Karezza

Since finding YBOP I was introduced to this new approach of love making, sounds very therapuetic and definitely a way to renew a couples bond.  Not a thrill seeking question, but has this technique helped any stale  relationships like touted after a Porn recovery?  I thinkj I'd love the opportusnity to exercise this with my wife.  I have told her of my PMO affliction and told her I'd joined a support group herre,  even planted the seed of karezza to her.  Any success or horrid stories of this technique that would persuade me to promote or just squash the idea?  Again, not seeking anything anyone considers too personal.  I feel so much better being able to voice this stuff outloud finally, getting out of the dark.

My wife and I haven't tried karezza per se, but for the past few months or so I have been experimenting with not allowing myself to have an orgasm at the end of sexual encounters with my wife. To be more specific, I have no more than one orgasm per week, which usually means that we have 1-2 sexual encounters each week that don't end with me having an orgasm and 1 encounter that does end with me having an orgasm.

I have found this scheme to be very beneficial for my erectile functioning and my overall sexual interest in my wife. The more time that has passed since my orgasm, the easier it is for me to get and maintain an erection for sex, and the more excited I am to be sexual. Conversely, in the day or two after an orgasm, it's more difficult for me to get an erection and I don't have much interest in sex.

Plus, when I have sex while knowing that I will not be having an O, it frees me up to focus more on my wife and to focus on the pleasure of the entire experience, rather than just focusing on the end goal of ejaculating.

We have been doing karezza for about 3 weeks now. It does help things and works really well with bringing us closer. There are aspects of it that we are still figuring out so don't expect it to work right away. It takes awhile to retrain your mind to a new way of making love and your body to a new way of expressing it. By the way things are going for us it will probaly take a few months to realy get comfortable with it to the point where we won't even think about having to slow things down. The only negatives are that you become more sensitive and can go to far. Also last night we fell asleep with me on top and I woke up to a leg so cramped that my knee wouldn't bend and he had a lovely pond of my drool on his chest lol.

Rainiegirl, thanks, a woman's feeling for it is the main thing I'm wanting.  I feel relatively certain I'd love it, being close to her, exploring all of her wonder without the rush to finalize anything. I found the right moment to tell her of about rebooting and the thought of Karezza, she smiled a little but I don't know if she's too enthused, woe is me!   But I'm trying to change and make things more centered around her feelings than mine.  Took 60+ years, it's about time eh?   Thank you for your reply.

My wife and I have enjoyed several evenings of karezza. Each time has been very bonding and refreshing and instilled a new way of looking at physical intimacy.

However, we are both in our 50's and quite attached to our orgasms so karezza is not always part of our lovemaking. I am more interested in it than my wife, I am fully aware how too many orgasms can leave me mentally, emotionally and physically depleted.

Have fun with it.

Thanks fcjl8 for your evaluation, I can see where the man might enjoy the practice more.  The part of it explaining how an orgasm is so final is so correct, I think I'd like to stay in that aroused stage rather a brief release.  I'm retired and my wife stills wants to work and she is too tired at night to think about anything much less karezza! I hope someday we take a shot at it.  Thanks again