest experience. I was able to get up initially when mucking around but went down shortly after. I've been on and off chasing this girl for months. I'm gutted. I don't know if I'll get another chance. It's especially difficult as my last partner gave me the gift that keeps on giving and the shame I feel from that is compounded by my P use.. they feed off each other.
P has always been my go to. When I was younger I was very depressed and often considered suicide. P was the go to that stopped me from following through many, many times. It's hard to want to end it when you get that rush after the PMO. After being r***ed at 18 my P tastes changed dramatically and so did the associated behaviours that came with it. Over the years I have watched Everything. I'm ashamed. I'm embarrassed. I'm scared.
I don't really know how this is going to go but I know it's going to be difficult. I tried to stop about a month ago and managed 5 days before I lost. It was incredibly hard. I was so fired up after 4 days that I felt like I could or would do socially unacceptable things just to get the rush. It was like after those few days my brain was ready to dump all the endorphins ever onto me and all it wanted me to do was touch someone or something. My drive went through the roof in those 4 days and I didn't know how to handle it.. on the 5th I caved.
I've been using P and P-subs since I was 12 years old. I think this has been a problem for me a lot longer than I have had any inkling of. I've only even considered it might be an issue for <12 months.
I have no idea how I'm going to get through this. I need to do this. I'm scared.