olafthewise
Active Member
Ok review of me;
Married 30+ kids 5+...was unemployed 2009 to 2017. Welfare income took care of special needs kids. Wife worked.
my porn habit was playboy mostly from dads mags as a teen to about 17 when I bought my own for years. Upon meeting wife, got off porn for short time. Started porn again when I was about 27 or so after losing career job and it was playboy again. then internet porn from '95 through 2015. Long time.
I never said to myself, "I am a porn addict" for awhile. I mostly blamed my wife's lack of sexual desire for my PMO. Loss of job in 2009 exacerbated PMO and internet put porn on my phone. I told my wife a little but she had no idea of the magnitude of my habit.
I was a wreck by 2015. I wanted out. This web site gave me insight and a plan. In 2015 I saw my chance/ability to cut my porn use about 90%! So I dabbled in it for the next 2 years. during those 2 years I started living again. I actually started to see the possibility to get rid of porn for good. I went days without it and I was ok with that.
So in 2016 and 17, in the midst of free training for a possible new job, I made the decision to be honest with myself and stop the dabbling and stop viewing porn 100%. As of Nov 2017 I have been porn free.
However, I warn you all. It is too late for me. I am free but the damage is done. That job did not work out. In fact, my present job pays $14/hr! I do it because I need to do something!
All that time over the years, I could have done more with a career, school, training, etc. Now I'm 56 and its all too late. Maxed out on student debt and barely paying bills.
Wife found new hormonal cream online that is applied to skin in two normal places before bed and her sex desire and emotional health is much better.
But I am still suffering consequences of years of wasted time.
I enjoy the desire to NOT view porn but guilt of my past overwelms me. I cannot get those years back!
please take my warning serious.
Married 30+ kids 5+...was unemployed 2009 to 2017. Welfare income took care of special needs kids. Wife worked.
my porn habit was playboy mostly from dads mags as a teen to about 17 when I bought my own for years. Upon meeting wife, got off porn for short time. Started porn again when I was about 27 or so after losing career job and it was playboy again. then internet porn from '95 through 2015. Long time.
I never said to myself, "I am a porn addict" for awhile. I mostly blamed my wife's lack of sexual desire for my PMO. Loss of job in 2009 exacerbated PMO and internet put porn on my phone. I told my wife a little but she had no idea of the magnitude of my habit.
I was a wreck by 2015. I wanted out. This web site gave me insight and a plan. In 2015 I saw my chance/ability to cut my porn use about 90%! So I dabbled in it for the next 2 years. during those 2 years I started living again. I actually started to see the possibility to get rid of porn for good. I went days without it and I was ok with that.
So in 2016 and 17, in the midst of free training for a possible new job, I made the decision to be honest with myself and stop the dabbling and stop viewing porn 100%. As of Nov 2017 I have been porn free.
However, I warn you all. It is too late for me. I am free but the damage is done. That job did not work out. In fact, my present job pays $14/hr! I do it because I need to do something!
All that time over the years, I could have done more with a career, school, training, etc. Now I'm 56 and its all too late. Maxed out on student debt and barely paying bills.
Wife found new hormonal cream online that is applied to skin in two normal places before bed and her sex desire and emotional health is much better.
But I am still suffering consequences of years of wasted time.
I enjoy the desire to NOT view porn but guilt of my past overwelms me. I cannot get those years back!
please take my warning serious.