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Hi Madfranc,

It's good to see you here and admitting to your battle with pornography. You've managed to erase some of the problems but never entirely removed it from the root. You can't control pornography which makes it the same as a quiting alcoholic with a full liquor closet. Doing these things alone is incredibly difficult and most likely won't succeed as you've noticed. I hope you've been now a couple days without a relapse and your journey is going well!

I will be honest, it's up to you what you do with it.

I believe strongly you should tell your wife. She deserves to know that. You describe she's incredible and that you're happily married, yet you know it's seriously upsetting to her. It's very conflicting because on one hand you love her (I hope) and on the other hand you continue in this behaviour. I was in that same position and all the lying made it only worse. I'm now a month in and fighting for our marriage. It will come out sooner or later, she will find out.

Own your mistakes, involve her and other people in your struggle, break free from pornography use forever.

I truly hope you'll think about this, she really deserves it.