VaughanBirbeck
Member
I'm not boasting here, I just want to be able to say how grateful I am to be clean and how much my life has improved over the past few months. I was in a very bad place, deceiving my wife, ruining our relationship and destroying our intimate life. I would have been happy if she'd left me and I could have been left alone with my laptop.
Since the new year I have been using a combination of hypnotherapy sessions, mindfulness and other meditation to keep from relapsing. Now my wife and I go places together, enjoy each other's company, and have even revived our intimate life, slowly but surely, and I feel very lucky indeed. I see now how using porn actually made me ill, I was not my true self at all.
I have found mindfulness meditation a very important tool in learning to become aware of my feelings and the triggers that lead to me using. I can tell myself these are just feelings, and it's OK to have them and not to like them. They are just there at that place and at that time, and I can explore them without fear or hating myself.
Another tool I have just learned about is 'interoceptive awareness' which takes things a step further than mindfulness. It's quite new but already looks promising in the treatment of addiction and preventing relapse. If you want to know more, look here - https://www.frontiersin.org/articles/10.3389/fpsyg.2018.00798/full - it's not an easy read, but well worth a look.
Good luck to you all.
Since the new year I have been using a combination of hypnotherapy sessions, mindfulness and other meditation to keep from relapsing. Now my wife and I go places together, enjoy each other's company, and have even revived our intimate life, slowly but surely, and I feel very lucky indeed. I see now how using porn actually made me ill, I was not my true self at all.
I have found mindfulness meditation a very important tool in learning to become aware of my feelings and the triggers that lead to me using. I can tell myself these are just feelings, and it's OK to have them and not to like them. They are just there at that place and at that time, and I can explore them without fear or hating myself.
Another tool I have just learned about is 'interoceptive awareness' which takes things a step further than mindfulness. It's quite new but already looks promising in the treatment of addiction and preventing relapse. If you want to know more, look here - https://www.frontiersin.org/articles/10.3389/fpsyg.2018.00798/full - it's not an easy read, but well worth a look.
Good luck to you all.